Would you let your son/daughter have sex in your house?

[mikemx55]

For those who don't have them, put yourself in a parent shoes, and answer hypothetically, giving it a thought first.

And of course I guess it may depend on how serious the relationship is, so leave your thoughts in the comments, and feel free to answer if you'd feel comfortable having sex in your parents house xD

[BlueCoyote]

Not only would I let my teenager have sex in my house but I would PREFER them to do it under my roof. This has quite a bit to do with culture, I think. I believe most Western Europeans would feel this way. In Europe, the mindset among parents is usually "they're going to do it anyway and I can't stop them, so I'd rather have them do it in a safe, comfortable, peaceful, friendly, sweet environment".

Also, most European parents don't consider sex among teenagers a bad/problematic thing because the kids are usually well enough educated to do it in a responsible way. When I was 15 and I wanted my then-girlfriend to stay for the night, it wasn't a big deal for my parents. My dad came to my room that evening before my girlfriend arrived and reminded me to use condoms if we were going to have sex. He was very relaxed and kind about it... it didn't feel awkward at all. He even offered me to go to the gas station and quickly buy some condoms for me and he asked me if I knew how to use them. I thanked him for checking on me and assured him that everything was fine and that I had prepared the necessary stuff. He then gave me a hug, said "have fun" and left the room. My then-girlfriend and I ended up never having sex together because she didn't feel ready yet. However, when I look back, it was still very nice how my dad handled the situation. That's how I wanna do it too once I have a teenage son/daughter.

[That1tallguy]

i probably would if they were in a relationship and at least 16. I know if they want to have sex they'll have sex regardless of what I say. so better to do it at the safety of your home then I don't know out in public or somewhere sketchy.
the funny thing is I'm 20 and my mom still won't let me bring girls over. honestly don't think she ever well and till this day still thinks I'm a virgin. I don't want to do that to my kids cus like I said I know they're gonna fuck 1 way or another if the want to fuck

[mikemx55]

Would the gender of your kids change your opinion? Or the minimum age you defined? What does a 16yo know anyway :O?

[That1tallguy]

maybe I would probably feel like I would need to be more protective with her. I don't want to biased tho lol it wouldn't be fair if I let him but not her. 16 I don't know like I said if they want sex they'll have sex regardless of what I say. these are all hypotheticals so what I think I would do as a father now will probably change when I become a father. What would you do?

[mikemx55]

About being gender biased, I wouldn't worry about that, I think it's ok to be biased towards some things. "what I think I would do as a father now will probably change when I become a father. " So far the wisest from all the people that said "yes" xD Me? I'm just here to watch the replies.

[That1tallguy]

thanks

[ushagomez]

I will be just the same as my parents are, which is to expect my son/daughter to have their gf/bf come to the house and enjoy themselves including having sex. My parents always made it clear that they prefer to know that I am safe and comfortable and that enjoying sex is just an absolutely natural and normal part of relationships.

It will be the same for both a son and daughter. I hope that they will also be sensible in making sure they have chosen to enjoy with someone nice after getting to know them, not just finding someone random. Hopefully they will be open about it with me too and listen/accept my thoughts on the person.

I guess I find it really strange that anyone would say no sex in my house unless it is me. That just seems so odd. I had not considered my own situation to be so unusual.

[kaylaS91]

Sure, my future/son daughter can have sex in my house. I don't see why not as it's not like my forbidding them from doing that will prevent them from messing around with their boyfriend or girlfriend. I also know far too well how frustrating it can be to not have somewhere to be comfortable intimate at.
Granted that they're being smart about success (ie. making sure to correctly use some form of contraception), IDGAF.

[pabbijihain]

Hello :) how is your son doing? ;)

[kaylaS91]

@pabbijihain better things than having a long-living obsession with guys online.

[pabbijihain]

Nice to hear about your baby boy :))) How are you?

[mikemx55]

Also, do you think you'd feel comfortable having sex in your parent's house, knowing that they know about it?

[kaylaS91]

not me because my parents are Catholic and that's how I was raised (ie. nothing sexual outside of marriage). However, I don't really mind having sex at my boyfriend's house when both of his parents are home. We obviously keep the volume on mute but I see no sense in parents forbidding sexual activities from occurring in their homes, basically forcing people to either get married just so they can be permitted to have sex, or resorting to fucking around in public.

[vonasaurus]

i don't have kids. but, if i did, here's how i'd determine whether or not i'd be okay with it:

1) is my kid at least 18 years old?
2) how long has s/he known this person?
3) are they doing it safely?

i moved home very briefly at 23. i had been with my then-boyfriend for 5 years, and my parents still wanted us in separate rooms initially~ no matter how old you get, you'll always be their baby.

[mikemx55]

agree

[aaron13547]

My parents never cared about anything that I did as long as I did the things I was suppose to like do good I'm school... they actually said they would rather me do it at home where I was safe then out on the streets where I could get in trouble. one might think thats wrong and that a parents job is to raise their children right. but that made me a better person morally then everyone I know. I made mistakes and learned myself... I do things cause there right to do not cause I was told. I go the right thing without being told and only way I learned to be able to think about everything was learning myself on my own...

[btbc92]

If I found out my kids ate doing that after I made it clear since childhood no premarital sex before marriage, AND done in my house, they can be prepared to tell the person goodbye, or there is going to be severe consequences. N. O. That is so disrespectful. Those who say yes are the ones who dishonored and rebelled against their parents too. Unless of course their parents did the same. It's sickening. Your signing your kid up for failure in life with relationships and whoring around. I wouldn't do it before marriage, so why would I want them with somebody who believes the opposite of what they were taught? If they wanted to do that, then it will be with them completely out of my house. Not having that sin done in my home. I refuse to have kids in this world and get married for one of these reasons.

[btbc92]

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[mikemx55]

well, they may not share the same beliefs as you do. Do you think it's that unreasonable if they grow up and have different beliefs regarding that? What if otherwise, they are perfectly good and respectable citizens? Are they still at shame?

[btbc92]

As a Christian, it is our jobs as parents to speak to our children about the things of the world and why God says no. We need to be an example for others who don't know or refuse to. And it starts by you not doing the same thing now. Otherwise, your a hypocrite, and they won't hear what you have to say because why should they wait if you never waited? Why should they be honest with you if your not honest with them? Why should they share their private thoughts, if you can't share yours within reason? How can they relate to you if you can't relate to what they are experiencing? I grew up in a secular home. My late mom was a Christian. My father is not. If they don't want to be a Christian, then I cannot stop them. But my rules are still my rules along with their father's. As long as they live there, then they need to follow them or find a way to support yourself since you want to do an adult thing. They are not yet mature adults. Therefore as the old saying goes: you want to be one

[btbc92]

then you're going to get treated like one. Can you work? Can you work full time? Get your own place? Pay for your own things without my help? Fend for yourself? Get married now legally without my consent? If you get pregnant or get somebody else pregnant, can you afford to pay for a child? Raise a child when your still legally a 'child'? Not yet 21+? Still in my house? Are you paying my bills? Mortgage if any? No? Then you don't know what your doing. Or else be prepared to go to the foster system if you don't want to listen to me. Because I refuse to be accused of neglect and abuse for your crap. God said no sex before marriage, and in my house he will be honored and served to. When their of legal age, and out of my house. That is their choice. In my house, and expect hell. Doing that in the parents house that is not yours is dishonorable and disrespectful. Sin is still sin. His word clearly states if you don't forsake your parents, siblings, family, friends, spouse, etc

[btbc92]

for his sake then you don't love him [God/Lord]. Meaning, while you may love who you love, his word is above our ways.

[mikemx55]

do you have kids? Your views are quite strong on this. Life isn't always so black and white, I think... And god is only above you if you believe it to be that way, otherwise.. well, he is nothing then.

[btbc92]

No I do not. In fact. This is why I'm celibate. I refuse to give birth to children in this kind of world. Yes, it is that simple. I never did that as a child and knew what was right. Therefore, I don't want those generational curses of my family on both sides to effect my offspring. And neither do I want to be with somebody who views differ from mine or don't respect them. What other people do is their business. But like a domino effect, what affect one person will affect those who they come in contact with. I'm aware of what sex is and that is why I don't want any part of it as a virgin myself. Sex outside of marriage is an illegal marriage spiritually. You become ONE with them in both mind, body and spirit. Inheriting both the good and evil, best parts of them and the bad parts of them. Mimicking they do or what they did and you become them and they become. Then when you do and say crazy things your friends, family and yourself wants to know why. Studies have proven this.

[btbc92]

Think about this every time you have sex with somebody your not married to. And why it becomes so difficult to be sexually satisfied with just one person. Why you selfishly having one night stands or forcing your sexual desires, fantasies etc on your 'lover' even though they may not agree with it. This is what cause low self esteem, possible abuse, and make the women especially to hate sex with their husbands when married, tempting them to seek sex elsewhere or end up in a sexless marriage. I know by experience. That's exactly what happened in my parents sex life when married. At least similar. It was literally on the brink of divorce all my life since their marriage for 24 years. One night of pleasure is not worth a lifetime of pain that will affect your children. And they will be taught both sides of the coin. Not just one side. If I was to have kids

[btbc92]

In fact. My children will know why their grandmother isn't alive today. Because of the same reasons why I don't want them going out of God's will. She died of terminal cervical cancer, which you know is caused by HPV. She got infected at 13 by not waiting to an older guy. I believe he was 17. He had sex with 5 prostitutes, and she was a virgin when she got infected. In fact, she was scared that when she got pregnant with me when she met my father years later, that I would be infected too. Yes. I too was born out of wedlock. My parents didn't wait. My mom was backsliding. They would know the truth. I wouldn't lie to them like others do to their kids to selfishly protect their own feelings. This is the 2x I don't have a mom here with me to celebrate my birthday. Hers is coming up, and now I can't celebrate with her either. Seriously think about the consequences your facing by allowing your kids to participate in an adult manner in your home. Then when they partner dumps them, what are

[btbc92]

you as a parent going to do to help them? What are you going to say to them? And if they grow up meeting guys or women who refuses to marry them if this is what they want because of their sexual choices, now what? What answer can you give them? Has anybody not think of this before having kids, or doing what they do? This is what baffles me when my faith and beliefs gets attacked.

[mikemx55]

What happened in your past generations definitely doesn't have to happen with you neither your children. You can always educate them up to a certain degree, and guide their choices (keyword: guide). I can't put myself in your place of course, but you shouldn't let that past make you stop living a life. Sex is not forbidden, and even the pope now agrees with divorces and gay marriage and stuff like that. Religion changes as the times change. One can stick to beliefs, but we can't let them stop us from living, when those beliefs stop making sense. People are indeed hard to please, and I don't have one night stands, but everyone is sad about something in their life. Either because they did something, or because they refrained from doing something and regret it, when they see that others didn't turn out that bad. It's easy to fall into the fear of the rejection, lonenliness and sadness, but that is what life is about. It's what makes you alive, without it.. we're just empty souls

[mikemx55]

with hollow beliefs that don't takes us nowhere. They keep us "safe", but that is not safe, that can be just a bit of fear. About the deseases, the world is a much more informed place nowadays. I'm not saying that everyone should go banging each other as soon as they hit puberty. But when the time is right, we shouldn't refrain from it either... food for thought

[btbc92]

When you don't do the same sin is when those sins stop. You have to change and do the opposite of what your parents and family did. Do NOT be fooled. The Bible is clear that fornication is sin against your own body while every other sin is done outside the body. 1 Corinthians 6 Cleary states this. The Catholic church is NOT Christian. They condone things to bring the masses. Again, sex outside of marriage is abusing it. And I will heed and honor my late mothers desires to wait. God isn't just a God, he is a Father. I don't believe in religion. The ones who believe in religion are the same ones who are fleeing from the faith today.

[btbc92]

It's Not that God forbids sex. He made it clear. Get married or else your a harlot if you lost your virginity to one person outside of marriage, whore if with many. Many are being deceived by that because they don't understand the Bible. 1 Corinthians 7 also stated, if you can't contain your desires Get Married. If the man is acting uncomrly towards his virgin and they marry, they haven't sinned. My friend waited, aren't Christian and got married between the ages of 18-24. Still together and thriving and few already with children. There is no excuse for it.

[mikemx55]

Well, that is not a cause -> effect. That is just 2 separate things that happened. Marriage isn't a barrier for anything. There are also diseases between married people. Anyone who wants to cheat still will, a ring means nothing. And religion was only invented. YES INVENTED BY MEN to control women and control the masses. Don't be fooled by it, open your eyes for christ sake LOL It really sickens me to watch you write that stuff about bible... sigh it's got nothing to do with this really... and you are rulling yourself over the wrong reasons

[btbc92]

Look, if that's the life you want to live then so be it. Yiur not convincing me otherwise. I'm nog living your life. you say what I'm talking about the Bible sickens you but all of you people having sex like dogs sickens me as well. and the rest of us that don't believe in that understand that as well. at least I'm a virgin I'm not screwing around with every man on the Block. at least I don't got disease at least I'm not knocked up with somebody's kid who don't want to stay. I can actually say I'm quite blessed.

[btbc92]

of course people cheat within marriage but that's who they are as people. you think I'm talking about religion I'm talking about life. I'm not talking about no silly jokes. if everything so nice and gravy with you how come you're not married how come you're not with the first person you're with how come then possibly school around with somebody else when you're probably stuck with nothing. if you're happy with that lifestyle again that is your choice. if you're happy with going through one heartbreak to another that is also your choice. religion yes is invented by man but God did not condone religion. he is very much real as you and I. you could be living today and he could strike you down with lightning tomorrow. now we're on the possible brink of War with North Korea. The same things prophesied of the things to come. the world needs to wake up I'm already awake.

[mikemx55]

Oh hey, guess what? I'm also not knocking up people, nor full of diseases, nor have kids when I don't want to stay or whatever. Calm down on your throne of righteousness just because normal people are having normal sex. Sex is normal, all animals have it, go ahead and be prude about it if it makes you feel better.. jeez And no, I'm not fucking around from heartbreak to heartbreak. I'm not discussing this shit anymore with that line of answers you're giving me..

[aicarg]

I don't see why not. I understand and get how difficult it could be to find a safe, comfortable and affordable spot to be intimate. As long as they remain safe, smart, know how to be discreet and keep the business in his/her room, I'm fine with it. My dad was cool with my brothers and I having sex, was open on the topic, so I believe I'd one day have the same views towards this topic as well.

[Mikmex1651]

Probably not, I know they are gonna do it eventually somewhere else, but I don't want it to be my house either. Maybe they'd do it and I would pretend not to notice, that kind of deal

[mikemx55]

How do/would you feel doing it in your parents house?

[Mikmex1651]

In my parents house? I guess so, if we had no place to go and they aren't home.

[mikemx55]

If they weren't home, would they know? what if they were home?

[Mikmex1651]

If they were home, I would just make out a little, that's it. But if they aren't home, I would do it behind their backs, I wouldn't say I'm doing it.

[mikemx55]

lol, I get confused reading our replies to this, keep misreading the usernames

[Mikmex1651]

Haha, same 😂

[RJGraveyTrain]

If they're of age and they're being safe it's better for them to do it there then to do it somewhere like a friend's house

[mikemx55]

Or the back of an ice cream van xD

[Dim1213]

This would probably be me and that would be my mom/future wife busting in.
https://gogoanime.io/tsurezure-children-episode-4

[1Anon]

If I had children then yes provided they used contraception. I'd feel safer knowing it's being done under my roof than somewhere else.

[Kitten967]

Yeah I would

[Kitten967]

My opinion doesn't change. I'd rather them have sex somewhere that's safe.

[fauchelevent]

I mean, if they were like 12, no. But if they were a more reasonable age and so was their partner, sure. I had sex in my boyfriends house, his mother didn't care as long as we were safe, I wanna kinda do the same thing she did.

[SarahsSummer]

It would depend mostly on their age.

[mikemx55]

Any special threshold? Or maybe it would be more about their maturity?

[CheerGirl38139]

how old is this hypothetical child? Legal age?

[mikemx55]

It's up to you to decide. Answer for instance at 16 and at 20.

[CheerGirl38139]

16 NO 20 Circumstantial

[Schrodingerscat]

Depends on how old they are. If they are past 18 or so, I don't mind.

[Schrodingerscat]

For me it doesn't change.

[LaFemmeFatale]

Probably yes.

[MarthaRose]

Yes, but depending on their age. If they get too loud then I'll listen to music falling asleep. lol

[Lyndsielee666]

Depends on their age and how serious the relationship is but I'd rather it be done somewhere safe instead of outside or wherever else they can find privacy

[HonestGirlAlways]

I'd be a mom about it, but sure. I'd probably leave a thousand condoms on their bed and discuss birth control. It's better to do that safely in my own house than go god knows where and do god knows what. That is, if they're at least 16.

[ArabianPwincess197]

Of course as far as it's in the privacy of his/her bedroom and they keep quiet lol though considering I'm quite young myself and not married, that possibility seems quite far off lol!

[mikemx55]

Oh well, you're not that young for these things :o

[BoySittingOnTheMoon]

Honestly, probably yes. But only if they're over 16 which is a legal age from the UK.

[mikemx55]

so, the only thing that would stop you is because of a legal age? if legal was 14, would it also be ok?

[BoySittingOnTheMoon]

I lost my virginity at age 14. Even if I forbid them, they are going to do it somewhere else anyway which I wouldn't know, if they using contraception or not. It's better doing it in my house knowing they using safe sex.

[mikemx55]

not everyone will go nutz at 14. They could wait to grow up, that doesn't mean they'd just "do it somewhere else"

[BoySittingOnTheMoon]

Yeah, I'd advise them to not have sex if they're aren't ready for consequences.

[BlackSkye]

It really depends on their age and their relationship, if they're close to someone and over the age of 18, and of course, if the tribe doesn't mind the person. I'm all for it.

[April10]

Better my house then the strreets. It's going to happen