Is it ok that my boyfriend never wants to do oral on me? Aside from this our sex life is realily good but this hurts my feelings?
i feel like I put so much effort into this relationship… I am always going out of my way for him and I don't even think he appreciates it half the time… I'm pretty… I'm fit… lol I'm clean! I swear!!! Last night we needed things from car… I didn't wanna go this time (bc I always go... we live in a condo) and he said I would get anything I wanted if I would go… he even suggested the sexual act as payment… so I thought about it and I said ok if you do that tomorrow I'll go get the stuff… he swore… he even shook on it… so I went to get the stuff. so today i brought it up (super cute like lol) and I said “oh so tonight I get the thing” lol. thats when he said “"oh shit… I would have thought you'ld forget. It's not you… it's me… I don't like doing it… it's not that I'm grossed out by you I just don't Like it… Its like a job you don't want to go to” so I said… “"it's not that I like giving you…… (which I do allll the time when we get “busy”) but I like making you feel good so I do it and I don't mind” and he said “"ok fine that's off the table too… i can life without it”. i feel so hurt that I actually can't stop crying while I write this… it felt like a big slap in the face. He said to "get over my ego.. that he didn't mean to hurt my feelings he just speaks his mind and he's sorry if that hurt me” …. but he wasn't even looking at me when he said it… he was laying on the couch… and acting like I was annoying…
i don't think I'm being irrational? on top of everything he is willing to give up my giving him oral (which he loooves and needs sometiems for a “"warm up”) than to do it to me the one time he promised? The worst part is that I don't even really need oral... but don't rub it in my face... not the first time he used that as bargaining chip and didn't deliver... I think that's the worst part... hurts my feelings and I feel manipulated and... he uses it to get what he wants knowing it hurts my feelings that he's so against it.
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