Should I break up with my nasty pig of a girlfriend? She's so messy? Aren't girls supposed to be neat and clean?

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Her room is disgusting. She is so damn messy. I took these pics while she was in the bathroom and her room smells like onions and garbage. The rest of her house is spotless but her room is nasty. I told her to clean it up and act like a lady and she tells me I don't clean up after myself but I do. She don't. She always leave a mess anywhere. She also burps and farts a lot too. Talks about sex a lot and is just fucking weird. I mean I love her but I don't wanna fuck her cuz she stinks and she's messy af. Her hair is knotty cuz she don't brush it. She don't have any respect for herself and I'm sick of it. She needs to change and act like a lady. My past girlfriends never acted like this. How do I get her to change or should I just dump her? She's living like a nasty trailer park hoe

angelwithin · Accepted Answer

You should break up with her because you don't like her and honestly.. she really is messy and should clean up after herself. You've asked her to do it, but she won't and you absolutely hate it, so that pretty much settles the break up.

She should break up with you because you don't know how to respect people you apparently love. Just because she is not a certain way or has flaws in general does not give you the right to bad mouth her so much. My boyfriend and none of my ex's have ever called me bad names.. even in our worst argument. The way you talk about her.. someone that you "love".. is just so disrespectful.

LadyVara · Accepted Answer

If you want to help clean up her damn room yourself and stop taking pictures and posting them on the internet. This whole post is just wrong. How would she feel if she found out about this post? Sure she is messy, but you have no right to go this far behind her back and pull a stunt like this. Posting those pictures was strike one, but talking about your girlfriend in such a hateful way is completely cruel. Break up with her so she does not have to live with an emotional mess like you, because if I were her and my man did this I would dump him right then and there.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Your ignorant. You don't deserve her. The way you talk about somebody you "love" is appalling.

IdekButHey · Accepted Answer

that room is dusgusting, you love her so offer to help her clean up. maybe she needs your help to set her on the right track. and if she refuses to clean it up even with your help then thats on you if you want to break up with her or not. maybe she has something going on (not another raltionship but I mean an issue, something thats bothering her) thats making her be the way she is. make sure she's okay and make her feel comfortable so she can talk to you and let her know you're their for her. if you call her out on being messy and stuff it will bug her and probably hurt her a bit so be nice and see if she's okay

Kimosabe · Accepted Answer

Umm... there's this really complicate thing I figured out after living a really, really long time, and thinking about things a lot and doing a whole lot of research: If you don't like someone, you should not go out with them. Trust me on this; I can't explain it, it's too complicated, just trust me.

witherwing · Answer

If you have so many negative things to say about her, then yes. You should consider ending the relationship. But talk to her about it first.

GeminiAgent007 · Answer

That's not messy that's just filthy sorry. Girls aren't suppose to be anything majority of people just aren't that dirty especially with their own place. If your girlfriend doesn't know how to clean up after herself now she never will and if she's your girlfriend why put her on blast and call her a nasty hoe online? I understand your disgust but if you don't like her don't date her.

samhradh_leannan · Answer

If you don't want to be with her, break up. I'd have a hard time dating someone who was that messy. But you're a jerk for posting photos of her living space online without her permission.

ciitruskiwi · Answer

Maybe she's depressed. When you feel like shit on the inside it transfers to other things, such as lack of hygiene and not cleaning up. She could just be lazy but there could also be a serious underlying reason to all this.

ChevelleBaby · Answer

Wow that is the dirtiest room I have seen yet. Disgusting. Break up with her. That says a whole lot about her as a person.

1Anon · Answer

Stereotypically girls tend to be messy and guys tend to be really neat and tidy bedroom wise. She's probably not got the motivation to tidy it because it's gone really bad.

Tbh for her personal image and hygiene to have gone that bad, she sounds like she's depressed and in a rut!

For you to call her those names, yeah... you shouldn't be with her.

Who knows, maybe that'd be the wake up call she needs to change... or it could make her worse. Either way, there's nothing you could do, the change has to come from her.

Dalonna · Answer

tell her that she needs to take better care of herself and here surroundings, and if she won't, take a break for awhile.

MissWeirdness · Answer

And I thought my room was messy O. o damnnnnnnnn I live in heaven sorry boy but that tooo much

Fern_nerf · Answer

You're the one that needs to be dropped. If you loved her, you wouldn't talk trash about her like that. I bet you can be a nasty person too. Geez, you are expecting way too much thinking women are supposed to be perfect.

taleets · Answer

that is gross. she must be super lazy

Whatthefluff · Answer

Wow, that's pretty nasty? Before seeing the pictures, I thought I could relate, being messy myself. But this? Wow.

321rose · Answer

Tell her to clean up her room or your breaking up with her. If she cares she'll do it

claramins · Answer

Em girls aren't supposed to be clean😒

MrAdams · Answer

you are still with her? you must be brave or desperate, that room looks worse than junkyard near where i live

acaurelia · Answer

First of all girls aren't "supposed" to be anything. They can be messy or clean. Gender has nothing to do with it. The way you talk about her is very disrespectful even if she is messy. If you truly love her you will stay with her. However if cleanliness is something that you want in a woman and you've asked her to clean her room and she makes no effort too then maybe she's not the one for you.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Just tell her that you want a girlfriend who takes care of herself and her property. Give her a month chance and if no change happens break up.

Lance1965 · Answer

Judging by the way you talk about her I suspect the problems in your relationship go way beyond a messy room but you do make a good point. My ex was messy too and extremely lazy and it was hard to deal with.