He gets mad when I shower he's Obsessed with all my stinky smells/phermones?

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My SO is obsessed with my stinky smells I go to the gym regularly and he wants to smell my bras my armpits my Netherlands the sweatier I am the more it makes him happy/ satisfied and aroused in the beginning I thought it was just an in the moment thing but he told me he has always even since we were friends loved it just held back telling me because he didn't want me to think he was weird I'm go with the flow whatever makes him happy so I try to work with him about it but he would prefer basically is have no hygiene like never shower and gets mad/ frustrated with me when I want to shower after work or the gym or a sweaty anything I feel disgusted by it sometimes i want to feel clean for example
I hadn't showered since the night before we had a quicky in the am I ran some errands went to the gym and multiple hours had gone by and I hadn't been able to shower yet feeling icky of course we meet up ended up having sex I was literally disgusted by myself my scent turned me off I felt trashy I was harsh whatever horrible smell you could think of from sweating all day and he told me it was the best I have ever smelled to him every part of me all of it. So of course he makes me feel beautiful even when I feel gross with this infatuation
My dirty laundry! He loves the scent smells them like it's addicting tells me he could literally cum from smelling my sweaty bras or my breathing he'll smell my breath while we're in bed and I'm asleep it gets him rock solid and he says he has never been like any of this with any woman before ever and actually the opposite
We were best friends for multiple years the kind that does everything a couple would do except the intimacy to include cuddling and sleeping in the same bed regularly I guess I'm wondering how normal this is and some suggestions on how to help better deal or compromise with his joy of it and me wanting to be clean and who else out there is like this is this permanent or is it a phase

MrMysteryMan · Accepted Answer

That's fucked up! It's probably some sort of hormonal thing that is different for him than most. But if it's getting to you, you better let him know that you shouldn't feel bad for wanting to feel clean. That's his problem if he wants to smother himself in stankness, but if you don't feel comfortable being like that all the time, he should respect that about you if he cares about you. This sounds weird, but it's also rather selfish of him. I'd definitely talk to him about it. Give him his jollies with your used undies and such, but tell him that you still want to feel good about yourself as well. He should be able to compromise.

John83 · Accepted Answer

I'm really attracted to my girlfriend's scent, too, so I am like that sometimes. She usually showers at night, so I love to go out somewhere with her and then in the afternoon or evening when she's gotten sweaty and gone most of the day without a shower, take her straight to bed. To me, it just means she's got great chemistry with me and I'm naturally drawn to her.

ariadneR · Accepted Answer

I think it's normal tbh. I mean if you want to talk scientifically it means that instinctively he's very attracted to you. Your pheromones are like a drug, it's calling out to him lol
I can understand though about wanting to shower and what not, I'm like that too. Maybe you can compromise somehow, like don't use overly scented things...

GeminiAgent007 · Accepted Answer

I've had the same thing with my partner just like yours. I thought oh he just likes me a little sweaty... no. Feel relieved now knowing I'm not alone, I mean I don't judge him thats my partner but I feel disgusting when I neglect my hygiene

Feresto · Answer

Seems weird to me. I'd rather be clean. Not that sweat and smells are inherently bad or a turn off but there is a limit.

Underduress · Answer

I like the way he thinks because I like that too. But if she washes as long as she doesn’t overdo it where it really counts

Intraluminal · Answer

When Napoleon was heading back to Paris after his latest battle, he sent her a letter, asking her not to bathe for a week.

BrianMerritt · Answer

Males like the female pheromones, released when sweating.

Texasmade1 · Answer

Some guys are like that. Im the same way but its actually down there that i like when. its sweaty. I know girls who like guys with sweaty armpits too.

harry191919 · Answer

Absolutely abnormal. its okay upto certain period. but too often for so long is awkward really

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

Some people are into that.  @Redeyemindtricks has a lot of experience with it. For example, apparently washing your meat with soap before eating it isn't the best idea. Who knew? xD

maestrodematimaticas · Answer

He is a pheromone junkie with a finely tuned radar. I prefer an unshowered, no scented women. She lays on top of me when she gives me oral 69 style so I can smell her pussy while she does it.