I go down on my girlfriend, how to get her to consider giving me a blowjob?

[Dirac]

I asked this question earlier but wanted to add some new info.

I've been with my girlfriend for a year and a half now and we've been sexually active for the past year. I like going down on her since I get a turned on and get a great deal of satisfaction from get her to orgasm. The thing is she's not comfortable in giving me a blowjob and I've accepted that up to this point. She's the 2nd person I've been with and someone I could see myself marrying in the future. However, I've never had a blowjob before and I have to admit that I would really like to get one to see how it's like and I'm not about to cheat on my girlfriend.

She's mentioned in the past that she just finds the idea of putting a penis in her mouth disgusting since guys pee out of it. But we have sex all of the time and she's clearly fine with it in her nether regions. So I'm thinking that maybe if I ask for one after a shower and tell her that I'll pull out and make sure that I don't cum in her mouth that she might accept it. Or at least give it a try at some point.

Any suggestions especially from the girls on how I should approach this?

If she declines or the idea upsets her should I forget about it and accept the situation?

Thanks

Update: When I asked this question earlier practically all the responses that I got from both guys and girls is that I should only eat my girlfriend out if she's willing to give me a blowjob. I don't want to do that and harm the relationship. I do want to enjoy the pleasures of getting a blowjob but I understand that there might be psychological issues at play here so I don't want to force it. Plus I like eating her and making her feel so as long as we're having sex I can go without a blowjob. Just something I would like to try and would like some advice on how I could get my girlfriend to be more open to the idea in a positive manner.

[DontBlameMe]

Well, I've been with guys that refused to go down on me and I basically just stopped giving them blowjobs unless I got something out of it for myself, and if they complained about me not giving them head and still refused to go down on me, then I'd ask them for some other things I'd like in the bedroom and see what they're willing to "trade" for blowjobs instead of eating me out. For instance, I like certain positions more than others and would request those, or I'd request that the guy didn't cum inside me or on my stomach or something so I'd have less cleanup afterwards, or for the guy to finger me to orgasm instead of eating me out... Whatever I wanted, really, and we usually always reached a compromise.
As far as explaining to her that it's "safe" and "sterile" to give a blowjob, you might point out things about her misconceptions of blowjobs that she herself might not have considered. For example, thousands of girls give them all over the world every day without any significant health complications, and if you offer to shower or wash up beforehand, tell her that dick doesn't really taste like anything... It's sort of salty if the guy is a little sweaty or something, but freshly washed up it just tastes like if you licked someone's arm or something. Also explain that you don't have to cum in her mouth if she's uncomfortable with that, and instead you can warn her ahead of time when you're about to cum to pull out and jerk you off onto her tits or something. I agree that refusing to eat your girlfriend out just because she's uncomfortable with blowjobs is a little unfair and selfish, because you can't control what she likes and doesn't like, and it's not like you have a problem with eating her out, obviously, but you could point out that while you urinate from your penis, she also urinates from her vagina (technically from that "area"... Yes, I know urine doesn't come from the actual vaginal canal people, give me a break), and that she also menstruates from the same area and that the constant presence of moisture in that area of the female body is far more subject to "germs" and bacterial/fungal growth than the external male genitalia, so if you can go down on her and "tolerate" the taste/smell/feeling or whatever, then giving a blowjob obviously can't be all that bad in comparison and she's probably exaggerating in her head how bad it would actually be. There is a chance, though, she's just telling you that she finds it gross so she doesn't have to blow you and she really doesn't care about it at all, but she just doesn't want to have to give a blowjob because there's no stimulation involved on her end, so if you guys tried 69-ing or fingering her while she's sucking you off, then she might also be more inclined to try it since she's not just working for your satisfaction while getting nothing out of it for herself (which I realize is selfish and silly if that's the case, but I know girls that have told me all kinds of excuses that they gave to their boyfriends so they wouldn't have to "work as hard" in bed by giving blowjobs... everything from, "My gag reflex is so bad I throw up every time I try it," to, "I have (insert fictional and unbelievably vague disease of the neck, throat, mouth, or tongue here) and I can't give blowjobs because it makes it worse". A girl told me once that her boyfriend believed her when she said she had a "permanent tooth infection" that made it unsafe for her to give blowjobs... What the heck is a permanent infection for crying out loud, and how stupid are some of you dudes? (kidding, but seriously, that guy must have been next level naive)

[askmepleaseme]

Just tell her you never got one and ask her for one just once. I feel as though since you constantly give her pleasure she should return some, not forced though obviously but you haven't asked.

I find it odd how some women are so willing to spread their legs and let a man INSIDE them, the most intimate feeling in the world, but consider a blowjob to be "uncomfortable, weird, disgusting, too much" etc. Just my opinion.

[Jay_Lauren]

I agree.

[Dirac]

Thanks for the advice. I have asked in the past but left the issue alone for a while since my girlfriend wasn't really comfortable with it. Just wanted to figure out how to bring it up as respectfully as possible. As for the part about some women spreading their legs a bit too easily, it's a bit different for us. We've known each other for years and she's only had sex once with someone who wasn't me back in high school. The issue with finding blowjobs as something uncomfortable/disgusting is probably from some sort of weird past memory/issue. Like I've heard of girls who are the reverse where they're fine with giving blowjobs but don't like to receive. Some sort of shame, esteem or power issue that has been repressed perhaps.

[askmepleaseme]

I'm not implying she spreads her legs easily. Not at all. I'm trying to make the point that if you are willing to let someone physically INSIDE you, then I do not understand why oral is uncomfortable at all? It's like saying you're not comfortable with kissing but you can give oral. Same thing. Perhaps but in general, I think you should try again. You have wants too.

[Dirac]

Makes sense. Thanks for the response. I'll give it another try.

[askmepleaseme]

Of course.

[Dirac]

Thank you again for your advice a few weeks ago. My girlfriend actually has been thinking about trying it out for sometime now and had looked up techniques but was uncomfortable about it as well so she didn't bother bringing it up. So when I brought up again she said that she would be willing to try it out. She has given me oral twice now and it turns out that it doesn't bother her. Not her favorite thing in the world though but at least she doesn't mind it now.

[MarijuanaPrincess]

I said the same thing so I know where she's coming from but it'll only happen when she's ready there is no other way to put it don't rush it or force it when she's comfortable and ready she'll do it tbh

[swagmasterson]

Honestly if she doesn't want to give you a blowjob thats fine man, however you need to accept that you very well may be the submissive person here so if you love her then just keep showing it the way you know how, under her table. She shows you in her own way

[TallMoney]

I wanted more blowjobs from my girlfriend so I let her know that it would be a fun part of our roleplay and that I will last longer in bed after. She agreed and soon I waking up to daily blowjobs.

[BigD3200]

Make sure you clean down there bro. I've never been in that position.