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How do guys feel about the girl that they lost their virginity to?

I recently had sex with this guy that I've known for over a year now. We work together and there had been a lot of flirting leading up to it. All of our coworkers told us to date and that we'd be cute together. I'm a year older than him so I was a senior in high school when he was a junior in high school. We hadn't been talking a lot and I confronted him and spilled my feelings. When he asked me what I wanted, I told him I wanted him to kiss me, and things escalated. He was very loving and protective. And now I'm unsure as to how he feels. Was it just a hook up or could it be something more? How do guys typically feel about the girl they lose their virginity to afterwards? Him and I haven't been talking lately because I kinda messed up but does he have feelings for me? Or should I give up on him and move on?
There are usually some feelings
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He feels nothing
Vote B
He'll remember you but there's no feelings
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Younger or older, if he doesn't assure you after sex, he's not mature or maybe he's sorting it out himself if he likes you or not but it might look like he lost interest. Who cares that you messed up, it's not a one time thing lol there are more chances. Honesty, i lost my virginity at 29 years old last year with a guy maybe 2 years older than me but i was very lucky to meet a sweet guy. He was good to me and mature enough to make me at ease and afterwards, he still likes me which is huge sigh of relief to me because i waited a long time and didn't want to waste it with a douchebag. Advice: one last move - go up to him and tell him y'all need to talk and up to him if he agrees or not. If he doesn't, move on and forget him, you deserve better with plenty of fish in the sea but don't go jumping with another guy lol. When y'all finally get to talk, let it all out on why he being weird, does he still like you and what are his thoughts. After he explain his side, y'all need to figure out if y'all are dating still or splitting up mutually. If y'all splitting, get some closure and chalk this up as a learning experience. I heard most people's first time was awkward so don't worry messing up too and even some sexual active people mess up too lol usually with new person or just out of synch, you will have plenty of chances to improve or get a redo lol

    • Oops, read this wrong lol@myself. It's ok if you messed up, some virgins think over their experience or might be changed from it. I think he is mulling it over about it because it's normal if he wanted sex or if he still likes you in my opinion. I know I'm female and don't know the guy's psyche but i know you need to talk to him about this, how is he reacting and feeling to it. Assure him you messed up and apologize, it wasn't him and no hard feelings and sex isn't always like that. Just go up to him as last chance to talk and if he can't agree to talk, then he's not ready or mature or maybe need some time. If he does, ask he's doing and ask about the weird atmosphere or his different behahior. Most important things is being honest, communicative, encouraging and understanding. After that, y'all can see better if y'all wanna continue dating or not. If it's not, get closure, etc.

  • Considering how fast you guys moved, sounds like a hook up. Unless you just worded it that way and it actually happened over time. But it sounds like a hook up. Sorry love :( But if you truly like him, I say keep pushing. This is something I learned a lot of guys don't like about us girls, is we get too nervous or afraid to ask blunt questions like this. If you really do like him a lot, jump in there! Ask him directly if it was a fling, ask how he feels. Find a way to make up for that mistake you made.
    But to answer your other question, I asked my boyfriend how he felt when he lost his virginity. He said it was something special to him. It's a stereotype that losing your virginity is only special to girls. But he lost his virginity when he was 14. He still remembers her face, name, and how it went down. Because that was his first love, and your first love is always special. :) Though some people don't think so, and some people don't see sex as special. So the best way to get the answer you want is to ask him. Good luck! If it truly meant nothing to him, then screw him for playing with you. I'm rooting for you~

    • Yes! ^ You. I like you.

    • @somedudeyaknow Aw haha thank you!! :)

  • If she wasn't special it won't matter, do not believe the hype. He either likes you or he doesn't.

  • If you still like him, don't give up on him. I doubt you messed up too bad.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I can only speak for myself but I'm a very unique guy as far as guys go.

    Personally, I would be concerned that now that she has done it for the first time she would not be interested because she'd want to play in a bunch of other fields. Yes, this has happened 7 times to me.
    The girl lost her virginity then she wanted to have different experiences in awhile.

    MOST other guys lose motivation after taking virginity though (guys are asses that way)

    • Wait a minute, the way you describe girls suggest that they are also asses, isn't it? Shouldn't you have said that guys AND girls are asses instead of just guys?

    • @SuperEunuch yes, but in the case of virginity women don't tend to trophy up virgins like some dudes do.

  • I am a virgin and I know how most guys think... he was just using you... if he really wanted a life partner he would have get to know you better first wouldn't jump to sex... it was just his hormons talking not his heart... if it was his heart or brain he would've said he loves you after sex... you should have asked him that...

    • Right

    • Okay so #1, we're 18 so like we weren't necessarily out to find a life partner exactly. Hadn't gotten to that point. #2, we didn't just meet and have sex, I've known him for more than a year. I don't know if that changes your opinion. Just saying

    • If it wasn't important to you and you were just using him then you shouldn't be surprised to find out that he was doing the same

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Just a hook up

  • What do you mean by ,
    "Him and I haven't been talking lately because eh kinda messed up " ?

    • I kind of hooked up with another guy three days after cause I was upset that the kid I had sex with wasn't communicating about it.

    • Wow, that really screws up my entire thought about it 😅 Maybe he regrets losing it to you and finds it hurtful that you treated him as just another fuck buddy since you did it with someone else before even half a week had passed. I'm not judging you even in the slightest, but I understand how the guy feels and you can't really blame him

  • I respect and value her as a key stone in my life. We're just friends now but we're really close.
    What do you mean by you messed up?

    • I hooked up with another guy at work kinda in front of the first guy's face. Like he knew it was happening.

  • The girl that got my virginity will ALWAYS have a special place in my heart.

  • I voted #3, remember but no feelings but a couple of things in my case. 1) I don't put a lot into virginity, like it's not this huge big deal to me. It's more black and white.
    2) My first time wasn't an overly memorable or enjoyable experience either lol. Like, it wasn't "bad", but it could've been a lot better and it wasn't with someone that cared and had feelings for me.

  • She was hot and dumb lol.

    I would never have married her, she simply wasn't marriage material.

  • Sorry to say it was a fling for one night stand... if he hasn't contacted since then except it as a loss and move on.

  • You have to ask him. Communicate and ask if "where does he see this going"

  • Ask him simply what you feel nw

  • You never forget your first...

  • If he suddenly lost interest after you two shared sexual relations then chances are he was just interested in getting laid. Boys that young aren't usually ready to settle into a relationship because most aren't nearly mature enough. It's more than likely that losing his virginity just boosted his self confidence and he wants to play the field, so to speak.

  • He just a kid! lol I am sure he record it and is showing his friends on instagrams! lol Like that one kid. hahaha

  • I loved the one that took my virginity and never thought I would before that as she was older but when I found out she was super crazy I was glad to be seperated from her but still remember her and the good times we had!

  • I ship

  • Don't even remember her name since she was a hooker.

  • Bad question - depends entirely on the circumstances.

  • Nothing

  • You messed up? What did you do? That detail is important to know if he has feelings or not

    • I hooked up with another guy about three days after. Like I had hooked up with him before and I was upset because the guy I had sex with wasn't talking to me and the second guy was there for me to comfort me. Granted he was also taking advantage of my vulnerability but yeah I did that.

    • Oh yeah, you fucked up. I wouldn't give a fuck about you, and I hope he doesn't either. No one took advantage of you, you decided to fuck. You made that decision. Don't blame others.

  • Sigh stop having sex until you're married to a guy.

    • I feel like that's totally an individual decision and you have no right to be lecturing people like that.

    • It's my opinion it's not a good thing.

  • Remember her, but I wouldn't piss on her if she was on fire.

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