A friend fingered me but he didn't kiss me and I feel weird now... How should I behave?

[Anonymous]

We are good friends, we have been hanging out since February but it was never just the two of us. Last Friday night me and 3 more friends were at his apartment drinking, listening to music and he would sometimes point a laser at my legs so that his cat would jump on me. 😁 Suddenly I felt dizzy and I lied down on the floor. He asked me if I wanted to lie in the bed, but I said I couldn't move. So he told the others to sleep in his bed and he said "I will sleep here, Sophie is soft" and he put his head on my butt. 💣 I was like yay let's cuddle 😊 and nay, we're not alone 🙈. He hugged me and I pressed his hand hard on my waist like keep touching me and he put his hand under my dress and fingered me and I had to bite my hand to prevent myself from moaning. Then I looked at his face and he seemed to be aroused and I thought he would kiss me, but he just smiled at me. Before this, the only kind of physical contact we had were high fives and fist bumps. 😁 I got up at 7 and so did everyone else and we went outside to have coffee. No one noticed what we did and we were acting like always. He was looking like he was super tired and no one talked much so I called a taxi and went home. And then it started to bother me... We are not in a relationship and we haven't even kissed. We have never even been on a date. Will we continue being friends or should this turn into something else? Will we stop hanging out completely? Or was it maybe just a friendly favour to help me fall asleep? 😂😂😂 It's been 3 days since then. He sent me a photo of me at his apartment and I just replied "awful", and he liked a video I posted on Instagram and he posted a photo of him and our friends which I took (so I'm not in it 😥)... Do you think he likes me and why didn't he kiss me? How should I behave now? PS. I broke up with my boyfriend 3 weeks ago but I never mentioned it. Maybe he thinks we're still together? He saw us kiss back then. Thank you everyone in advance! 😘😘😘

[JetJas]

The only way to really get some solid answers is to ask him and that what I'd recommend you do, but I think he likes u. He might just be scared to get hurt since u said that he might think that you're still in a relationship even tho you broke up with that guy. Talk to him, be honest and see how things go. Goodluck😊

[SmithMr007]

He might also just wanted pure physical stuff. Best way is to ask it OP. If you can ask it in a playfull way

[JetJas]

why in a playful way?

[SmithMr007]

because some guys get really anxious about what and how he answers. If you act friendly and like you would be kind to him and not disappointed for whatever answer he gives, this will make him answer more honestly and also make it much more comfortable for both of you

[Asker]

what's op?

[SmithMr007]

OP: Original poster, so I adressed the one who asked the initial question and not the one i replied to

[JetJas]

okay..

[SmithMr007]

can u girls please take the time to answer my question also :)

[JetJas]

what question?

[SmithMr007]

go to my profile you will find it!

[JetJas]

okay

[Asker]

Thank you, both of you 😊 Well I'm not really a kind of girl who will ask a guy "do you like me?" or so... What I wanted to do at first was to send him a photo of a bruise I got on my hip from sleeping on the floor but my sister says that if I send him a photo of my panties, he will think I just wanna get laid...

[SmithMr007]

Yes, if you do not want to be seen as a fuckbuddy but you actually care about him and want an emotional bond do not send anything that may arouse him. Sending pics will probarbly already do this, let alone sending a pic of yourself in panties. Can you clarify what it is you wish for the both of you ideally?

[JetJas]

You're welcome, but u could mention the fact that you're single around him (not to him) so that he knows that ur available and see what happens

[Asker]

Well I do wanna fuck him... But I'd like that emotional part too. I feel like we really have some kind of connection. He does nice things for me. I'd like to go on a date and see if I'm right. He's been single forever and before that he was with some girl for 6 years

[Asker]

So I don't really think he is a guy who sleeps around much...

[Asker]

@JetJas good idea!

[SmithMr007]

Make up your mind before you set your tone. When you make him view you as a fuckbuddy it is hard for a male to develop commitment. He might devellop emotions, but it will be very hard to commit and the chance of him cheating lateron because the foundation was purely physical is very high.

[JetJas]

lol thank you! He might go all in if he knows that you're out of the relationship

[MarcoIsAFailure]

Mention that you are single and wait what happens then. It's kinda weird to expect him to behave normal if he might still think you are in a relationship.

[Ram0n83]

Maybe the drinking got in the way? Maybe see how he reacts if you're both sober?

[Asker]

yeah, that crossed my mind, too. I don't think I've ever seen him sober...

[jurgenmeister]

It may have been just a sexual thing but it's weird that you didn't kiss, maybe he thinks you're still with your boyfriend.

[mariogerat0]

you should have kissed him