My boyfriend is a nice guy, but too naive? I can't stay with him, but can't leave him either because I love him! What do I do?

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1. We are both from different religious backgrounds, me being a hindu (22), and he being a Sikh (21).

2. I proposed to him around 8 months ago, but was still suspicious, becoz I feared that my family won't be happy with this decision EVER! (Intercast Issues). But I proposed to him anyway.

3. After we got along, he has been a very sweet, caring and a gentle guy, and loves me a lot.

4. But, he is very naive. A LOT infact. He isn't active. Doesn't take mature decisions. Doesn't know what's wrong/right for him. Very emotional. Isn't impressive at all [except that he is a coder/topper, is exceptionally good at it, and that's what made me fall for him on the very first place (I am sapiosexual), so wouldn't have to care about the career part ]. He isn't confident, isn't funny, is very inexperienced and hence lacks intellectual ability (to a greater extent), doesn't know how to choose his company well, isn't physically attractive, lacks good dressing sense, holds completely different interests than mine. He's just not the same intellect level I have always fantacised about guys!

5. What I want is a real man who can actually impress his girl from his actions, act sweet when necessary, act tough when necessary, act horny WHEN NECESSARY, act responsible whenever necesarry, be an adult yet be adorable and kind. I feel he's just not made for me :(

6. Due to these problems, I have actually broke up with him MANY TIMES (10-15 times least, always me being the initiator). It's been an "on and off" relationship. And that's because I love him a lot, and can't see him sad, and the moment we breakup is when I start feeling lonely and miserable, but then as soon as we get back together, I just can't handle these insecurities and wanna breakup again.

7. I am just not satisfied, and I don't see my fututre with him :( But can't stay away from him becoz I love him and addicted to the kind of love he shows. I feel I will be miserable without him too.

Please advice what should I do? :(
My boyfriend is a nice guy, but too naive? I can't stay with him, but can't leave him either because I love him! What do I do?
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