Am I valid for getting upset when my boyfriend gets hard looking at other girls?
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years and the first time we hung out with each other, we watched porn together. We would do this here and there throughout our relationship until it became a problem. He started hiding it from me and lying about himself doing it. Obviously I didn't have an issue with porn until this happened. Things got worse and worse to the point where he would wait until I'm sleeping and go to the bathroom to masturbate. What's crazy is that we have sex literally every day. Throughout this, I've realized that I've become insecure in that matter, so much to the point where I can't even sleep comfortably at night. I've asked him to stop with porn indefinitely and he would always agree, but I would still catch him. Now, he is supposedly not watching porn anymore but that shit has ruined various parts of our relationship -- key one being trust.
The Problem:
I completely understand that guys supposedly can't 'control' their erections sometimes, but I just can't help the fact that I'm utterly disgusted when my boyfriend gets hard by looking at other girls. Last night we were watching Game of Thrones and one of the woman characters got naked. I noticed his boner and automatically knew that this was going to be a problem for me, but I kept trying to talk myself into not getting upset about it. I couldn't help it and I told him how I felt but he just got angry and we argued. I have no idea what it is, (maybe the whole porn incident) but I wish I didn't feel this way because its making me feel like shit and I feel like I can't just, 'get used to it'. 'Just get used to it' and 'it's normal' isn't cutting it for me.
What do I doooooo? :(
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