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Do I have to tell my boyfriend that he took my virginity?

My boyfriend thinks I'm quite the catch and have been with lots of guys before him. We just had sex for the first time, and it was amazing. I was going on about how big he was (truthfully) and how great he made me feel. He asked a couple times if the guys id been with were bigger/better than he was... and I (also truthfully) said of course not... it was incredible. He lit up, and was proud of himself. I could tell he was excited about how satisfied (and sore lol) I was.
The truth is... he took my virginity! I'm not religious.. but i know some guys have strong feelings about that whole virgin thing. Do I have to tell him? Tell him in a couple years? Is it dishonest if I dont actually clear the air and say i had never been penetrated by another guy... ever?
other than this issue... i have been super straight up with him... i adore him. I am hesitant because he felt so geeked that he was my biggest and best
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Regardless if you tell him or not he is your biggest that you've had. As far as telling him or not, I can't give you a straight answer. Honesty is typically the best policy in a relationship and he may even like to learn that he was the first person you ever trusted enough to be with. However, there's always some aspects in our relationship where we aren't honest (I didn't drink the last of the milk!) and your virginity doesn't really change anything about your relationship.

    I don't think it's a big thing overall, and personally knowing that my partner gave me their virginity and is satisfied with me is more than enough for me.

  • It really doesn't have to be a big deal if you don't want it to be. If it were special to her, it would be special to me. If you were kinda waiting for the right guy to come along, or just waiting until you were ready, I would have wanted my partner to share that. If you play it super casual, I guess that's how I'd feel about it too.

    The only problem really is now you've lied to him over nothing. You've given him your virginity and he didn't even know it and then you flat out lied to him when he asked you about your past partners. He's probably not going to understand why.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I think you should have been honest with him because it could be a game changer. Some guys don't mind at all, some try to make it special for you but for others it can be a turn off. I think most of them don't mind but you should have been honest from the start. I think you should tell him, he deserves to know that he took your virginity, in my opinion that's a big deal.

  • It is your personal information. But in a relationship you should be able to trust one and other enough to tell such things and not come up with lies. I think he would be even more flattered to know he was the first for you. But this is up to you. if you don't feel like telling, don't

  • No, you're not obligated to tell him if you really don't want to. But think about it- won't you eventually want him to know that he was your first sex partner? The sooner you tell him, the less weird it will be. Do you want to have to keep it a secret forever?

  • when you are in a sexual relationship with someone you should always be honest about everything you do and who or you haven't been with. it is only fair to him. and secrets over time come out and it might upset him more.

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  • if you really adore him let him in on the truth. Better hearing it from you than from someone else

  • I think you should just leave well enough alone unless something dramatically changes to cause you to reevaluate that decision.

  • He will also be geeked that he was the first one that you chose to share yourself with.

  • Tell him. Gotta be Straight up honost or u got nothing.

  • Well... me personally I'd be very happy to find out I was the one to take my gfs virginity, gives the relationship more meaning to me in my opinion not to sound like a faggot

    • and the fact that you chose to told the truth is also a plus

    • i see the benefits of each... wouldn't waiting a couple years also have the same effect?

    • no tell him before the next time you have sex I swear he'll fuck you harder than before

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  • Just tell him 😆. Why are you making this so complicated? Why would you wait years? That's insane. Just tell me whenever you get the chance. It's really no big deal. I'd be happy if I were him.

    • well right.. but I dont want to take away that feeling he got finding out he was my biggest and best. He glowed. Thats more what Im worried about... stealing his thunder. Im worried my compliments to his work would mean less and wouldn't make him feel as good

    • Did he legitimately make you feel good? Then, there's no lie there. There's no taking his "thunder" away. Just tell him. If I were him, personally, I'd want to know as soon as possible.

  • Yes tell him.

  • In this case, there is much to gain and nothing to lose. There are tons of guys (including myself) who would be delighted to hear that they had the honor of being a girl's first. Even if he isn't as enthusiastic about it as expected, it's safe to say that he'd still be neutral about it - and in that case, you could at least still get it off your chest.

    Either way, I've never heard of a guy disliking virgins for any reason, unless he only does casual sex and avoids virgins due to the emotional implications (which obviously isn't the case if you are in a relationship).

    I'm not saying you have to tell him, but what reason do you have not to?

  • tell him... he and you both loves you true.. you are Virgin nothing bad in it. every boy like virgin girl...

  • In all honesty, I think that is a positive thing to hear for most guys, more than the opposite

  • Unless you have an STD or a child, I think your past sexual experience doesn't matter. I wouldn't feel the need to tell him anything about that. It's in the past (including your "virginity," which a pretty nebulous concept anyway).

  • I, and most men, would be honored to be a woman's first. Go ahead and tell him, it'll probably make him proud.

  • He won't give a shit just tell him haha! Congrats by the way. It's fucking awesome isn't it? Lol XD

  • Why would you owe that to tell him that he took your virginity?
    Just make small talk when he mentions it and tell him that he's
    your first than just leave it at that why would it matter?

  • Mention it casually, like it wasn't a big deal.

  • Yes, tell him!

  • Honestly, it doesn't matter. Some guys get off at the fact that they are able to be the first one to have sex with a beautiful woman. You should just go out for dinner and drinks and tell him.

  • I don't see why you shouldn't tell him. And you having no past partners doesn't mean you can't tell good sex from bad sex.

  • Nah dont bother, let him keep the good feeling. No point of telling him the truth, he's not exactly gonna be hurt that you lied about that to him. Only thing that might happen is if you tell him it might make him think you've lied about other stuff and also make him feel a tad shite knowing he was the only one.

  • just tell him, it is a cool accomplishment to take a girls vcard

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