He doesn't want a relationship but why won't he leave me alone?

Question

24f. started seeing this guy 35/m in March of last year. At the time, all I wanted was a hookup buddy since I recently got out of a long term relationship in November of the year before.
He wasn't like any friends with benefits. We talked a lot, Cuddled, held hands. And we always spent the night at eachothers places. When I'd try to go he'd beg me to stay. During sex he'd claim my pussy as his. When we weren't together he'd always ask where I was and who I was with. I've already met his closest friends.

After a year I realized this wasn't going anywhere. I had developed feelings and realized he didn't have them back. So I decided to cut things off. Normal FWB's have never included such intimacy and I realized I wanted that again. He's said in the past that he wasn't the relationship or feelings type which didn't bug me until I started getting feelings.

5 weeks ago I finally told him how I felt and said we should end things. He didn't seem to have any emotion so I figured I did the right thing to end it.
We didn't speak for 3 weeks and I was starting to feel like me again until one night he messaged me. He apologized for not wanting anything more and said the fact that I care means a lot to him and still wants to be friends. I told him it wouldn't be a good idea. Even though we want different things I still want him to be happy.
Now he won't leave me alone. Always wants to "just talk". I told him there was no point since we both want different things. Why won't he leave me alone?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Seeing as its been over a year and he hasn't ghosted you yet, there may be *some* feelings involved. I'm not saying he's over the moon for you, but you're right about the cuddling and holding hands. Bootycalls don't do that. Sounds like he has no idea what he really wants. You made the right decision in leaving him. Change your number. Do what you need to do, you deserve better.
Ego plays a huge role in this too. He's 35 and has boning someone over 10 years younger than him. Now he has to tell ALL of his friends (whom you've met) that he was dumped by a 24 year old. Think about it.
To be honest, I don't think this guy is getting pussy anywhere else. If he was, he would have let you go. His ego wants the younger girl to chase after him as if he's hot shit. He wants to feel as if he still has "it". He wants control, now that you've taken the reins, he's losing his shit.
You're better off without this egomaniac.

azzntittiz · Accepted Answer

Why can't people just realize when someone is weird and they should just leave them alone? Just leave him alone before you end up married to this person and have kids with him.
No one is this confused, I have turned handsome successful men down because i was fresh out of a bad breakup, I knew I would probably regret it but I wasn't fucking ready I didn't play with anyone's feelings or lie to them.
No one is that confused, he is a sicko with problems who probably told himself that he will ruin as many women as he can, starting from the psyche.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I agree with another post I think if it possible for you to just change your number or block his number if you can and from social media if you have him on there.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Most likely he won't leave you alone due to his ego. He probably wanted you to chase him for something more, but by doing the opposite, his ego doesn't like it, so he keeps on trying to keep you on the hook. He may not even be aware of why he feels the need to do this.

alexandremp · Accepted Answer

cause he is a jerk. he doesn't care for you, he just care for his feeling. he is feeling alone so he try to talk to you. if he care for you , he wouldn't put in this situation.