Does he just want to cum inside me for pleasure or to get me pregnant?

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My boyfriend constantly asks me how I would feel if I became pregnant. He says things like "you won't have you're period for nine months." 
"I can't wait to have a mixture of me and you."
"what if you missed your period."
He always says things referring to babies or me being pregnant somehow! He says things like I want to get you pregnant and I can't tell if he's joking or not, and we'll argue back and fourth for a good 39 minutes. He touched my stomach one time in joking as if he was talking to a baby in there! Just the other night out of no where he wanted me to agree to him letting him cum inside of me if right after he went and bought a planB. I'm not 18 so I couldn't buy it even if I wanted to! I'm very confused by his mixed signals and I don't know if he wants me regrant or if he's just joking. I took these in a joking matter for a while but now I'm not so sure. He talks about it a lot. I was in a relationship for three years before him and not once was this a topic! Unless talking about what we would HAVE to do, never him wanting me. He's an amazing guy and loves me and is more genuine than anyone has ever been to me. We've been off and on for 2 year almost and I've hurt him previously because I was trying to get out of an abusive relationship. I don't know if he wants me pregnant so he never loses me or what. I'm really confused someone help me. (May I remind you I'm not on birth control and we don't use condoms.) No hate please, I'm just looking for advice so I can figure out how to sit down and talk to him about his situation.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I know exactly what you mean! Before my guy and I met up (we're in a ldr), he randomly said he'd love to marry me and have kids with me. Perfect as I feel the same way. A week before I visited him he said he was going to cum in me. That didn't bother me but knowing we both don't want kids for a few years after we're married, I made sure I was on the pill. He did cum in me every time we had sex and as we were just laying on the bed, he put his head on my rib cage then stroked and rubbed my belly with his left hand. He didn't say anything but did that for a while. He wasn't trying to get me pregnant or anything but he liked the idea of me one day being pregnant with his kids. He was imagining what it'd be like if I was pregnant with his children. Tbh in that moment I imagined it too and wasn't scared of it happening eventually.

He's probably just thinking of having a long term future together with you... that, or he has a kinky fetish for having his partner pregnant with his kid even though he doesn't necessarily want children right now. I believe such a fetish exists. Either way, you have to use some form of birth control because you're clearly not ready to have children. Forget about the morning after pill because as you said, you're not the minimum age to purchase it. Your best bet is to just take the pill (at the same time every day as per the instructions) but start taking it at least two to three weeks before you have sex. That way he could cum in you without you worrying about getting pregnant. That's what I did and still do. Be aware though that condoms are the best bet to prevent std's. The pill does not protect you from them. My guy and I are exclusive and have regular std checks. He does it because I have to do it to enter the country. We both know we're clean each time we meet up.

NatyDLM · Accepted Answer

Well, I think he wants to impregnate you, if you're not ready yet to get pregnant, kindly explain him and if he really loves you, he will understand and wait. A tip: You should use condoms if you don't want to be in risk to get pregnant. And be careful with the plan B, it is only for emergencies, for example, if the condom breaks. But it's not good to use the plan B constantly, birth control pills can help, my gynecologist gave me those and it's good to make your period regular, if you get in birth control, you shouldn't miss pills. Anyways, talk to your boyfriend and tell him to be honest with you.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

it sounds to me like ur boyfriend wants to have kids soon and I don't know u should talk about when u want to have it cuz that might be a problem for both of u if ur not old enough or want to finish up with school and go to college before u have kids and ur boyfriend might just want to start already so I think u should sit down and figure out exactly when u each want to have kids and find a suggestion if u can't then... I don't know just try to find a way to work through it this will make ur relationship stronger.

rach_adams · Accepted Answer

in my opinion, if you're both in a stable relationship, i don't seem the harm in asking "is it just me or do you want me to be pregnant?" poof, you'll get your answer in minutes.

but as a third party reading what you wrote, id say he's just having fun and dont know what he's doing.

of course i may be wrong, this is just my opinion.

Kimosabe · Accepted Answer

Usually, when this is coming from a healthy, well-adjusted place, it takes the form of "I want us to have a family together", and is part of a conversation about marriage. But he seems preoccupied with the state of pregnancy, which is a wonderful time, and, I think, a very beautiful, special time in a couple's life, but your description sounds more like he's developed a fetish, or at least a kink, about pregnancy, without being connected to the longer-term results. Honestly, I think it's a red flag. Your own sense of confusion over his behavior is an important clue, as well. I think I'd recommend first that you get yourself on some contraception, and then move this conversation to some more stable, thoroughly considered ground. It sounds like you think he might be the One for you, so I wouldn't want you to sabotage something that might be good; just put some brakes on and get a chance for both of you to start filling in the blanks in this conversation. Sensible?

Caaarl · Accepted Answer

He's a breeder it's not a joke it's just who he is. It's pretty obvious. If he keeps talking about pregnancy a lot then he has a procreation fetish.

linds34 · Answer

I don't know which it is, but it's the same risk whether it's for pleasure or to get you pregnant.

QueenofCups · Answer

He definitely wants to knock you up. Please don't do it.

Sbelle · Answer

he could have a breeding fetish. pregnancy fantasy, or pregnancy risk. talk to him about it.

BlackSkye · Answer

It's more than likely because he wants a baby. I never once said those things to a woman unless I meant it, and the only time I said something like that was about a year ago to my wife. lol