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MMF Threesomes are Gay, but it's complicated?

Ok so I have been offered on several occasions a threesome where myself and another guy can share a woman, MMF threesome. Honestly, this feels very gay, the moment a woman is involved in my sexual activity I am the straightest guy in the world to the point where I don't want a guy near me even if him and I aren't doing anything with eachother. The thought of sharing a woman with another man grosses me out. The thought of being close to another naked man in that moment feels fucking gay AF.

The weird thing about this is I'm bisexual. I'm bisexual but I am mostly attracted to girls than guys. I have no problems having sex with a guy (although my ass is off limits). When I have sex with a guy my mind is in a gay mindset. 1 on 1 gay sex is ok by me.

But MMF threesomes is like too Gay for me. It's like "Dude go away, I wanna fuck the girl alone, I want the whole dessert for me, I ain't sharing my candy with you, eww, wtf are you gay or something?" In that moment I'm not willing to share a girl with another man, I'm not willing to engage with another man or be in the same room as him naked, honestly, in that situation, I would have a hard time getting hard.
I have no problems having a threesome with 2 girls. I have done that before.

So why does the thought of a MMF threesome feel gay to me even if the guy and I aren't having sex with eachother and are only sharing the girl, why does MMF feel gay to me even though I can be gay 1 on 1 with another guy in a non threesome situation?

MMF Threesomes are Gay, but it's complicated?
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  • I have been in 7 MMF threesomes, three with one woman and four with another.

    I am not bi or gay. It took some getting used to watching another guy's cock in my woman and even harder to adjust to was how she was enjoying it. This was never my idea, always hers.

    With that being said, you may feel awkward having sex with another guy and woman at the same time as being that visually and audibly close to watching a stranger's cock fucking a woman makes you uncomfortable. If this bothers you then when you and the other guy are doing her in her vagina and ass, you will be very aware of his cock as there is not much skin between her two holes. And your balls will most likely touch as well as your cocks will touch each other on occasion. She may even rub your cocks together if she wants to suck them at the same time.

    A MMF thing is not for everyone. Personally, if I have the opportunity to do it again with my SO I would do so in a heartbeat, provided it was all her idea with no hinting or coaxing from me. If it is something the guy wants her to do it could end your relationship.

  • Yeah man I see your confusion lol. I'm 100% straight & I did this with my roommate & a girl a few times. We only had contact with the girl, not each other. I wasn't bothered about being naked with another guy there, it's just another guy, no different to the gym showers lol. If he'd been anyone that wasn't a mate it might have felt weird though. I guess it's all down to personal preference. Plus I finished first so he was the one going in after the other had done the deed lol

    • It's funny how a bisexual dude like finds you having a MMF threesome with your roomate gay af, like who am I to talk LOL. I feel I contradict my self in a way. But there is still something weird to me about sharing a girl, it's like if a guy put on a condome and then took it off and then I put on that same condom, like we didn't have sex, but it feels gay af to put on the same condom another person did. Or like for example if I ended up using my sisters dildo, that's not incest because I'm not having sex with my sister but it still feels incestuous af to use something that pleasures my sister

    • I see what your saying. But putting your dick somewhere another dude has been somehow seems fairly unimportant compared to what you might do one on one. Bottom line is if it makes you uncomfortable, don't do it.

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  • Odd. I'm pan, and I love MMF, everybody playing with everybody.

  • There's nothing gay about an action with a girl involved. Gay would be two guys solely for themselves. Would you say a girl and a girl and you is that the two girls are gay... or are they still into you? This is a double standard, but one that is rooted in our society not reality. The Greco Roman male warriors were openly Bi and experimental as sex was about who you found wiling, attractive to the eye, and able to make you cum.

  • You know that in the multi-partner lifestyle, MMF means the guys interact with each other, right? I think you meant MFM.

    • Oh? Interesting. I didn't know there was a difference. So a FFM isn't the same as a FMF? Huh.

  • There is nothing gay about two guys doing a girl unless they are also doing each other. So MFM is fine but MMF is considered bisexual.

  • I could never get into MMF threesomes personally. Just feels.. off.

  • Maybe it's the choice of guy.
    In the gay sex, you chose the guy you like, but in MMF you didn't
    Do you get to choose the guy in MMF?

    I can't believe I'm having this conversation.

    • The guys invovled in the MMF threesome are guys I would find attractive in another scenerio 1 on 1 but in a threesome situation it's different for me

    • hmmm... Are those guys bi? Maybe you are not into non gay guys.

    • I've had sex with bi guys before. I have no problem 1 on 1. I honestly think it's just a threesome situation changes my mindset or orientation in a way I don't know lol

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  • That is interesting. Maybe you just don’t want another guy around with the girl because you could perceive him as composition or that there could be times you wouldn’t be involved?

    I have been in a MMF before. My girlfriend and I were always involved in the activities in some way or another. It was my first male, male contact. We did all sorts of interesting, sharing activities.

    It’s definitely not for everyone. If you do want to end up trying it, I would discuss with your girlfriend and make sure you are both on the same page / have the same expectations / understand each other’s limitations / have a safe word (everything stops).

  • Not gay imho, it's recreational sex, not making love, I love watching PIV close up and sucking dick, no big deal really,,,

  • not gay

  • I used to be involved with a woman, who she and I would party with another couple... We'd swap our spouses... one time when my wife could show up for a party night we had our fist MMF session. all was cool. Then she sat on my face and asked her husband to suck my dick so she could watch... I was a little shocked, but it turned her on--ALOT. I didn't much care for it. I guess its a like when a guy asks a girl to go down on another girl

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