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Does it bother you if your girlfriend masterbates?

My boyfriend said he didn't want me to masterbate on the days we didn't see each other this week and so it would be sexier when we see each other. I'm a very sexual girl and I masterbate when I want. I like it. And I don't see him everyday. I thought it was weird, he's like insulted that I got myself taken care of so to speak on the days we aren't together. What do you think guys? Does it bother you if your girlfriend masterbates?
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  • I'm single right now, but when I have a girlfriend I will often have phone sex with her, and talk dirty to her while she masturbates. I've gotten pretty good at it, and can bring a girl to orgasm just from talking to her. The next time you talk to your boyfriend, suggest you have phone sex together while you masturbate.

    I once had a girlfriend that hated it when I watched porn. She took offense to me "touching myself while looking at other girls" and I didn't really understand why at the time. I guess she just wanted to meet all my sexual needs herself, and didn't want me doing anything sexual without her. Your boyfriend may feel the same way she did.

  • No, of course not. I can't always be there every time she's horny, so what's up with that? I mean, it's one thing if it's part of a dominance/control thing - and you enjoy that, and want the tease/frustration that only he can relieve - but if that's not part of your dynamic, then, it's just strange.

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  • i think it's more just the fact that he wants to be the one to make you feel so good, and if you do it without him he may feel like you don't need him for that but by all means if you want to do it, do it, it's your body

    • I think you hit the proverbial nail on the head! Wouldn't you agree @MeetKitty123 ?

    • @Guardian45 The moment a person has their umbilical cord cut is the moment their body becomes COMPLETELY their own! Though I may agree with the girl above that some men do indeed believe they are untitled to have control over a womans body or else their egos may be wounded I cannot agree or accept a man who decides to behave in this manner. The woman has been an individual since birth... Who does he think he is to believe he can mandate her body? He should be proud she has gifted moments of her body to him and understand its a privilege not a right! The number one way to loose this privilege is to forget that rule by forgetting that rule they state they have forgetten how special it was in the first place to receive the gift of her person. Now A man who treats a woman as she is a true gift and values her independence is a keeper and a gift in himself and a girl who cannot appreciate such a man is not deserving of him.

  • That would be like you asking him not to masturbate and it's really pathetic of him

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  • Not at all. Sexual health is just as important as other aspects of health. If you are aroused you shouldn't need anyone's permission to relieve yourself. Remember it's your body, your rules.

  • I choose yes as in I have been where you are.
    Not with my current man!

    I have had other men get mad at my masterbating or even jealous.
    I hate that I can't stand when a man makes a girl feel shameful or guilty for getting off without him.
    Its the worst when their attitude is You can get off by your own hands only if you include me!
    BUT
    "Dont mention it if you are getting off without me... Cuz I don't want to hear about it!"

    Damn that attitude pisses me off... Well if you want to start putting restrictions on what I can or cannot talk or what I can or cannot do about how about we dont talk or do anything anymore!

    It really does make a girl feel crappy unloved and as if she should feel guilty or ashame of herself when a man takes that approach!

    • I'm sorry you were made to feel that way. I'm sure that wasn't the intent!

  • I would only have 2 major conditions that might make me be against her masturbating. 1) if it interferes with our sex life (same rule goes for me) and 2) she never lets me occasionally watch or help out (no sex).

    I don't see anything wrong it as long as she comes back to only me for the real thing. I think that there are some fun opportunities there or some alone time which can be just as valuable as together time if handled properly.

  • Doesn't bother me at all. I don't have a girlfriend at the moment but if I did, I would totally be cool with it. To me it is a turn on.

  • Hell no! I actually encouraged her to do say. Apparently she had never done it before.
    I wanted her to be able to enjoy herself by herself.
    Watching is nice too, but even if she only does it when she is alone, it is a positive thing.

  • would bother me more if she didn't because i sure as hell would be

  • No, infact i'd like her to and would love to watch her do it.
    If her sex drive is higher then mine it would be better for her to masturbate alongside our sessions rather then have sex so much it desensitizes me and becomes a slog. If it effects her willingness to have sex however i'd ask her to slow down.

  • Is he allowed to masturbate - Frankly seems a bit strange to request that - Masturbation is just a normal natural fact of life.

  • That's an irrationally controlling desire to have, ultimately. I generally don't masturbate if I know nookie is coming around the corner or the week but I don't want to be haranged about it if I do, & this is when I think its appropriate to apply the golden rule for her masturbation habits as well. He might just be one of those people who enjoys not cumming for a while so that when he presse refresh on that page it feels way better, & is trying to get you to act like he does in this respect. Maybe for a week you could try doing that, and see how it works for you just for his benefit, but draw the line when it happens & you want to say its not your thing. Personally I don't view masturbating as a sign of disrespect in a relationship unless she'd just rather do that than fuck when i'm around.

  • It would bother me if she doesn't masturbate! I think it is important for a healty sexuality. Girls should do it much more often!
    Guys and girls are also different in this. I learned that guys get more aroused and sexual the longer they dont cum. But for girls, its the other way around. A girl is more aroused and sexual the more she orgasms.

  • a good boyfriend lets his girl masturbate but a GREAT boyfriend gives her a hand

  • Bother is a strong word, but I do prefer it for various reasons:

    - It's more fun if you didn't do it a few days and have all the desire and tension piled up.
    - That's part of being a couple. Can have sex together rather than manual work.
    - It makes sexual activity more special.

  • Anyone who has a problem with their romantic partner masturbating is a control freak who is fucked in the head.
    Run for the door, now, and do not look back.

  • Yes a lot, it is important to make each other the happiest in a relationship.
    We all know that if you masturbate your sex drive becomes less.
    I agreed with my girlfriend to never masturbate and to always satisfy each other whether it me orally or intercourse, no matter how tired or whatever.

    This made us both put so much more passion and creativity in out sex lives. It really is a HUGE improvement to rely on each other for sexual satisfaction.

  • I am amazed this bothers people. Women masterbate they get or are more in touch with their sexuality. Great to be with a woman who is not shy about what she likes and not afraid to hear what you want,.

  • only if she prefers it over having sex with me. otherwise i´m totally fine with it

  • when you didn't see than masturbation is okay... but just after coitus its insulting

  • I always thought it was very hot when girlfriends masterbated.

  • No it doesn't nothing wrong with that

  • No, it's natural

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