That is really hard to explain to a woman. You would have to understand how the male mind works, esp when we get to a certain level of horniness lol. I try and explain it as we get like a tunnel vision and we get really stupid. all we can think about it cumming. The thinks I have said to some of the women I have had sex with when I am nearing that orgasm point, when I think back after I am done and back into my right mind, I get soooooo embarrassed. I seriously can't recognize the guy that said those things or wanted to do those things to her. not that it was anything horrible, I am very vanilla when it comes to sex. But if I was not horny at all, I would never even think of saying some of the things I do when I am getting ready to cum.
Lmao exactly it.
@godfatherfan. Thanks for your input. So is "beautiful sexy whore" 66% good and 34% bad? Lol
yea. I have thought of those words before but never had the guts to actually say them lol... but yes, I could see a guy saying that. But meaning it in the most complimental way. the saying "a guy wants a woman that is a whore in bed, and a lady everywhere else" is 100% true
I don't know. My best guesses -
It flatters our ego to be treated as above her.
In my case I think I feel good when she wants to be treated like that or enjoys it. It's like... you can imagine a woman agreeingnhalf heartedly to sec because why not and it feels good. When you make it rough or degrading its fuelled by lust and desire as opposed to pleasure seeking. And I'd rather illicit lust then just be some guy who "oh well it feels good".
Good points. Why anonymous?
Knee jerk habit :p
I wlll mention an old psychoanalytic theory, which i'm not sure I totally buy, regarding sadism and masochism. Basically the sadist wants to punish the masochist for making them feel desire, while the masochist wants to be punished for being sexual. I think there may be something in it being almost an anxiety appeasing thing. The dominant feels so much lust and desire, its scary they feel powerless because they 'want' what the sub has so much. This may be especially true when the dominant has not traditionally felt like they could always get whatever they wanted sexually. So they feel... sort of threatened by need. The dominance and humiliation and degradation, all markers of control of the sub, make them feel less threatened. Basically either they control the sub, or they'd be controlled by their own desire. Feel free to dme if you want to discuss more.
You know I'm the complete opposite... I love the dirty talk like that and my husband is a firm no, he feels like he's degrading me by saying those things and it makes him uncomfortable.
But it's just words. Sex is the one place I can fully let go and be as weird and crazy as I want and I trust him wholey with those emotions. Dirty talk is about the words and layer of arousal that it adds without actually adding the reality of those things... the reality doesn't interest me but the words kick something in my brain and makes it lay attention to add extra to the physical stimulation I am/going to receive
I'm sorry but I love to be called all kind of names and spanked. Outside of the bedroom I can be a total bitch and often times intimidating, so I don't know.
I imagine it's kind of like role play, he likes to imagine that you're a slut, whore.. what ever it is but doesn't actually want to be with a whore lol
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!there's a good deal of psychology to this and if he seems like a completely different person during sex I would suggest you reconsider whether or not he's really the person you want to spend your time with. if he's truly respectful and caring he won't do it unless you consent to it. And even if you consent to it if he sees it makes you uncomfortable he would stop. But if he is unable to do so or unwilling to do so he has a problem that needs to be addressed
Some times it's ego, some times its a domination thing, you need to kinda be specific for me figure out which.
I don't personally; it's far more rewarding for me to tell a woman how good she is in bed and how good she makes me feel.
I really don't know actually. I'm not into degrading. But I like to have a woman tied up so I can do as much exploring or teasing as I want, trying to drain every bit of pleasure out of her without mercy.
I would also love the same thing happening to me as well. But, to a point.
THEIR ASSHOLES/CREEPS
So am I a shit magnet or does everybody receive that stuff? I went through and I made my profile as boring as possible and not unique in order to stop getting that kind of guy but now the profile is not me.
MOST girls like the BAD GUY/assholes.. Then only realize it after. I'd recommend finding a guy that enjoys being around you ( without gropping/BJs/sex/etc) on the first date. If he waits for you to make the move then he's a keeper. Most guys on dating sites/in general are POS and not worth dating. Sadly girls fall for looks/charm and not for whats underneath the BS.
I haven't a clue. If I said anything at all, it would be something like: I LOVE YOUR PUSSY!!!
Fetishes are what they are just something that get you going but as in any relationship through open and full communication you get to a point where both people want things or agree to things - Maybe through this process people may drift to each other, others may fall away and say no that is not my cup of tea - To your question I don't see the point in wanting to do it or on the other desiring it to happen to me but they may hear my desires and go "Yawn".
I think it's a porn thing. A lot of guys have watched so much porn that they have become conditioned to find it hot.
Well, I am so tired of the debauchery and insincere men, that I am packing away the dom sub stuff I have found a new sexually exciting way to fulfill my a man should be a man need. Dancing!!! I'm taking group dance lessons, nix step, fix, rumba, at a big local church and found it was so sexy to be following the man whom must lead a woman when dancing. And moving so close together while holding hands or pulled up tightly, wowzee!!! Sizzle!! I am dumping that dom dub stuff and getting a man that does ballroom dancing. That's some sexy seductive sexual tension in public stuff!!
Enjoy!
You should explain how all this is for you and your excitement. He respects his woman but still wants to please. I bet you end up getting what you want...
Yes he's all About pleasing me. But his thinking is that I will like it too and that everything he does to dominate me will be in a way that I want to be dominated. And that pleasing him will please me but back around the cycle again , he's going to dominate me in a way I like. But the crazy stuff he says when he's at a feverish pitch of lust are NOT things I want to do. When he asks me if I want to do them, I don't have the heart to ruin his mood and say hell no. So I play my part and say yes ___, I want to ____ for you... etc. this is quite a dialogue back and forth. By the time we're done, I'm not sure if I don't want to do it after all! 😂😂
I don't, the only way I get crazy turned on is when I dominantly tease
Because they're disgusting
I actually have no idea, it bothers me.. my wife on the other hand wants me to say things to her that are a huge turn off to me.
Like? I know some girls want to be called sluts and whores during sex.
Im always with the rough sex and dominant. If I'm gonna slap my dick on her face I'm gonna do it just cause it turns me on. When I'm bang it up hard and she moves back I tell her in scorpion voice " GET OVER HERE"!! but over all if she into that and she likes it there's no reason why not.
This guy is super dominant too and the stuff is borderline scary lol. I don't know if he's just talking shit or if that's what he's going to ask me to do some day. I'm submissive, so he just might. 😱 but he promises me if I don't like it I don't have to do it. But I have to try it once.
Go for it, it's always good to explore and experience new things. No telling if you will like it or not. Go have some fun!
i guess it´s the notion of being allowed to do anything. i´m not personally a fan of it but i think it makes you feel more emotionally connected if she´s ok with you doing this, knowing that you won´t do this with anybody else.
because after all you do it, cause she´s consenting. not because you want her to feel bad about herself.
i don't know how i would react to it
It's a way of being dominant, and doesn't mean he's not loving or respectful.
I have no idea but just thinking about it makes me randy baby, yeah. Lol.
Dme. Which specifically?
What words?
Honestly, I kind of like it from the woman herself.
I don't understand it either.
Nor do I understand sexual pleasure coming from pain. (Anything from a spank to bdsm.)
never was my thing. Not into anything painful either. I do like hair pulling and choking if the girl is into it though. But trash talking I can't do. Maybe if it was requested? But I think it would just be awkward lol
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