Why does my husband do this?

[Anonymous]

My husband is 8 years older than me. We dont have sex that often we can't. We live at home with my parents right now working on getting back on our feet to move back out on our own. I don't get why my husband looks at pictures of teenagers on Instagram, Tumbler, any sociAl media. He literally will search hot teens , very hot teens, etc. I get when he would be looking on porn sites and watches sister gets laid by brother or dad bangs step daughter. It's the old young fantasy shit, I dont like it but they are actors, we have had this argument before when I've found photos from site like Instagram and such saved on his phone so he could masturbate to them. I dont like it. It makes me very uncomfortable. We have two girls of our own and it makes me wonder when they become of age when they bring friends home can I trust that he won't be fantasizing about their friends or if we ever did get a teenage babysitter could I ever trust him? No i couldn't. It makes me feel like a worthless piece of fat ass shit and he could care less. He tells me I'm pretty (barely) but this just confirms to me that what he really wants is not a 29 year old lazy piece of fat messed up vagina shit like me. And I'm in the wrong for looking at his phone and snooping and seeing what he was searching for. Now I've just started to ramble. I'm sorry. I'm just done with life right Now.

[quakka]

I must say that any man that looks at underage adult females had some very discussing moral values that needs to be put in check. plus having pictures of minors provocitive ones at that is illegal.

imagine what your parents would think if they found out I can imagine what it's making you think on a personal level and a discustive level which would detriment your sense of self as his women.

this is a very unhealthy behavior for your relationship and the insults just makes it so much worse.

if I was in your shoes I would ask him to stop the bad behavior if he wants your relationship to work.

in my opinion though if I was in your shoes I would be finding a divorce attorney and get the paperwork started.

[Anonymous]

It's disrespectful to not care that what he's doing hurts you and to be so blatant and unrepentant about it on top of that. That blurb was hard to read—sorry you're dealing with this. I'm not often one to recommend ultimatums, but you've got to look out for your own happiness and self worth. Tell him you need him to take you seriously. List out your issues. Use sentences that say, "When you _____, it makes me feel _____." Avoid always or never. Stick to the facts. If he continues not to care that he's hurting you… think about cutting him out of your life.

[Anonymous]

Definitely don't let him be around your kids friends if you feel this way, I totally understand what you are saying

[AaronTupaz]

Well first if you're unhappy with your physical body, then do something about it. Improve your diet and start working out. Now as for your husband, men need variety and it's natural for us to be attracted to youth. You should just be happy he's masturbating about other women he does not know rather than sleeping with them. Think of sexual attraction for men like food. We can't just eat the same food over and over again even if it's one of our favourites.

[EmptyVoid]

It depends on how young those teens are. If they are 18 or something it's normal. Most men are wired to find youthful women attractive. If those teens are underage looking kid then he might be a pedophile.

At the end of the day, if he truly loves you and cares for you that's what matters most. If you are not very satisfied with your body you can try to make a little changes to it.

[QueenofCups]

You need a good divorce lawyer.

[Intraluminal]

I have NO Idea why you're calling yourself all those negative names, which I will not repeat, but he's the sicky, not you.

[Anonymous]

well I don't know if he would cheat on you or not but thinking about something that hasn't happened yet and worrying about it won't make it better. for know just stay quite work on yourself make yourself feel Better and stop snooping into his insta.