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Is watching porn cheating?

I think it is. I hate it and wish it was banned. If a guy is in a relationship and watches porn to Masterbate its cheating. Is there any men who don't watch it?
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I don't know what it is but I just hate thinking of them watching it getting off on it when they have girlfriends. I get really annoyed if I see them looking at it I think it's disgusting and fake not real maybe not cheating but still don't like it
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I think it's degrading to woman it objectifys them men who are younger get addicted and think that's what woman are supposed to be like. U get porn where woman get hurt even porn involving animals. It's so wrong and disgusting
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  • NO it isn't cheating and when someone tries to stop their partner from having natural human fantasy is wrong and abusive. Also going through their search history and phone, etc is controlling and abusive.

    Female fantasy is generally mental and based on emotion, romance, and sex.
    So women fantasize by stimulating thought, by reading a book or watching a movie about romance, love, and even sex. This is how women fantasize and how women get off.

    Males fantasy is visual and based on sex. So porn is the same for males as a female watching a chick flick or reading a steamy novel.

    Trying to force men to stop something he can not stop because it makes YOU feel bad is wrong and abusive. If he gave you an ultimatum and tried to force you to stop having mental fantasy you know you couldn't do it. You can't simply shut off the brain. It would be wrong for him to even suggest it.

    The major difference between female fantasy and male fantasy is that when a male looks at porn he does NOT compare his partner to the person in the video. We focus on small aspects of the video we like, for example, the way a body part moves or looks. It has nothing to do with the girl even. Sometimes it's even the way the guy's penis throbs as it's unloading inside a vagina.
    We don't take our fantasy and put false expectations on to you. We don't compare. YOU assume we do because as a female you compare yourself to other females constantly. WE do NOT.

    Female fantasy does actually push false expectations onto your partner. Women watch romance movies, make their partner watch them with her, then say shit like "You should be more like that" or "I wish you did those things for me" etc. Putting bullshit expectations from your fantasy onto us.

    SO leave us alone with our fantasy, stop trying to shame it and stop it. It has NOTHING to do with you. If you don't like it, YOU need to get over YOUR issues.

    • I told my partner I hate porn and to not talk about it ever or catch him watching it

    • Then you are a controlling abusive partner and he should leave you.

    • He said that he thinks of me and he doesn't need porn I'm not controlling I just hate porn and cheats and liars

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  • Yes. If I'm "with someone" I don't do porn. I don't masturbate as I don't need to. If he can't wait till you get home to "get off", and he just "has to" get off without you, I'd dump his ass. If I'm getting the real thing, WTF do I need porn for? I'd far rather wait for the woman to come home, or until I get home or whatever than watch porn, then I might not be in the mood when it's time to fuck. You are absolutely right.

    • U r 51yrs old.. And how can u do all those things? I think now u don't need those things... Hahaha...

    • @SmartSree what u mean? any age can be happy and have sex u sad person go watch porn saddo

    • FYI SmartSree, I'm having more sex now than at any time in my life previously! I get laid 3 or 4 times a day on average.

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  • I dont see porn as cheating. I think it's less than desirable depending on the situation and the frequency. If you're in a LDR or if your partner has a lower sex drive than you do, I think porn is more than acceptable.
    If its an issue to the point where they would rather watch porn to get off vs actually having sex with their partner then yes that's a problem, one or both people aren't having their needs met and thats that's a big issue for a relationship.
    Still don't think I'd consider that cheating though as there is no interaction with another real live person.
    To me, it's in the category of fantasy. Most people have fantasies that include celebrity crushes or sex acts that's they'd never actually partake in, porn isn't that different, in my opinion.

  • It's not cheating. Everyone watches porn. There is literally nothing wrong with a man or women who's in a relationship and decides to watch it and masturbate. So now because they're n a relationship they can't have me time? That's stupid.

    • Everyone doesn't watch porn actually do u know everyone?

    • Everyone does at some point. It's human nature. Don't try acting like u haven't

    • I have in past but it's disgusting to me

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  • no.
    I fail to see how simply watching someone of the opposite sex engage in sexual activities has any impact on the levels of trust you have in your partner.

    • re: your update how do you feel when your boyfriend looks at girls in rl that are undeniably attractive? Are you in support in having him walk around his daily life in a blindfold to enforce your having a complete monopoly over him? (while you trail along behind him wearing a blindfold of your own because, y'know... equality.)

    • re: your second update There's nothing more 'degrading' than making so much of your self-worth to be placed on someone else's 'loyalty' to you. Obtained not by their own will, but by you basically limiting them from access to anyone but yourself. (sounds like your boyfriend should get a restraining order pronto.)

    • I just don't like it simple I'm not crazy or controlling. I know he looks at other woman as I look at men and of course he watches porn sometimes but I don't like him mentioning it to me. I do think it's degrading to woman tho most of it is.

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  • I also hate it. If a guy is in a serious relationship he should release his sexual desires with his partner.

    • What's wrong with self sexual satisfaction? Is he no longer allowed 2 masturbate because then he's not having sex with u?

    • Because it makes me feel like I'm not enough for him.

    • It shouldn't. It just means he has urged and needs 2 take care of them. It's healthy

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  • I don't think of it has cheating. If I'm asleep or on vacation or whatever and I'm not available to take care of my boyfriend's needs then I'd much rather prefer him to watch porn and masturbate instead of finding some girl to have sex with. That would be cheating not masturbating to porn.

    • What if he's masturbating and not having sex with you? Then I bet you'll sing a different tune

    • Well if he chooses masturbating over having sex with me when I'm available to have sex with then yes I would be singing a much different tune.

  • All guys watch porn. I think its better than finding out that you less desirable... Guys need stimulation

  • No it's not cheating. Guys are very visual creatures and watching porn helps them get off, which is completely normal. Masturbating releases stress and is normal, especially for guys. And if a guy needs help from porn, then let him have it.

    • They need help from porn seriously come on are they littke boys

  • As long as it's not creating a problem in real life I don't think it's a big deal

  • I don't think so.. I think tons of people watch porn. I would never be upset at a boyfriend for watching porn. Maybe annoyed of he did it in front of me but I wouldn't consider it cheating

  • I wouldn't consider it cheating but I wouldn't be comfortable with the fact that my boyfriend is finding other girls attractive and jerkin it to them and watching porn and wishing it was them having sex with the porn star. If they are gonna find someone attractive it should be me and no one else and they should want to have sex with me and no one else except from characters in a game or an anime or something that's fine because they aren't real

    • Also if he was into hentai or porn that's just animated that fine to along as it's not a real person

    • Are your gonna send your boyfriend nudes or make sex tapes for him

    • He's not one to ask, he thinks porn is cheating or at least has the same views as me... I have sent him some stuff tho even sometimes when he doesn't ask for it.

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  • Watching porn is definitely not cheating.

  • I've never had an issue with it. I find guys masturbate in relationships for things like stress relief more than anything

    • What stress do men have? Lmao

    • What do you mean? @christinerose89

    • @luckyguy11 I was laughing because she said they do it for stress.

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  • So is watching romantic films cheating? What about soaps? Reality TV shows? I don't need to watch porn when my girlfriend is around but she watches porn when I'm not there and so do I. You're not cheating!

    • Update: By your logic, any sort of media that portrays anyone in a non-realistic light shouldn't be allowed. No more Twilight or Magic Mike for you then, right? Any film where someone gets hurt shouldn't be allowed either. Also, you realise that these women CHOOSE to do porn, right? They do what they are into. So you're basically saying free will is bad

    • If I could upvote you a thousand times I would. 👍

  • I personally don’t think so.

  • Why do you consider it cheating? It doesn't make sense. They are not having sex with anyone else nor they are exposing you to diseases nor they are doing anything wrong.

    Watching porn is normal and masturbating is healthy (when done with measure, as everything it becomes a problem if it's obsessive)

    • There thinking of that woman and thinking of having sex with her so yeah it is kinda like cheating

    • 1) You don't know what they are thinking. Watching porn does not equal wanting to be with those people. It's more about what they are doing and most the times people that watch porn are thinking of other people they are attracted to. Masturbation serves to relieve the sexual need. Is like eating a cookie mid-afternoon to hold until dinner. 2) Thinking that your partner will only want to have sex with you or that is only going to find you attractive, is extremely immature and is going to inevitably lead you to problems with your partners. 3) The whole point of fidelity is that you can have thoughts of other people but *decide* to not act on them because of your love and feelings for your partner. That's why infidelity is unforgivable because its a choice. But thougts cannot be controlled and are harmless while they remain in your head. Don't be so insecure. Watching porn does not equal cheating because they are not acting. They are simply relieving the sexual need.

    • Why can't they do it looking at pics or videos of girlfriend

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  • No, it's not.

  • No it's not. If you were messaging the porn stars then yes but since it's pre recorded and edited it's a definite no. That like saying that watching a soap opera is cheating on life.

    • It's fake

    • So is most porn, it's scripted and acted out.

    • It's horrible though and sleezy

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  • It is not cheating

  • Absolutely not. I define cheating as doing something I wouldn't also do in front of my significant other. If I was still 5 or 10yrs old I would consider it cheating.

  • There are two kinds of guys - those that watch porn and those that lie

    • What this guy said is the gospel according to jobe

    • Not true

  • Nope!!!

  • Not cheating, we don't own anybody! I love porn and enjoy watching it alone and with a partner and if he/she wants to watch alone and get theirselves off, awesome!

  • No, it's not, and I'm amazed at this question every time I see it on here.

  • Do I plan. on making sex tapes for your bff or sending him nudes? if not shut up

    • What u talking about are u a porn star or something disgusting

    • S Am a boy toy, do you want a peace of me?

    • Yuck

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