So I've slept with over 30+ guys, am I too easy?

Title says it all, unfortunately some have been married. However it was in my past. I've never had a serious relationship. Ever Im 30 now and finding hard to find someone to take me seriously and not expect just sex on the first night, which is what im used too. Is it because i am too easy?
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  • First, you should never call yourself easy, even if there's a new man every night inside you. Do NOT judge yourself like this.

    I am disgusted by some comments. Like when men have had many partners, they take pride in it, and can't stop showing it off but they are never called "easy" for being sexually active human beings like you. It's fucking 2017 people get over your sexist mentalities. It's so shameful.

    What you did wrong was sleeping with other women's men. The number is not wrong. There is no right or wrong number of partners. It is YOUR body. YOUR sexuality. YOUR womanhood. So DO NOT let anyone's opinion of your sex life make you feel like you are less of a woman. Their taking you seriously or not depends on your character, not the number of your past partners, (that they don't need to know because that's within the framework of your private life)

    Keep your head up, work on bettering your personality, and enjoy life. Unless there is a man out there keeping himself for you or minimizing his partners before you, don't give a fuck about anyone and do whatever makes you happy.

    • Women are impressed and attracted to a man with a high Conquest number. Men, however, are disgusted by a woman with a high cock count. That's just the way it is

    • no i am not impressed by men with a high "conquest" number... sorry to disappoint you @Regular1

    • @SteppingOnRoses -- Yes you are. You're just parroting what you think you're supposed to say.

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  • We as humans have a tendency to judge people based on their past. That's something you will have to make a conscious effort to overcome.

    If you truly are no longer the same person who used to jump in bed with guys on the first night, if you truly have changed, then I don't see any reason why you should be obligated to disclose your sexual right away. Let someone get to know you, and judge you for who you are in the present, before you share those intimate details. (Of course, sexual health information relating to STDs etc. is a different story. You must be honest about those topics as soon as they become relevant.)

    • *to disclose your sexual history right away*

  • Unfortunately yes, that is the reason :/

    You developed patterns towards relationships and sex that are casual

    hard to reverse them. but if you are commited to it, then you should try.

    however... make sure your guy is open minded enough to accept a sexual past of 30 plus guys...

    • I should add... 30 plus is a lot... same way to me 30 plus is a lot for a man... so im not judging you any differenty than i would a man. just saying... but the part that bothers me the most is that you did not exclude married men from your list.

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  • You having slept with that many guys doesn't bother me at all. That's not even that many! 2-3 new guys each year. That's not a big deal at all. What all these people are doing is called slut shaming. They think you're value decreases every time you have sex. That's not true. If someone sleeps around, they might not have a lot of value to a person that wants a serious relationship at the time, but if they then stop sleeping around and start looking for a serious relationship also, they are at an equal footing again in therms of finding a relationship. All the guys you've slept with doesn't count towards some score that gets lower and lower. But I find that most people think so, at least over half of people, but I also find that over half of people are very unkind and have little sense. Don't let it bother you, if a good guy comes along, he won't care, if he does care, he's not a good guy. The only exception to this is religion. We live 80 years and die, I can't fault people for wanting more and looking for a form of afterlife. If they are religious, I'll excuse their beliefs on sex.

    • I agree :-)

  • Translation: You've wasted your 20's in the dick carrossel, but now you're in your 30's and realized that your looks are going downhill pretty quickly and you won't be able to keep going on that life much longer, so you planed that you need to grab a man to be your bank account before your looks go away for good, so you can suck him real good, maybe get pregnant quickly as fuck to really hold him on, no?
    I bet it's in your plans as well...

    Now everyone knows how you are, and what you're looking for.
    Just hope the guy that falls into your web is well aware of the situation and does it willingly instead of being fooled by you.

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    • You nailed it man, Fucking Awesome bro <3

    • @Decentguy or she's grown up finally and realized it's nice to come home to a man who doesn't leave the morning after and someone to actually have a companionship with or a potential family. Let's not assume she's a golddigger or anything such.

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  • Profile says you are 18-24 and your post says you are 30. Perhaps there is a larger problem than just your promiscuous behavior. However. . .

    if a guy is looking for a future Mrs. Guy, he doesn't want a girl who has fucked half the men in town. You don't have much of a value as a conquest if two margaritas is all it takes to get you into bed.

  • You can always change things! Do you want a relationship?

  • I have nothing against you sleeping with 30 men.

    Yeah I disagree with the cheating part but the men were to blame more as you were single.

    I actually believe anyone can have sex with how ever many people they like.

    *hugs* don't feel bad ♥

    How many people you slept with does not define your personality.

    • Infact it does. Your values are part of your personality and the way you treat sex says a lot about values.

    • @Actress78 what's your sexual fantasies then?

    • Being with one guy i love from the bottom of my hard, hard enough to dhare my complete body with him, being completly vulnerable for him and being one with him.

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  • Nah, you're doing fine.
    1 guy a year is a
    pretty good K/D ratio.

  • Live life as you want it - those numbers are t off putting to me. It seems however that you do not want to be having sex with multiple partners and rather have long term serious relationships.

  • Not even a question. Yes obviously

  • What's the issue exactly? You feel these guys will run a mile if you don't sleep with them? Thus you have self-worthiness issues?

  • it's not easy or not because you both wanted sex at that time... it just a matter of choice... there is no bad thing either having sex with multiple guys maybe because you haven't find that one... someone gonna met you soon who's worth for a life time. Wishing you best for the future

  • Let's say you've been fucking since you were 12 and your 24. You've fucked at least 2 guys and a dwarf every year since you were a pre teen.

  • You probably have deeper issues*, and guys do pick up on that, and yes, of course you've developed a reputation. Would you even know how to show a man you want something serious with him when he knows you've never been about that before.

    * I'm assuming some kind of self-esteem issues where you need male attention for validation, or you need the "thrill" so you can't really be faithful to one man anyway.

  • Well you were probably easy to get for those 30+ guys.

    • The problem with women in her situation is, she gave it away for nothing to many guys in the past, but now she wants to find a good and decent man but make him wait forever to get in her pants. He will not appreciate it when he finds out everyone else got it without having to buy her dinner or take her places or put a ring on her finger.

    • @Regular1 I agree. I wouldn't want to be the guy who has to wine a dine a girl when 30 other guys got to sleep with her with a fraction of the effort.

  • For me your kinda damaged goods and at 30 past your best but I'm not every guy and I have high standards.

  • It seems to me that you might have a problem. It's the amount of sex partners per say but why there are so many (not "too many", just more than average). It's usually a need for attention and affirmation caused by low self-esteem that makes you seek out new sexual partners. But it might as well be that you just like to have sex but most of the ones you meet don't live up to your expectations. Maybe you're actually hard to get but you try them out in bed to see what they've got?

  • Aww... You poor thing. A serious relationship required a real connection. I know women with way higher numbers than you who have found love. It's not the number, but your ability to connect with others and their ability to connect with you in a way that is real, authentic, and intimate. A relationship is like a good friendship. The kind of friendship that doesn't vanish as soon as two people aren't in close proximity to one another because of the convenience of life circumstances. It's not your number. You will find love one day. Find someone who can be secure and open with you and who you can be secure and open with too. So many people latch on to the "unavailable" the people who seem enticing but who are unavailable... this can mean married or not interested or whatever. Find someone who is crazy about you.

  • Nope that means you are sexually active
    your organs are working fine,
    and you are a strong women...

  • Not to beat you down but yeah... you are. A woman that values herself won't sleep with a married man. So what could be happening is that men can see and sense that you had a past of giving zero fucks so they don't want anything to do with you. Not trying to be a dick or anything but maybe try to actually connect with men with good intentions and not pieces of shits. Cause judging from your decisions of who to sleep with, it appears you go for the bad apples and not the ripe ones

  • No guy is gonna take you seriously. They'll just assume you're a quick fuck and move on because that's all you've ever been. No guy can respect or wanna be with a chick that is so cavalier with sleeping with a bunch of guys.

  • The first question that comes to my mind is “have you been tested for STDs” . I wouldn’t want my dick turning green or worse fall off. That is the problem with having all those partners, just like a high mileage car on a used car lot dripping oil. Would you want that dripping oil car or a new one?

    • Question to asker about 30+: Is in much higher than 30 or is it that you can’t remember for sure, can’t get a good count.

  • You're actually below average. Most 30 year old women these days have a cock count in the triple digits. But as you have hit The Wall, you are now realizing that you need to snag a beta wallet ASAP. Unfortunately, you've had so many dicks in you that you are no longer able to form a pair bond with any single man. So any relationship you have, you're going to have to fake interest until you get a ring on your finger. Then you can become a typical sexless housewife who fucks around on her husband behind his back.

    • O__O triple? wow

  • Yeah

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