13 year old sister begged me not to tell my mum she gave a bj?

Question

I've been home for few weeks as it's the summers holidays, I've spent loads of time with family but have barely seen my little sister, mum says she's always out with her friends and her new boyfriend. Me and her had a movie night 3 days ago and all of a sudden she starts crying, I spent at least 10 minutes asking her what's s wrong, she then confessed she gave her boyfriend a blowjob because her friend said it was 'cool'. She then begged me not to tell mum, what should I do? She's not went outside since she told me and has stayed up in her room telling everyone she was feeling really sick! I don't really know how to handle it because when I was her age I didn't even know what a blowjob was!!

tinyclit · Accepted Answer

If she's now sexually active, then it's important to get her on to birth control before the inevitable happens and she gets pregnant. Yelling at her, shaming her, doing the "just say no" thing will not help protect her. If your parents are good parents they will understand and appreciate this. If they are bad parents they will not.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Do not tell your mother. Instead sit down beside her and explain her that it's too soon for her to be doing that. She shouldn't feel ashamed, it was just a mistake, but tell her to make sure not to do that again. You are her sister, do not rat her out like that. Just try to advice her not to do it again.

yuppthatsme · Accepted Answer

Yeah don't tell your mom your sister had the trust in u to tell u
Also her mom wouldn't be able to do anything about it at this point either just comfort ur sister and be there for her I didn't have anyone there for me when things like this happened to me so just be glad she had the trust to tell you

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You need to have the talk with her so at least she's safe. And try reassure her. Don't tell your parents, it'll only isolate her

jacquesvol · Accepted Answer

in my opinion, 13 is too young for that. "Others do it. ", He asked it." are NOT a good excuse. She clearly doesn't feel well about it. Your mom should help her.

ZSean · Accepted Answer

leave it be. Tell her to be careful in doing anything she isn't comfortable with. Do not tell your mom... that is just childish

AaronTupaz · Answer

You will lose her trust if you tell your parents. Be happy she told you, and just be there for her.

Dalonna · Answer

Times are changing. do what you feel is best.

Malikai96 · Answer

Don't tell your parents. My younger brother told me things like this before and I just encouraged him to be safe. Telling them would have only caused an unnecessary uproar over something that should've stayed private.

Cutekity · Answer

She is your sister. You are supposed to keep her secret and support her. She trusted you. Just be there for her.

Caaarl · Answer

Just give her advise some people get into things earlier than others. Advise her not to trust things and get tested.

cantingpython · Answer

I'd say don't tell your mom but comfort you sister as if you were the parent

LandryBoy92 · Answer

dont tell and tell her thats not cool

KlauMrlau2 · Answer

Don't tell your parents, but act like they would.

Reddwolf · Answer

Then be her friend and talk to her about it

dev64 · Answer

Dont tell your parents or you are likely to lose her all together and she'll go deeper in her shell and then she will have no one to talk to and help her