I would say yes. I know most professional articles written would say that you should take it worth a grain of salt, but I call bullshit on that. Let me tell you why.
Often times in states of euphoria or a state of higness, we as people are more honest than we normally would be because our inhibitions are down. The most common example of this is alcohol. Our deepest feelings come through sometimes against our will. "I was just drunk" becomes an excuse to justify or cover up for authentic feelings that lead to actions normally not taken. Often times, we try to get drunk so that we have an excuse to blame something for our actions.
In this likeness, saying "I love you" during an orgasm or during sex in general should be given serious weight. Even if the person says they were just horny or couldn't think because they were orgasming, the reality is that they were exposing the deepest contours of their feelings and emotions. Their mind may say they don't love you, but their throbbing desire or soulful existence secretly does.
In my situation, if I were to say "I love you" during climax, it would be very true.
Be careful with this however. There is a difference between what is said during sex and what is said before sex. A man is a liar typically before sex. he will say anything to get laid. But during sex and after sex is probably the most honest he will ever be.
I have voted as Yes. But in my opinion this is more complicated than a short reply.
Firstly, it is very important to remember that not all guys behave the same nor think the same. So we can not put everyone in one category.
Furthermore, he might mean it. But the question is about reliability not meanings. The expression been done during a very peaceful time. A stage of relief and the heat of moment after probably a mind blowing sexual satisfaction. So the expression could simply be part of the orgasm that he have had and the relaxation.
Additionally, what i mean when i say that the matter of question is about reliability not meaning; i mean, is he going to love you the same way when a tough period arrives? or his love and romance belongs to a peaceful state while being in bed and making love to you? This is where the focus should be.
So i would say you take it serious but you should not rely on it so much until you spend more time together and he passes his tests in life challenges if his love is pure or not. Many people speak of love when there is comfort, but as soon as life gets real, they get fake. So believe it but i would suggest to not get too excited about it. Till he proves himself more.
Good Luck.
Can u tell me some examples of a "tough period" couples go through? Life challenges?
Generally I'd say no, but... My boyfriend said "I love you" for the first time after the first time we had sex, and I think it was mostly because he felt like it was the right thing to say. But we're still together all these years later, so clearly it became true somewhere along the way.
Basically the only way you can know if someone means it when they say "I love you" is by observing their actions and the way they treat you.
It's before and after sex with clothes on outside on a normal setting when he says those three words mean something. And he's consistent of showing you his love is real. Not only after when he gets off when he feels like he's in paradise. You don't promise when you're happy.
Yeah thats true. But he does say it when we are out together too. Like after dinner we would go out and hang out near the bay and we would hug and kiss each other and he would say "i love you". And whenever we say goodbye to each other, he says it too. So its not only in the bedroom
so there you go. he loves you and take care of that love. <3
I think that's probably the time it's least likely to be sincere, apart from perhaps while having sex. Too many hormones making an utter shitshow of your brain. You're likely to say anything then.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I mean if i were to say that, absolutely. That's a really big word to be tossing around. The thing is though, a guy might get caught up in the moment and say that because he is overwhelmed by emotions and adrenaline etc... and might be inappropriate depending how long you have been together.
example: if we have sex and i've known you a week and i say that... do i REALLLLYY love you? probs not even if im convinced that was so amazing i feel the need to say it.
but if it's been months and that comes out and the eyes and everything sets the tone... it could very well be true.
Heyyy... how about 2 weeks after meeting/having sex? I used to debate with my ex that he couldn't possibly know what he was saying if he felt he loved me after 2 weeks, but he insisted that he knew the difference between love and infatuation. This allllways made me wonder throughout our 2.5 year relationship -- we had some pretty mad sex in the beginning, sometimes i'd cum 5 times, and I always wondered if he said he loved me because that high was already registered in his mind, rather than him loving me for me.
I know I mean it, and I get attached after sex, so I need a relationship that is long term!
You have been dating this guy for four months now, he hasn't quit on you, and he said he loves you after sex this first time? I think he means it, especially if you cuddled afterwards as you slept.
Go by feeling. If you feel he says it with much love and looks into your eyes and showers you with love and gives you that warm fuzzy feeling and willing to cuddle in bed with you after sex and not disappear in the morning. I'm pretty sure he means it. But guys will be guys and we're all born to be flirts. So the saying goes... "Guys fall in love with their eyes whereas girls? Their ears" haha.
Really depends on the guy, some don't really feel it and it is just the orgasmic high that makes it come out, but for others its quite genuine.
Don't believe anything a guy says when his pants are on the floor!
But he does say it when we are out together too. Like after dinner we would go out and hang out near the bay and we would hug and kiss each other and he would say "i love you". And whenever we say goodbye to each other, he says it too. So its not only in the bedroom
It's almost always true.
@d3f4u1t Whats true?
Depends on the guy. Probably less true the less well he knows about you before you sleep with you. But to really get a good answer you need to define what love is. There are some other good questions about that on this site.
Being intimate with a partner is a soul reaching experience. And if you have been together and intimate regularly only a fool would not have a special feeling towards his partner. Now whether that means for ever is another question but it does mean he recognizes how special you are to him.
Yes, there are probably players (fools) out there in the guy population that say that so they can have sex with you again but as a rule I don't think most guys do that.
Depends if he truly loves you or not
It depends on the guy, you been with him for a while now you're having sex with him. Do you think he's the kind of guy that would say that and not mean it?
I think Moreso than if they say it before sex.
love is an action not a feeling. it is performed every day with sincerity and dedication. personally i tell my woman i love her during sex after sex before breakfast etc. however showing her i love her is the real goal. anybody can talk the talk
This is not a yes or no answer. There's no general rule of thumb here, it depends entirely on the person and circumstance.
Is what you're really trying to ask "Was he being genuine when he said it"? If so we cannot answer that, it's something you'd have to ask him, communication in relationships is key.
Depends. My boyfriend always says that he loves me after sex, I don't think he is lying lol
Not always? depends on the person?
If you need to ask, then what the heck are you even doing :D
Yes.
Yes, however perishable it is
and may also refer to loving IT
Most of the time no but it is possible.
No he ' s just saying it as an effect after sex.
depends on the guy.
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