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Lusting after my roommate/ boyfriend's BFF. Help?

So I live with my boyfriend and his best friend. We have lived together for the past year. Things is I have been lusting after my roommate/ his friend for a bit now.

It's not that I don't love my boyfriend I do and still find him attractive. Just that his friend really does it for me. He looks like one of my first celebrity crushs. He's very masculine with beard and long hair, and muscular which I like. It is other things too such as how he always smells great or seeing him in his boxers and seeing his bulge (he's definitely bigger). One thing that drives me wild is how our rooms share a wall and is kind of thin. I can hear him masturbating sometimes.

Thing is I don't know what to do. I find myself thinking about him while having sex with my boyfriend. I mean I love my roommate and think he is a great guy as well. We are great friends but it is different then with my boyfriend, no romantic interest with him. I don't think they know since I hide it well but it is driving me crazy. I have thought about what to do about it. I would ideally like to maybe ask my roommate to join us in bed but know that will never happen. So any advice on what to do?
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Bit more detail me and my boyfriend having been having bit of a rough bit in or relationship. I still love him. I also have recently switched medications, for depression and anxiety, and also taken off birth control to be safe during this switch. I was looking more so for advice on how to stop being attracted to him or ways to get over it. Or just to bring up to my boyfriend about the idea of him joining us.
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It's like I'm romantically attracted to my boyfriend and I do find him physically attractive. But with sex getting a bit boring. Where my roommate I see as a very good friend who I also find hot as hell. No romance. I mean he is a good guy and think he would make a great boyfriend, but I have my boyfriend and want to be with him. I just find myself crazy sexually attracted to my roommate recently to the point it's fustrating.
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Most Helpful Girl

  • This is fucked up on so many levels. You obviously do not love your boyfriend as much as you claim you do otherwise you wouldn't be so darn obsessed with this roommate let alone actually desire having sex with him and lusting after him. Imagine if things were reversed and your boyfriend was into your best friend living with you. Imagine how you'd feel, hearing your SO wants to fuck your best friend. Like eww. Just think about it and have some respect. It is better that you just leave your boyfriend instead of wasting his time with a woman who he thinks loves him when she realizes just wants to fuck his best friend.

    • I don't think you fully understand the what I was trying to say. I do love him. The lusting is a confusing issue that I need to solve some how. As for if it was reversed I would actually find it hot as hell. I myself am bisexual and know most of my friends are attractive. As long as my boyfriend didn't do anything he could lust away. And as long as he still lusts after me too. I would actually want to hear want he think about and what attracts him to her. That is how it is wit my roommate. I would never do anything with him unless my boyfriend agreed to it and present. And I do still lust after my boyfriend just seems to be way more excited by the idea of my roommate lately.

    • I also just don't think my boyfriend being as open to the idea as I would be if they were reversed. Henchmen why I never mentioned it to him.

    • If the idea of your boyfriend wanting sex with your best friend doesn't upset you, then yeah, it has officially been settled, you cannot be that attracted to him. Please end this relationship.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Even if you do it once.. wthout feelings u'd be cheating ur guy anyways... I have accepted that our generation is just the way it is... Such things seems pretty normal now... Remember one thing a girl can get a guy anytime she wants but never works the same way for a guy... That roommate of urs won't stop at just once... Think about it... You can do him... Or you can just let it go..

    • You dont hav to explain people much girl... You know how you feel... The more justification you giv.. the more people will take u for the wrong side... Be clear... And be sure of what you feel

  • Just talk about your feelings with your boyfriend - and remember - these are only feelings - plus share with him what your suggested strategies (threesome, leaving - whatever) are and ask for his opinion.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Finish your boyfriend first and don't do anything with the beard guy until u do or shit will hit the fan...

  • You and your boyfriend need to move out and cut the friend from the situation, it's the only way you're gonna be able to control the situation before you start playing with fire.

  • Don't mess up your relationship

  • That's normal, you haven't done anything wrong until you actually do it, don't break your boyfriend's heart because you crave a bigger dick.

  • I would kinda do what you already proposed. Ask your boyfriend about a threesome. Now he may want a mff which you would have to provide to get your mfm. Just a thought.

    • Again... Talk to your boyfriend.

  • His masculinity, big dick, sexuality making you crazy, do fuck with him otherwise you get frustrated.

  • You're a fuccgirl, that's all you are. I hope you let us tell your boyfriend the truth.

  • Do it please tell me all about it

  • U r a lusty girl... U don't need boyfriend... Enjoy sex 👍

  • Your boyfriend deserves better, cheat on him so that he can leave you without regrets

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