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My boyfriend took a photo of me giving him a blowjob without my permission. What should I do?

yesterday i was over at my boyfriend's place and i was giving him a blowjob and he FREAKING took a photo of it without asking me. he used to always hint about it like "i wish i could take a photo of this and show you how hot you look right now" and i would always give him that "ew no way you're doing that" look. I'm sure I've also told him no before when he hinted about it. so yesterday, i was doing it and he was on his phone replying some texts. the reason why i found out he took a photo was because he forgot to off his flash so the flash came on. i got so angry and he apologised and deleted it. but of course, im not sure if he really did because he could have saved it somewhere else. he kept asking me to forgive him and saying that it was a really dumb thing to do and that he will never do it again. he also said he did it because i looked really hot and he wanted to keep it as a memory. i actually already forgave him - it's hard to stay mad at him for long but I'm still quite angry and offended when i think about it. it's so rude? what should i do? and in case y'all think he's just an immature teenager, he's freaking 26.
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  • I'd give him another chance. Maybe just let him know that if there is a "next time", you won't be so forgiving! He apologized and seems to have meant it by the sounds of it. And intentions seem to be genuine, ie, wasn't going to post them online or anything? hopefully! Just for his own "collection" lol. So yeah, you stopped it right away, and if you are sure it's gone/deleted, I'd give him another chance. But if it happens again, or you find the photo (didn't delete it), then there's trust issues now, and that's a serious problem.

    • If it were me though, I wouldn't "allow" phones in the room anymore when you're having sex.

    • im not sure if its really deleted. he showed me his photo album but he could have saved it elsewhere.

  • isn't it technically illegal? you said no to him being able to take a picture of you, so he has no permission to photograph you. regardless if your his girlfriend or not. The fact that his reasoning was because "you looked hot" that's very disrespectful and I highly doubt that he deleted it. did you go through his phone? he doesn't deserve a girl and you shouldn't be with him. Vote A. imagine it like this, he wants to have sex, but you say no, but then he forces you, and his reasoning was, "sorry, you looked hot"

    • he said he deleted it and that he's really sorry.

    • yeah, he SAID he "deleted it" rather than you deleting it, or showing you. while he was deleting it. it isn't too over the top to dump him. it show's that it's serious and not something that a light, "sorry" fixes. it also tests him, to see what he does afterward if he's truly cares for you or if he just moves on quickly with another girl. might also show whether or not he truly deleted it. you 'love' him lol. well you're loving someone who doesn't truly "love" you, if he's not going to respect you. no one should be on their phone ever either. don't care if it's happened before, or once. they should have been off their phone immediately when doing things, or it should have waited until he was off his phone.

    • no, he deleted it and showed me his photo album. and whether or not he truly loves me, im sure you dont know. so dont assume.

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  • Talk to him and ask him to delete or take it and delete it urself cause that's not right. however do not break up with him before you have been able to delete the photo cause thats when things happen.

  • I would break up with him. A normal boyfriend wouldn't do that ESPECIALLY without your permission.

    • he's probably just really immature. and he said it was in the heat of the moment and naughty thoughts just went into his mind.

    • Very immature. But imagine if he would send it to your friends and people around you, they would send it to other people. In the future you'd be known by that.

    • i know he won't do that. he just wanted to keep it as something to jerk off to when im not around.

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  • Talk with him in a serious, but not angry tone and tell him he's out if it happens again. Also, you could gently bite him next time. He'll think twice about pissing you off. 😂

  • its pretty shallow shit, he should know better, and since he didn't have your consent it's technically illegal and you could press charges if you wanted him to pay.

  • It's a bit drastic to break up over that, just make sure he really did delete it and let him know if he's hiding it and you find out, you will leave. Also, using your phone whilst getting a blowjob...

    • i can't be 100% sure if he deleted it. he showed me his photo album but he could have saved it elsewhere i dont even know.

  • Poor dude just wanted a picture of you to jerk off to when ur not home

    • its still rude and he did it without permission

    • indeed. it breaks ur trust. its essentially a betrayal

  • He's Immature and probably wants to share/send it to buddies. I knew a guy that did that... without his girlfriend knowing. It made feel bad for her as she use to hangout with us and didn't know everyone saw her sucking D.

  • Ask him to delete it. This is not a joke. If he refuses, then he's not a boyfriend, he's an abusive SOB who doesn't care about you.

    • he said he deleted it and that he's sorry.

  • It doesn't seem to me like it's something really worth throwing a relationship away just because a pic. He's stupid for having the flash on tho, maybe don't give him bjs for a while.

  • Dont break up with him until you find out about that picture. That's fucking childish! He's a prick for doing that.

    • i guess some guys are immature right? he apologised about it and said he's really dumb for doing it. he said he deleted it as well.

    • If he ever says he's still got it get your male friends, father whoever to go put the fear of GOD in him, it happened 2 my best friends daughter and she called me because she was 17 and scared of him. He was happy to give me his new cell phone. I threw it in the ocean. This was 15 years ago, never had no problems.

  • Hmm. If the relationship looks really solid otherwise, forgive, but don't forget.

  • make him delete it, and then make him suffer with a no oral for a period of time till you can trust him again

    • he said he deleted it and showed me his photo album but who knows he might have saved it somewhere else

    • so check his mistake

    • im not going to check his phone

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  • I would break his leg, smash the device and then break up with him.

    • Thats how you get knocked out

    • Suttle i like that in a woman!!

  • While you are sucking his dick, he is texting? There is something inharently wrong already... dump him

    • no it was the first time that happened and he was already texting back his sister before i sucked him

    • What the fuck, seriously! While you are sucking his cock, he should not be on the phone, like never never never!!! Are you his personal suck-bot? Seriously, there is no excuse for such a behaviour, wether or not he took a photo...

    • he never does that. it was the first time he did it and its because he was replying his sister asking if his dad is at home so we could leave.

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  • If serious relationship, forgive after talking about it, if he gives any hint at acknowledging your feelings on the matter. Alternative, take a pick of him going down on you with the flash on and see how he reacts. Could be a playfulway to make him see how you feel

  • Take his phone, delete the picture and then break up with him.

  • I voted B... if he didn't do anything with the photo and deleted it, great, no harm no foul... I would suspect that he got caught up in the passion and the visual appeal of what was happening and wanted a memento...

  • Answering texts while getting a blowjob? How utterly lame is that. What the actual fuck, girl... this is just ridiculous.

    • he was on his phone before i sucked him. it was not like i was sucking him then he started texting - that never happened before

  • Get the pic back and leave him

  • Tell him delete it or "no blowjobs for you. "

  • I would also be mad. But i would forgive i guess. It all comes down to how well you know and trust the guy.

    • actually we've been only dating for less than a month. but i like him a lot and it feels like he's serious about me. ugh feelings are so hard to tell though.

    • One month is nothing unless you guys were good friends or have been living together since day 1. Considering the age gap, i would not trust. Chances are greatly against you.

    • he treats me really well though

  • That's really up to you.

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