Straight Girls Here, do you experience physical sparks or sexual stimulation when you see sexy guys?

[Anonymous]

Today I heard a new thing from one of my girl friend. I don't know whether it is true or just an assumption.

In general (on average) women literally feel no attraction to a guy based on physical appearance. They never check out strangers. They can look at a guy they don't know and realize that he is technically attractive. But They don't feel attracted, if that makes any sense. The only start to feel attracted to a guy once they spend a little time talking to them. Then they start paying attention to their looks.

Actually what do I feel when I see sexy women : I admire her, I check out her body, My mind say "wow she is hot".
What do my body feel when I see sexy women : My body experience a physical spark, triggered attraction, tickle type feelings, tingle, feel excitement and a little flustered. Actually I can't expressed my feelings because of lack of words. I guess it's a primal instinct and a primary feelings of sexual turn on.

I feel it towards women that's why I am so interested to women. I want to date women. Actually it's a initial attraction. If I wouldn't feel it I wouldn't feel interested towards women. I wouldn't want to date them. Even I wouldn't checkout them.

I don't feel it towards men that's why I don't feel any urge to look at them.

But what do this initial attraction feel like for women? My girl friend's comment make me feel depressed. I feel like that I am sinner, I am weird, I am perverted. Because whenever I see sexy women my brain, my instinct automatically produces this kinds of feelings.

As a woman what do you feel when you see someone sexy? Is she true that in general women experience nothing towards sexy things, abs, six packs, muscle, butt?

[Megalyssa]

It is definitely true that hot male body is attractive. We do check out hot men. However, I mostly do when I am on a dating scene and feel that I might have a chance. If this is not the case I don't feel much except for an aesthetic pleasure. Also I was feeling ugly most of my life which could be the reason for surpressing any kind of feelings towards hot strangers.
Thank you for describing what you feel. That was enlightening. I can say that I never felt any kind of these. Towards my SO only. Other than that - hunting excitement. Hope it makes sense
Other women might say different.

[Asker]

aesthetic pleasure - define please. what does aesthetic pleasure feel like. when do you see hot women do you also feel aesthetic pleasure? you do see guys in the same ways gay guys see women? asexually? you can never get arouse visually doesn't matter how hot the guy is except your husband?

[Megalyssa]

It gives you those vibes - like when you see, hear or experience anything perfect or close to perfect. Not sexual for me. I might be to tough on myself by subconsciously not allowing any feelings that may hurt. That might be just me. I was kind of programmed by my parents not to get into anything risky and that negatively influenced my entire sex life in general

[Megalyssa]

Also us women might be wired differently. He can be super hot but he is not mine so its great to look at but other than that I don't care

[Asker]

when do you see hot women do you also feel aesthetic pleasure? I heard sexual attraction is instinct. No one can control it.

[Megalyssa]

May be that's just unlucky me. Or may be women do not feel sexual attraction towards men that they are not there's

[Asker]

when do you see hot women do you also feel aesthetic pleasure?

[Megalyssa]

Definitely I do

[Asker]

Then what is the difference do you feel when you see hot men vs hot women? Same? Are you bisexual?

[Megalyssa]

I am straight. Look at the end what matters is us women (including your girlfriend) being turned on by our men, not by looking at strangers no matter how hot they are. I see that most responding in here are responding about same. There are exceptions to this, but they are exactly that - exceptions.

[Asker]

If you feel same towards both gender than how did you know that you are straight? LOL

[Megalyssa]

Right I might be still confused being aged 40+, after 16+5 years in marriages and having 2 awesome sons

[Asker]

You are not confused. You are confusing us. Because according to you women only aroused by their boyfriend. So, those who are single in this sense they are asexual? Because without boyfriend women can never get horny?

[mandymore]

I guess it depends on the guy. I think every women has a specific type that gives her that physical spark. in general though I can thing a guy is hot but just be friends with him till I get to know him better. looks are important but personality is the big pull.
There is a difference between physical/sexual attraction and emotional attraction. That's why a guy can be just passable in looks but upon closer acquaintance it seems like others pail in comparison to him. I can appreciate looks without getting hot and bothered. Hope this helps😊

[Asker]

When you see guys you feel indifferent in the same way asexuals feel? You look at guys in the same way gay guys look at hot women. Both are in platonic way. No magnetic attraction present here. You are not attracted to your opposite sex, you are attracted to the person whom you have some sort of connection? So, abs, six packs, broad shoulder, butt do nothing for you because you don't experience any attraction initially? You are totally unaffected by guys if he is stranger doesn't matter how hot he is?

[uradorito_]

the only thing that a guy can do to turn me on (besides touch me) is kiss me really deep and with tongue. but when I'm staring at a dude, yes I realize they're hot, but I don't get a physical reaction out of just seeing some dude naked/shirtless, it takes more.

[Asker]

You don't experience visual stimulation? Visual attraction? Looking at hot guys do nothing for you? You can realize that the guy is hot same in way gay guys can realize that a woman is hot? Both in platonic way. No attraction, nothing. Then what is the difference between you and asexual? Both feel indifferent when they see attractive person.

[uradorito_]

visual attraction yes, stimulation, no. seeing someone I think is hot, I am attracted to them mentally, it just doesn't stir any sort of physical reaction in me. yes, just looking at hot guys doesn't do anything for me really. and yeah, except I have an attraction towards the dudes and want them, gay guys don't want women obviously. and I'm not asexual. I do feel sexual attraction towards people, it just takes a physical contact to spark it. if I was asexual I wouldn't feel anything sexual for anyone ever.

[Asker]

[seeing someone I think is hot, I am attracted to them mentally] could you explain this. I didn't get this. You do experience visual attraction. But how do you recognize that it is attraction if you experience no visual stimulation? Asexuals don't feel anything when they see people. You also feel nothing when you see people. In this sense I call you asexual. So, according to you without physical contact you don't experience sexual turn on? If in your whole life if you don't get any physical contact you won't get arouse? Logically you don''t need to masturbate, or don't need to get horny because you only get turn on when physical contact is present. Right?

[Anonymous]

Tbh your girlfriend sounds like she's full of shit.

[Asker]

She tells me the reality. It's true that women are indifferent to stranger. They have to have some sort of connection otherwise hot bodies do nothing for them.

[Opinion Owner]

Riiiiight. I call bullshit.

[Asker]

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2539273-do-you-require-some-sort-of-connection-before-you-find-a-person

Read this.

[Opinion Owner]

Except responses in that thread are 50/50 when it comes to women voicing their opinions, and simply stating yes or no means jackshit.

[Asker]

Now look at this post's comments.

[Solast]

Sometimes you see someone and you know that he is attractive, but I think that girls most of the times wants to know him or has the idea that she knows things of him like via social media and stuff. They imagine what kind of person someone is and get attracted to that image in their mind

[Asker]

[Sometimes you see someone and you know that he is attractive] yes asexuals can know that someone is attractive. Then what is the difference between asexuals and girls? Both of they can just know that the person is attractive but instinctively feel nothing. So, according to you when girls see guys whom they don't know personally they feel indifferent doesn't matter how hot he is? Girls are totally unaffected by guys body if they know nothing about them? So, six packs, abs etc is just a wastage?

[awain98]

sometimes

[Asker]

sometimes means? rarely or often?

[awain98]

rarely

[awain98]

but it does happen

[Asker]

So, most of the time when you see guys you feel indifferent in the same way asexual feel?

[awain98]

basically

[Asker]

So, you most of the time you are asexual?

[awain98]

no...

[Asker]

If you don't experience sexual attraction most of the time then how do you know that most of the time you are not asexual?

[Anonymous]

I dont know about the rest, butif I see a sexy guy Im hella stimulated lol

[Asker]

Are you kidding me?

[Opinion Owner]

nope