How can I stop feeling attracted to my boyfriend's dad?

Question

My boyfriend's dad clearly finds me attractive, he's made a few comments and he'll say flirtatious things. I guess it kind of flatters me because I think he's a nice looking man, he's got the same dark eyes as his sons, the same thick hair, except he's a little grey. But I'm 18 and he's 48!

My boyfriend has problems. He'll get angry, we'll argue and I'll get upset. When these outbursts also effect his mum and dad, his dad will give me a ride home. But last time we took a drive somewhere to talk about stuff.

We were having a nice time and he was cheering me up. He was telling me how his wife never wants to go out and do things together anymore, like they did when they were young. He said his sons cause trouble and he doesn't know why they've turned out like this.

He made multiple comments that day, he said I make him feel young, he really enjoys my company, he also asked me how old I was with my ex boyfriend (first boyfriend) I told him I was 16, and he went on to talk about how he never had no interest in girls when he was a teen. I said I didn't have interest in boys until I was about 16, and he said "not till the hormones started kicking in ay?"
he also made a joke about how he'll go home and tell his son that me and him had a lovely day out and that we went to the beach and I stripped down to just my underwear and romantically threw sand at him. He laughed and asked me what I think he'd say to that, I joked he'd probably punch him.

He likes being around me because he said my company is a lot nicer than being around the usual drama, and asked if I want to come down to the family farm when his wife goes camping with her friends

i know people will say "no it's a bad idea he'll try something with you", but I think he's got more respect than that, he seems pretty lonely and his family are all wrapped up in their own stuff, and I think he just enjoys actually spending time with someone.

But how can I stop finding him attractive?

xMiaxBuerx · Accepted Answer

I've gone through exactly the same when I was 16 and it didn't end well either for me nor my boyfriend's family. I've always had a thing for older men, they just know exactly how to treat women and for some reason, that has always been a big turn on for me. My bf's dad was in his late 40s, rugged, tatted and a match to every girl's wet fantasy. I was shy around him, very shy that I couldn't even look at him when he's around. At the time, he and his wife had a bit of a feud which really encouraged me to start talking to him. We'd often find ourselves involved in long conversations about random things until my boyfriend snaps. But we both knew what we wanted, behind all those friendly/fatherly smiles, there was a lot more. We kept teasing and the tension grew bigger, sooner or later we knew we were going to fuck. As soon as I broke up with my boyfriend, he saw me one day downtown and begged me to give me a ride, yep he gave me one hell of a ride. :) It kept going for at least 4months before I realized that he was back with his wife and actually cheating, I never felt more disgusted with myself and the worst part was, both my ex-boyfriend and his mother caught us red handed. Congratulations to me because I fucking ruined an entire family and there's nothing that could erase that mistake from my fucking consciousness. If you're ready to live with that awful guilt, go ahead... by all means but if you're not, please step back and let his fantasy of fucking a nifty teenager fade.

CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

No judgments here, since you asked this question and because of the way you asked it, I'm pretty sure you know that whatever happening is really wrong.

And you're absolutely right, it's wrong to do that while he's your boyfriend's father!

Men in old age sometimes feel temporary attractions for young women, especially when their own wives lose their youth. He will make you feel good now, but you'll regret it forever.

Talk to your bf's dad and tell him that you don't feel it right and he should stop taking to you. Only be with your boyfriend's of you think you really love him. If not, so ruining his life and break up already. Don't keep him betrayed.

Honestly i don't need to give u advice. You asked this question and I could tell that you yourself know the answer too. Go ahead, do it.

Paris13 · Accepted Answer

This is your Honey no Funny Boyfriend's dad and it is a Bad... Sticky Situation Here, dear. The Writing is on the Wall and All that if you Continue down this Path, it will get Bad, and no Matter the Age Gap, you will somehow end up in his Lap.
Stay Clear, dear, for awhile by not Going over. I feel it is Best from the Rest, until the dust settles down.
I saw a show the other nite where it was based on a True story of an Older guy and his babysitter. He was married but ended up having an affair with the Sitter for a few years and later, was Convicted of Disposing of his Dead wife's body because she was Going to Get him for Rape and then Some, hun.
Just goes to show you that Things like this never Ends well, I can always Tell.
No more joking around Here, dear. Let me be Clear.
Good Luck. xx

springocelot · Accepted Answer

stay away from him

you're just attracted to him because physically, he's an older version of your boyfriend that treats you better. i think the dad senses that and is up for taking advantage of it given his own situation. like someone else said, guys will do anything for sex when desperate enough.

so i'd stay away and just try working things out with your boyfriend
otherwise, i see this turning into a taboo erotica

Djaaay · Accepted Answer

Don't listen to all these negative and tantalizing opinions from others. My new wife was 18 , when we both were engaged. Now both together happily married. She's on my profile. Age has nothing to do with the connection two people feel for each other. Others , for some strange reason, always have something limited to oppose to or to be obstructionist when two people genuinely love each other. Always like to wedge in the middle , just to demonize your position , and act like your crazy or insane, just because they mentally can't imagine or connect like you do. Go for it and I hope you take advantage of a good thing. 😊

Browneye57 · Accepted Answer

Egads. DON'T DO THIS. It will not end well - I promise you that!

You're soon going to find men will say and do ANYTHING to get in your pants. Don't go along with this bullshit. HE'S MARRIED - leave him with that. He needs to discuss all of his his whiny bullshit with his wife. NOT YOU!

PeterCh · Answer

This is creepy af man. I did not find the "joke" even remotely funny, this whole thing has left me disturbed. It's not the age difference, it's more the fact that you are IN A FREAKING RELATIONSHIP, I mean if you looking for something else you can just break up. But he is even worse. Being lonely and his family giving him a hard time is no excuse.

Alex31 · Answer

This is sooo sooo sooo wrooooong you'll regret it all your life just stop communication with him please do yourself a favor!

heather4N0w · Answer

LMAO! If you think a 48 year old man will invite you to his family farm alone and not try something with you then you are dreaming!!!
And if his wife finds out that his even talking to you the way he is she will mess both of you up!!! a lot of men want to feel young again by being with a younger girl but truth is his not young his 48 and not getting younger...

Gianna17 · Answer

48 year old men do not go to 18 year olds because they "feel lonely" he wants sex. That's it. You need to remove yourself from this family. He's emotionally manipulating you. No respectable adult man would make those comments to a young lady, especially his own son's girlfriend.

ausername88 · Answer

I think you should work on your relationship with your boyfriend and you should hang out with his mom and go have a girls day and encourage her to go on dates and spice up her marriage be supportive and ask questions about how come they aren't like they used to be

Cloudy25 · Answer

Ew..

godfatherfan · Answer

sometimes you can't. I met my ex wife when her sister was 13. All of a sudden years later she is a young woman and absolutely gorgeous. I have been in lust with her the last 20 years. But it isn't like anything could ever happen. Even if she was willing, which she would never be, I would never destroy my family or hers with such nonsense.

That1tallguy · Answer

he has a really fucked up dad wheater you won't escalate or not I think you should talking to him completely. unless his wife or son is around because he's just going to keep on coming on to you if you dont end it. Don't even put yourself in that position if something ever happens you fucked up they're whole family because you were horney.

maybe the only way to stop being attracted to him is to remind your self he's a piece of shit for hitting on his own sons girlfriend.

damnwinter · Answer

I guess you may be looking for someone more mature than your boyfriend, and not necessarily his father. But he just happens to ''fit the profile'' and you often see the 2 of them together, which makes the comparison easier.

Whatthefluff · Answer

That's fucked up. TBH, and you're not going to like this, but maybe you should cut all ties with your boyfriend and his family.

Intraluminal · Answer

Easy, just imagine the shit storm that would erupt if anything ever did happen in a moment of weakness.

275153 · Answer

You can't control a feeling. You can control what you do about your feelings. Personally, I think the guy is trash, but that's just my opinion.

Deadwalker189 · Answer

Don't listen to the negative people. I think that he just finds you very nice and you make him feel good, hang out with him if you truly want to, and if he ends up just trying something with you then you'll know not to mess with him anymore.

jpick00 · Answer

Avoid his dad. Or don't talk to him much when he asks you questions. Just be on ur phone.

BobbyC65 · Answer

Give in to your feeling and have sex with the father it sound like he's attracted to you. So go some where nice and nobody finds out and sleep and have sex with him.

Regular1 · Answer

I think you should go for it. You are young and in the prime of your life to experiment. You should have an affair with your boyfriend's dad. It will probably last longer than you will stay with your boyfriend anyway.

littledoll95 · Answer

just do it!!! what are you waiting for?

Midget_Hug · Answer

Yes.

RD196 · Answer

He is attracted to you n may be in love with you. he thinks you like him. too that way.. si make up your mjnd who do you want from. the father son duo.. it might get complicated n u might end up loosing both