Are you okay with letting your girl/guy watch porn? Why or why not?

[DarkSkinBliss_oX]

I honestly don't mind it when my man does especially since I know it only really occurs when I'm exhausted.

We have two kids, he works 10 hour days as a lead roofer, I'm a stay at home mom with our 2 yr old, am very involved in my kids & their development & am currently in night school. We also are involved in other activities; our girls take gymnastics weekly, I do a mommy & me paint class every Saturday & he has soccer practice on Thrus & games Sunday. We also try to make the most outta the weekend with our kids whether that's movie night at home or in the theater, a drive outta town, a theme/water park or just night painting & camping out in the backyard.

We usually have sex sessions Mon- Thurs with the exception of him being too tired after work. We also have us-time every few weekends when the girls go to either his or my parents'.

From Fri- Sun however, there's literally little to no sex. That's where the porn comes into play. He'll watch a flick or two Friday night, & one on Sat night & skip it on Sunday because soccer games kill him. He sporadically watches it on other days too which is totally fine with me as well. I mean, once you dip your finger in the cookie jar... Lol

I also don't mind it because I feel it adds character to him. He's a very sexually creative man & he sometimes finds new angles & themes for our bedroom.

He constantly complements my beauty both inside & out & was as crazy about me when I gained weight carrying our 2 yr old (60lbs 😬) as he is now. We have days where we want to choke the last breath out of each other but I try to be my best version since he's a pretty great man in general. I feel completely secure in my relationship on multiple levels & him watching porn is so insignificant... I don't place my energy where it isn't necessary.

I know plenty of people who refuse to allow their men/women to watch porn & I wasn't sure how I felt about it at 1st but it works for us. How about you?

[Browneye57]

If it's not ruining your relationship, particularly your sexual one, perhaps it remains innocuous for you two. For the vast majority, it creates an unrealistic outlook on what normal man-woman romantic sex is. They see all manner of depraved acts and think it's perfectly normal. And you can't compete with the constant barrage of stimulation and instant gratification. A porn-addict will jerk off to that instead of spending time with his lover.

If you're not concerned then let it go. Personally I think there are better outlets for sexual expression. That you two are not connecting for many days is a red flag. But if that works for you then carry on.

[notallthere98]

It's not a matter of "letting them", as if I have the right to give or withhold permission for that.
I am 100% fine with my partner watching porn (as long as it's all legal). In fact I would encourage it. I don't want to have sex, so I'm all for them getting that tension out on their own

[DarkSkinBliss_oX]

But there are "permissions" in relationships, are there not? Swinging is only called cheating when permission isn't warrent. The desire & action however remains the same. Only the title deffers. You understand exactly what I mean when I say "letting". & yes, I agree with that last bit. Have a good night & thank you for your... insight.

[notallthere98]

Swinging is a lot different than watching porn, and obviously that would require permission because otherwise it's cheating.

[DarkSkinBliss_oX]

Urge and action, duh. Doesn't matter what example I bring up - permitting to allow & support it vs. regecting it with disapproval remains. Doesn't mean you have to consider your SO's stand point... We all have free will which is how rule get broken, obviously & that's were the relationship issues come in. Any whom, we can agree to disagree. It's not my place to waste energy teaching you what life hasn't yet. Your prospective is just that. Have a good one.

[kaylaS91]

I'm fine with my boyfriend watching porn.
It's not like he's ever told me or made me feel that the porn stars aer hotter to him than I am, or that he'd prefer to watch them go at it than spend time with me. So.. basically, him watching porn has not in any way directly affected me. By principle, I dgaf what he does with his time as long as it's not hurting him or anyone else.

[DarkSkinBliss_oX]

I likey...

[Anonymous]

Its perfectly natural for guys, since their libido's are way higher than most women's. I'm fine with it, as long as he isn't having private shows/caming with a girl. Also, if it becomes an unhealthy obsession, watching 2-3 hours a day, like an addiction; I wouldn't tolerate that either.

[Robbey]

I don't particularly care where my husband gets his engine warm so long as he parks in the right garage,

[DarkSkinBliss_oX]

Best response thus far. Love this 😂

[Robbey]

Thanks for MHA! :-)

[samhradh_leannan]

I don't have a problem with it as long as it is in moderation, does not impact our relationship, and he is discrete about it.

[KadBitty]

Lol how can they refuse to allow? The partner will just watch in secret instead. I don't mind it. He watches porn, I watch porn, neither of us mind. He would only mind if I was horny and he was in the house and I watched porn instead.

[DarkSkinBliss_oX]

Exactly. People go against "permission" (if it had to come down to that) often, which will only lead to more issues of disloyalty, dishonesty & disrespect in the relationship and grow on their beginning insecurity of why they didn't want to allow it in the 1st place. & if someone were able to keep their partner from watching it, that would spark up resentment in some cases. Win the battle, lose the war type deal. Your man sounds like me lol. Better come check to see if I can help before you release any of that energy.

[MidnightThoughts]

I share the same opinion @KadBitty

[Jack489109]

Lol my wife always tells me to go watch porn when she's not in the mood. Occasionally she will watch it with me usually while giving me a handjob or blowjob or something but she always makes me pick it out and never seems that into it.

[nala_rawr]

i watch porn myself, so i dont find it harmful.

[Lady_Frost]

Of course I would let him. Why shouldn't I as long as I get the sex I need.

[Jay_Lauren]

I'm perfectly fine with it. I'd be down to watch it with him tbh. 😅

[BabyBirdy]

Too much of anything is a problem

[1Anon]

Yeah I'd let him watch porn as it wouldn't bother me. Tbh I wouldn't ever stop him from watching porn in the first place. If anything, I'd probably want to watch it with him! lol

[prince1102]

She's allowed to make as much porn as she wants with me in one of our bedrooms, living room, shower, wherever. Otherwise, no porn for her and the same rules apply for myself.

[madhatters4]

i'd have no problem with my wife watching porn

[BrittBratt2416]

no.. if im not doing it for you, then you need to find someone else who can. I'm not putting up with that before or after marriage either.

[Kaazsz]

I have no problem with my SO watching porn. It means nothing. But wome it seems tend to get very upset when the role is reversed.

[Calixx]

No. I don't think about it.

[shahad1975]

Have no problem

[Phyllis91]

Only if I can watch it with him. :)

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

If i had a girlfriend i would have no problem with her watching porn.
But this is addiction i managed to get over myself and can say I've
came a long way i really don't get into it too much.

[DarkSkinBliss_oX]

I actually believe the same thing. It is an addiction that I would like him to quit but it's currently another thing I've learned to accept since it has no baring on they way our lives run. Its kinda like the battle or the war kinda thing. One day, hopefully but as for now, making the best outta what I have.

[jacquesvol]

She can see what she likes. So can I.
No control.

[worldscolide]

She usually joins me, and umm fun happens.

[slutsdontgetoral]

It can be toxic for men and easily lead to impotence. Read a lot about many men's port addiction. Don't see a downside to a woman with a port addiction. But men witnessing a steady diet of port constantly need a higher level of stimuli to get aroused. Experienced it first hand. If you watch it together it can be ok if isn't done on a regular basis. If I see something that a woman does to a guy that I want done to me , I'll watch it with my wife. Saw this tiny Asian woman using her entire body to massage her man during foreplay. While he was laying on his back, she massaged his back and neck with her breasts, ass (flipped around), and pussy (on the back of his neck and shoulders) and let her hair drag across his body. She got the hint and did it to me.

[Unit1]

We would be watching porn together :) ♥