Could a girl be a lesbian/gay but still like sex with men?

[Anonymous]

Ok so someone just brought this up to me and got me thinking. I'm bi but have a preference for girls. I'll date almost any girl if we click regardless of her appearance but I'm really picky about men. I like skinny guys with baby faces (love emo looking boys ). I Hate facial and body hair and a lot of other really rugged masculine looking features. When I was a teenager I was confused about my sexual orientation. I didn't really like making out with guys and thought I was gay. Then when I was with a boy for the first time I realized I love cock. Like I love sucking it. I love riding it. I love getting fucked by it. I love when a guy has an orgasm somewhere in me and the sounds he makes while doing so. I love to continue sucking a guy hard after he's cum and is very sensitive and feel his whole body pulse and shake and quiver in my mouth. So I realized there was no way I could be a lesbian. Sometimes I even like giving guys head more than girls. I still prefer kissing girls and have always seen myself in a long term relationship with another woman. Is this normal? Are there any girls who identify as gay but like sex with men? I know this is an awkward topic but I'm curious. Thanks. Kaylan

[Anonymous]

I am kind of similar to you, but with less sexual attraction to women. I crush on them emotionally and can easily see why someone could love them.

Women are often kind and empathetic, and easy to bond with, imho. Not that there aren't horrible women - there are! Just that many are in tune with others feelings more. They do considerate things more often. They're much more likely to be thoughtful and kind for the purpose of making the other person feel better - while more men seem driven by achievement and reward.

To me, Men are vibrantly sexual and have a sexual magnetism. Clean ones smell sexy. The way our bodies fit together is amazing. Their muscles and hard dicks are so confident/powerful and exciting. There is some kind of chemical bond that isn't even logical.

I have lesbian relatives and friends, however, who don't seem to pick up on that attraction. They all say sex with men felt like it was missing something and for some, seemed gross. Some say they find some men good looking, but don't feel any urge to touch them. They fantasize about women, adore women, get hot for women. And their emotional side matches up there too.

It's confused me a long time too, until I decided sexuality must honestly be a huge, complicated spectrum. People try too hard to push it into boxes. You are who you are.

The roughest part of being bisexual, or falling in a gray area is that you may not get both your preferred emotional or sexual "type" with your partner as easily. But there are a lot of people in the world, so I wouldn't discount it either.

[Asker]

Have you ever been with a woman sexually hun?

[Opinion Owner]

No, I'm not really interested enough in it to try. But I see sexual interest as a spectrum too.

[Anonymous]

I wish I were you -.- i feel like you're the me that I could be if I wasn't too picky of who I'd lose my virginity to... girl by the way

[Asker]

So wait are you a virgin? Are you saying you'd rather lose your virginity to a girl? Sorry hun I'm confused.

[Opinion Owner]

i am a virgin and i actually would like to lose my virginity to a girl... i love guys i really do but the idea of dicks just totally freaks me out...

[Asker]

So you still have your 🍒? How would you want it done? With fingers, a toy... maybe a strap on so she could be on top of you and kiss and look into your eyes?

[Opinion Owner]

I guess I'd be open to pretty much anything and everything she'd request. won't know what I dont like if i don't try everything right?

[Asker]

Well of course silly but you only lose your virginity once so that's why I asked how you'd want it to happen? You can try everything else afterward.

[Opinion Owner]

I think if want my first time to be a threesome then. a dude and a girl so I'd get to "lose" my virginity to a guy but I'd also get what I wanted of being with a girl at the same time so it would take out the awkwardness of looking for a pole

[Asker]

Sweetie threesomes are the most awkward and unromantic thing imaginable if you all aren't completely comfortable and into each other. Or if anyone had never had one before.

[Asker]

There's nothing awkward about girl/girl sex. Especially if the girl your with is experienced. But that's my opinion.

[Asker]

What would you wants the hypothetical girl to be doing while the guy is on top of you and in you for the first time?

[Opinion Owner]

making out with her so as to distract myself. I'm a super good kid its not even funny... my idea of fun is figuring out what mistakes my teacher could have made in my college notes... If things were ideal i think I'd like a lot of experience with girls cause i find them so much beter to be around than guys

[Asker]

Sweetie that doesn't seem like it would be very romantic or fun for the girl your with. I wouldn't want to distract you from something you find a turnoff. I'd rather be the one on top of you with my skin against yours and my fingers deep up in you listening to you moan into my mouth.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm now I'm smiling like an idiom in public.

[Asker]

Sweetie can you pm me? I'd love to talk to you more about this.

[Opinion Owner]

my xpert level doesn't allow me to send messages which sucks :/ lia_98 is who i am though if this app actually allows people to search

[Asker]

Oh you commented on something else of mine. Your cute by the way. What nationality are you if you don't mind me asking?

[Opinion Owner]

I'm Eritrean, just above Ethiopia but I'm living in south Africa now :)

[Asker]

I see didn't expect that. I don't know anything about your culture but would love to find out more. How old are you!

[Opinion Owner]

turning 19 in 12 days 😂.

[Opinion Owner]

how did you not expect that? where did you think I was from? (just out of curiosity~~ seriously hoping you weren't thinking india😂😂)

[Asker]

Oh I thought you were already 19. I thought somewhere in Asia to be honest. Is that bad?

[Opinion Owner]

haha! nope I'm actually really glad you didn't say India. like you have no idea how many people just walk up to me cause they're confused about my nationality and are like "youre indian right?" and I'm like "..." then they see my sister and they're like "and she's mixed" oh my word. lol

[Opinion Owner]

how about you? What's your nationality?

[Asker]

Well I live in the United States in New York. I'm a whole bunch of different things (all from Western Europe mostly). I know I have a lot of German.

[Opinion Owner]

that's so cool. New York is one of my hopeful destinations for when I'm done studying.

[Opinion Owner]

do you by any chance have whatsapp?

[Asker]

Don't know what that is. I should be able to pm soon hopefully. What are you studying?

[Opinion Owner]

investment analysis and portfolio management for this year :) then next year I'm gonna be studying film and television cause i wanna be a script writer :) what work do you do?

[Asker]

And your 18? Are you a college freshman? What's your actual degree program? I work for a government agency. I don't really have a focus... I guess you could say I do special projects but my actual title is "Management Analyst" which is basically term for generic gov employee. I don't actually manage anyone or analyze any management. I went to school for Business but have never really used my degree.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm a first year and I'm studying company's analysis so basically everything that has to be done with taxes and money flow and investing etc... I'm transferring to film and television studies in 2018 though cause that's my passion. government work is fun right? Like good leave and good pay.. that type of stuff?

[Asker]

Lol not really. It's the most boring thing most people can imagine. The pay isn't great but the benefits are. You basically can't be cut or let go without majorly screwing up and even then it's hard.

[Asker]

I'm sure you've been told this but you probably have a much better chance of getting a job if you remain on your current program right?

[Opinion Owner]

oh yeah, im gonna continue my course via correspondence next year while I take full classes for the new thing. I'm just getting a lot of qualifications before I officially start working :)

[RachelleDraws]

You're most likely bisexual.
I'm lesbian, I don't feel any attraction to men.
I just like girls. Cute girls~

[Jack489109]

Ok so I've heard of straight men who are not attracted to other men at all and would never kids another man but just like to suck a cock... the don't even want the other dude sucking there's. I've heard the same thing but with guys that only like to receive buttsex from other guys but are otherwise straight. Maybe your the female version of that. You don't like men but are only attracted to the male anatomy. Try something for me. Check out some transgender porn. Look up one that actually looks and sounds like a girl but with a cock. Try Sarina Valentina. Anyways tell me if this turns you in more then men or women. Think of if as an experiment.

[ND4SPD31]

Damn, sounds hot to me!!! Lol. 🙂 I think ur bisexual but like u said ur more into girls but love sex with guys. I'm bisexual but I love girls over guys lol. You'd probably like me cuz I'm not very hairy & even though I'm not an emo guy, I'm tall & skinny/slim/slender build. Lol.

[Asker]

Lol well I don't think most emo guys are into 28 year olds. I don't get to talk to a lot of bi guys. What do you prefer about each gender. What kind of sex do you like with each?

[ND4SPD31]

Would u like to pm me?

[Asker]

So I don't get to talk to many bi guys. For you is the sex better with girls or guys? What do you like most about each?

[Asker]

Oh didn't see you already replies.

[Asker]

I didn't have enough coins

[Asker]

Experience

[Asker]

But you can pm me and tell me.

[ND4SPD31]

U have to follow me so I can pm u.

[morrigan_aensland]

thats just called bisexuality... completely normal

[Zer0Ghost]

I don't know why the identity "bisexual" wouldn't fit what you're talking about just because you're picky about who a given male is, you still enjoy sex with both of those genders

[Jellow]

You might identify as homoflexible take a look into that.

[Asker]

Omg sounds more like if describes gay for pay pornstars or guys in prison. But I get it you just taught me something new.

[Xavixk]

No that would mean you are bisexual.
But bisexual people can still have a preference. You seem to be attracted to women and feminine guys, so that makes sense.

[Rissyanne]

It sounds like you are bisexual

[wankiam]

i have met two or three like that

[SparklingNight]

No. You're no lesbian when you like men as well. That's called being bisexual.

[Asker]

That's what I thought.

[romeo_and_cats]

I got many lesbians and I fuck some they very hardly like after 8 months trying! I discover I love lesbians too! Believe by your story your not lesbian! Lesbians don't feel comfortable with men in no sense in life!

[romeo_and_cats]

I just want to let clear that I prefer lesbian than women because they're so fin full of love they don't wake in the morning and discounts hate just because progesterone feeling!

[i-like-twister-fries]

there's a thing likw heteromantic or homoromantic. Think of it as sexuality exept for romantic feelings, not sexual. It could be you're homoromantic but bisexual.

[Intraluminal]

Sounds like you'd be happiest in a poly or triad situation.

[Caaarl]

I believe many people would say no and just say that you must be bisexual. But I think it's more complex than that personally I think yes.

[mellough1]

Yeah. Bisexual people could be more attracted and enjoy sex with one gender more than other. You sound bisexual

[Kreneman]

Your Bisexual but at the same time you just comfirm that your more straight then being Bi and its just matter of time until you meet that one guy.

[Daddy53]

Yes. Happen. To. Me. Once. Lesbian. Couple. Was. Horny. Let. Me. Make. Love. To. Both. Of. Them. Then. We. Had. A. 3. Some. They. Both. Climbed. On. Top. Me. One. Sat. On. My. Face. Oral. Sex. Other. One. Sat. On. My. Dick.

[jacquesvol]

My best guess: bisexual

[Texasmade1]

You are bisexual. It means you like penis and pussy. Its fine

[akadatank44]

I believe most bi people have a preference of which sex they want to date and be romantic with.

[Mabes3]

Sexuality is not a rigid box. It is perfectly normal to be interested in different things from different sorts of people. even in the same sex, I'm sure there are types of people you may prefer for one type of activity vs another. so if it comes to not being romantic per se with men, but still very Sexual, it's totally fine. just get a boy with a good razor subscription

[naraku]

Absolutely not. A lesbian only likes sex and relationships with other females. Otherwise you would be bisexual.

[LovelyLindsay]

I'm bisexual and I prefer girls and that's completely normal. You're probably like that too cause if you were a lesbian you wouldn't even be thinking like that about guys.