I am an escort and I fell in love with a client. What should I do?

Please don't ignore my question and don't judge me. I am pretty helpless.

I am a 21 years old female living in a north European country I will not name. But I originate from an Arab country. I came here when I was 18, for college. Coping up with the living expenses was impossible and 20h of work a week didn't solve much. An American friend from my college told me I was very beautiful and Had a sexy body and that I could make a lot of money if I join an escort agency. I considered her proposition since I was single, broke and only been sexually active at 17 until I realized I made a big mistake and never slept with anyone ever again.

I contacted a couple agencies and saw what they had to offer. This one I work with caught my attention as they pay very well (besides what clients pay) and are extremely picky. (On the intellectual level as well).

I liked that. I speak 5 languages, have a fine taste in arts and am studying in a good university. Plus all the physical requirements ( no tattoos, no piercings, no scars, etc). This agency works specifically with very wealthy men from Europe and america, it has many well chosen girls, we go spend some hours or days with a client depending on his will. Some are very private and mostly just want sex, others are more open and treat you like a girlfriend for rent. Take you on dates, business trips etc.

I got in this business being so uncomfortable at first, but there was SO MUCH money and gifts and everything I got used to it. I had 11 clients in two year. (Each one For long term).

my problem is that I fell madly in love with my current one. He is an extremely wealthy Italian man. 40 something the most handsome client and partner I ever had. Very classy, muscular, tattooed, and most importantly sweet.

the thing is, he is very private, we don't go out in public. But in private he treats me in an incredibly good way. He spoils me very much, is the first man to not treat me like a prostitute. He takes care of me
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I know he is just lusting over me, but it's been 7 months that he's been seeing me and he is still the same. He treats me like some sort of godess like he has never seen a woman more beautiful. Last month he asked me to leave the agency but I refused to. So he made them fire me. We fought about it. He said he would offer me all I need in life but I had to leave that job and be exclusive. He said I also can't have a boyfriend because he can't let anyone have me
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We technically live together but clandestinely. In the middle of all this I fell in love with him. He is everything I ever wanted but I know I can only have him in my dreams. He is a real alpha male, with a reputation and two kids from his ex marriage and I am a student half his age. I just got to the point where I can't stand this feeling anymore. It hurts. I love him and it has to stop. Please advise me
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I have been in that business. And Im not going to going anonymous because whats done is done. Nothing to hide. So here is the thing. I have met guys who wanted to date and who were all around good guys but once you meet a man on the terms where it starts out as sex. They may not say it but thats all they will see you as. You are 21 and he is 41. Dont you think its odd that a man of his caliber is paying for sex from a 21 year old. And not only that why can't he date women his own age or if he has why doesn't he continue. These are things that you should know. Im not saying that he may not be a good guy, but remember in this business most men fall in love and develop feelings VERY quickly especially if you are giving him sex when he wants it. That would make any man fall quickly.

    • this is pretty much the truth.

    • thank you for your honest opinion. After 2 years with different men, and 7 months with him, I pretty much know what kind of men he is. Women his age mostly expect stability and a serious relationship, which is not interested in at all after his ex marriage went bad. He is the kind to be very busy, fussy and has a specific taste in women. He mostly chooses to pay for an escort to avoid all the drama that comes with dating. Plus, he is a devoted father, gives a perfect image to his children and the media, and him being seen with a girl as young as me is something he probably wouldn't want. I am fully aware that sex is all he will see in me, as it is something I understood since client number 2. However I don't understand all his possessiveness. my team manager before told me he never took a girl for a long term, he was more of the "just sex" kind of men, hotel meetings and stuff. When I look at things now, I am living in his house, as he requested to.

    • He stopped giving me cash, he showers me with gifts and jewelry and he buys whatever I need instead of handing me a envelope. He got me out of the business because he says that he wants us to be exclusive and I am not allowed to see anyone else but him nor have a boyfriend and that world is not for me and I am a good girl and I should get out of there. he also treats me differently than any client before, he cares. Like he would take an afternoon off if I am sick, he would ask me how studies are going and motivate me, there are times when we don't have sex and he just hugs me, when on my period he even spoils me like my own boyfriend never did in the past. THESE little things are what made the difference. Sometimes, I really have the feeling that he cares for me a lot, but then it is impossible for me to exchange it. as he made it very clear in the beginning that he expected no sort of attachment from me and that he is NOT interested in a relationship. that's why I am pretty much lost

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  • he got obsess with u. don't want u to hv a life and maybe u r in love but he already has a family and he can dump u anytime. u can rely on him since he is wiling to pay ur stuff but he only wants u because u r beautiful and young. I would enjoyed it but at the same time keep going with my life and leave him at some point

  • It doesn't matter, if he treats you right, you love him then my conclusion is stay with him.

    Stop worrying.

    If he leaves you, you can always go back into Escort business or do job in your degree.

    • it does matter if you see it this way: I am his, but he is not mine. it is not supposed to matter, but it has been saddening me a lot.

    • He can't stop you from thinking about other men or flirting with them on the street :-) he would never know. But you need it for payment so I'd just save up the money. What's sad is he gives you items and not money because it has no equity. Ask him for gold jewellery, make sure it's pure gold at least 22kt.. you can sell it for money. Sliver is good also. Diamonds cars phones everything else looses equity. He's very clever, he knows what he is doing. If you have a friend or something, invite her over, just so he knows you have someone. In case he's a psychopath or obsessive.

    • he bought me a high-class appartment and car to compensate after he got me fired from the agency and he said that whatever happens between us in the future, I will have long term indemnification and will be reasonably financed for as long as I need. He also offers me a lot of jewelry, and offered to pay for what's left of my education. Money is really not a problem for him. He stoped handing me cash because at some point I started feeling weird about it, I think it has been the case since I started seeing him as more than a simple client, and I didn't even talk about it but he seemed to understand on his own. I am not allowed to have friends over when he is around, he is extremely strict about privacy. At first, (like many men like him), he wouldn't even allow an escort to enter with a phone or any device that would allow to record a video or picture. After a couple months together, he allowed me to, as he started trusting me a little, we even take pictures together etc

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Most Helpful Guys

  • Well, if it's logistically viable to be with him, you might ask the question to him after a long night. But be prepared for a no. He might just not be looking for that, he may just want a girlfriend for rent, and happens to be a really nice guy. If he says no, you might even lose him as a client. It's a risk versus reward thing however, also keep in mind your agencies policy on this, might need to all him to keep it on the low.

    If it's not logistically possible to date him, you're gonna have to drop the fantasy, it's unfortunate, but there's not much else to do

  • Ask yourself why he is paying for your company when there are 5 million other women just like you who would date him for free. Then go ask him the same question.

    Before you go too deep into daydreaming.

    Now maybe his answer will give room for you to get what you want... or maybe not.

    • I did before, he said he hadn't been serious since his ex marriage turned tragic, and he has no time for commitment and he would get bored easily. I asked why he was still with me after months and why he wants me to be exclusive he said that is because I am different and a good girl

    • You should stop charging him. Then see if he still goes out with you or not. But how can you get commitment if you are still selling your body to others? I would think that is a deal breaker for most guys even if they like everything else about you.

    • stop charging him? please explain. I stopped since he just got me fired. Another detail I didn't have space to mention is that he bought me an appartment and a car to compensate for it but I this point I don't want anything but him.

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  • Hi, you say it yourself "it hurts but it has to stop" you have your answer. I'm sorry you're in this situation. Good luck

  • Look, I'd never treat you like a prostitute, even if you wanted to remain an escort.

    I don't have any tattoos or exes though.

  • Have you talked to him about it seriously?

  • Go for it. He may be the one to take you out of that line of work. If your happy together & he accepts you for what you are / do for work, then try it

  • If I were you, would have willpower but to give myself completely to him... I am sorry I can't help, I feel for you. Only advise, graduate, and have savings from the money he gives to you, don't spend everything.

  • Well I wish that was the story for me. I developed feelings for my special companion over time. Spoilers... it didn't end the way I dreamed it would.
    At first paying someone meant no strings no calls no trouble. She was super hot all eyes on her when she walked into a room. I wish I could say that I didn't do this, pay for women to spend time with me.
    Over the years after my divorce ocassionaly meeting scorching hot women that I paid for attention was commonplace. Rare that I wanted a little more than sexy escapism. I have a professional job that makes everyone I date want to hear wedding bells. I just wanted to have fun, not sex, fun. Dinner travel and sprinked with naked fun time and cuddles. Dating was always a pressure situation at my age to get serious, I've been divorced don't want to live that again. Anyways paid companion is a nice way to achieve that simple arranging.
    They got what they wanted I got what I wanted everyone walked away happy. No fuss no strings-arranged visits and goodbyes.
    This girl was different. After about our third visit I realized that our meetings became 2.5 hours of talking and laughing. Sometimes I think we did the deed because I paid, and she felt a bit of guilt getting that amount of money, for what is typically sexy time, if I didn't get sexy time.
    The more we talked and texted the more I liked her. She was so interesting and it took a while for her to let me really get to know her. I developed pretty strong feelings after about a year of this. I didn't care she had other clients, but she frequently tried to convince me that the others weren't sexy time. More fetish stuff. Finally I was so into her I felt about her a way that I hadn't felt about someone since I was a young kid.
    I took her out to tell her how I felt about her, I was sure she did not feel the same. From her it felt more... fond friend type of situation. Not love. I was pleasant interesting company for good money. I realized it had to stop I was in too deep with this girl.
    I told her I would always be her friend, but I couldn't handle intimate time with her anymore because of the way I felt.
    I wish this had a story book ending but it doesn't. First she tried to convince me she was interested but she needed more time. I knew her well enough that it is what it is and that's not going to change. She liked my money as much as I liked her body, but for her it would never be more.
    We are still friends still talk. But we don't play anymore she's a good friend, reliable AND trusts me, and I her. With time and perspective I realized that I was right! It was doomed too fail. We were 2 people on different tracts in life separated by age, beauty, and profession. I'm glad we stayed friends but no longer sad that I fell in love with her.
    The moral of my story is love keeps your eyes blurred to the truth. Think long and hard about your situation
    He changed an envelope to support, independence to dependance, a business transaction to a personal lover. Is it truly different from what was before?
    Doesn't sound like it to me. My advice is walk away from his assistance and control. See how you really feel, and how he really acts when he's not in control.
    Then you know.
    Good luck

  • do what ur heart tells u to he id the right thing getting u fired it shows he sees u of a higher standard than that job has to offer. I say go ahead if u love him and he has made it clear he does too there afe no barriers loe doent hae an age because its just a number.

  • Try to ask him for a date. Tell him about your feelings, otherwise it wil hurt you so much

  • I don't understand what the problem is it seems like he is invested just talked to him.

  • Do what most women do in Western countries. Get married to a wealthy man, have kids, get a divorce, and collect millions on alimony, child support, and community property. You can't depend on your attractiveness for long because it does have a shelf life. Cash in that lottery ticket!

    • "_what most women do in Western countries._" REALLY? :-o

    • I guess I'm not most then

  • if you love him be with him. if he stays with only you then stay with him. if he'll be yours be his.

    • I am his escort girl, I sadly don't have the option of just being with him. He pays for my services.

  • Each person is different but the best idea could be to know him well and ask others who have been the same situation with both good and bad outcomes and think why that happened to them (why were they successful, and why were they not) and compare with your own relationship. Look up Artificial Neural Networks to make yourself think about predicting the future using past examples.

  • Well date him. That's if u wanna get fired. Plus, how much money do u make in a year? Y3ni if it's around 30-80K, Fuck this shit, im gonna be an escort

    • nvm he does love u then. talk with him and sort things out. ask him if he loves u seriously or he just needs company. girl u would then be marrying a multimillionaire, ur life would be set

    • can u please block me? cuz im sick of all the updates

  • tell him, that u will stop to be escort and will don't do it anymore with anyone to start new life, that's will make me can't stay with you more, then Say to him u are the best man I have ever had, and leave if he want u, he will never let u go, and will accept you as his lover not another

  • Escort: high class prostitute who claims to be different from a low class prostitute when in fact she is not. Sorry to say: what starts bad end bad. Don't expect selling your body to end in a relationship with a client "for love". It's your life, you have a lot of economical needs, i get that, the thing is that you wanna see love where there is only lust. Save whatever money you need just don't think you'll fine something extra among sex and money.

  • He does though, hence why he only is with you in private. Also, I do not think you love him, I think you really like the idea of being with someone like him. But hey, if you are certain it is. love. tell him how you feel and see what happens.

  • This sounds like a Novel

  • say a yes to him.
    tell u want to finish ur studies, if wants to start a family or. something.

  • Tell him?

  • Just get that money

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