If my boyfriend has had sex with another man before, is it safe to think that he still has desires to be with men?

[GoldenRose95]

Hey folks,
I asked a similar question here a little while ago pertaining to my boyfriend's "sexual preference" even though he still to this day is very avid about being perceived as a straight man. Anyways, I've come to the conclusion, after finding out that my boyfriend had receptive anal sex with another man, that he is bisexual but he won't admit it. What I'm having trouble with now is trying to figure out if it's safe or not to assume that my boyfriend still has desires & fantasies about being with men. I've done a few things in my sexual history that I'm not proud of & vowed to never do again & I've accepted that & haven't looked back. I just want to know whether a man who actually engaged in receptive anal sex with another man can be as straight laced as my boyfriend claims to be.

[MadeInAmerica]

If I'm being hypocritical I would say no that he is gay or at least bi. However most women at least that I know or admitted to have had sexual contact or sexual encounter with another women in the past and I don't see them as being bi just a little curious and experimenting.

I think being so honest about something that can be seen so negatively though shouldn't be punished. I think he could be legit and should be taken as such until seen otherwise.

[normalice]

i've had sex with men, just to try. It wasn't my thing and wouldn't do it again unless I was really horny and it was convenient. It's about as satisfying as masturbation, which I don't like doing either.

[Anonymous]

it's possible that he really is straight but he has a very open mind about sexual encounters. maybe he was imagining that he was a girl when he was doing something with another guy

[GoldenRose95]

He is definitely not straight. Lol & I don't love him any less because I know he isn't now but I also know that there are some things that you just can't turn your back to once you've done them & I think his experience was definitely one of those things.

[Opinion Owner]

how does that make you feel?

[GoldenRose95]

Insecure. Not with myself but with our relationship; I can't give him what a man can & that itself just makes me wonder whether he'll leave or if his desires get strong enough, that he'll do something that may ruin our relationship.

[Opinion Owner]

how would you feel about doing something with him and another guy together

[GoldenRose95]

I'm definitely not opposed to it. I want & love to see him happy. I've tried telling him that I'd be okay with it if he ever wanted to bring someone else in but that conversation ended in us sleeping in different bedrooms. I honestly think since he hasn't accepted it yet, it bothers him for me to know but all I want him to see that I accept him for who he is & what he likes, etc. & that I'm going to be here regardless. Just don't know how to make him open up to me.

[Opinion Owner]

he might be shy about you knowing his little secret. maybe if he Saw you looking at something with a couple of guys doing something naughty together and you were getting into it he could feel more comfortable around you again. how did you find out about him doing that? what made him tell you

[spidersspiders]

im bisexual. sex doesn't mean shit to me. if im with someone I love screw sex. if I really feel like being screwed anally I'll talk to my girl about strap ons or just just get a sex toy

[LovelyLindsay]

You should talk to him about it.

[Devinsmith]

Ehhhhhh

[Anonymous]

I bet he had to be the hunter

[Anonymous]

He is bi and since he is attracted to both genders then he will always feel like something is missing and will most likely cheat at some point in order to be with a man again just like how bi women do.
He is in no way straight.