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Does the "daddy" role play suggest father-daughter issues?

I've slept with 4 guys in my life, 2 of which were virgins and 1 was basically a virgin (only one other girl at a much younger age), and every time I tried to drop the "daddy" roleplay with them in bed it ended up becoming really awkward and I would just drop it. One of them even made it a point to tell me it was weird that I did that and asked why I did, I just said I wanted to try it, and he said he felt better off with me not doing that. The most recent guy that I am messing around with is totally fine with this whole roleplay thing, but coincidentally comes from a kind of messed up family in which the father situation isn't the best. My father never hurt me in that way, but was also never around. I'm trying to find out if this is a normal correlation or if it is normal to have that type of roleplay even if you had a heatlhy, positive father-daughter relationship growing up?
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  • For one, I've never liked the whole "daddy" thing as it always has seemed weird to me, even before having daughters. Secondly, I never considered it role play, but maybe it is? I mean, in the context that I'm thinking of, it's like we're having sex, I do something she likes, and in response she exclaims something like "Oh god daddy!" I always just took it as a weird term that some people use to refer to their significant other -- sort of like how people 50 years ago used to refer to a man's wife by the man's name (e. g. Mrs. Michael Cooper). As an aside, I always thought that that was weird too because it seemed weird to refer to a female by a male name.

    Anyway, I'm thinking about the women in my past who used the "daddy" thing most and one of them never knew her father, while the other one was actually really close to him. Like she was always working on cars or would frame houses with him (he was a contractor who did lots of home building and remodels). Given my tiny sample size, I'd say that saying "daddy" to a significant other is not related to father-daughter issues, but I will say that I'm a little annoyed at those women for kind of ruining it for me whenever my daughter's ask to ride me like a horse.

    • Seriously? They would ruined it for you? Just focus on your precious time with your daughter/s.

    • Hahaha. Sorry I know it's very uncomfortable for you but that last part made laugh.

  • You're definitely onto something there.

    A father, being a dominant figure, directly means that you want to be dominated. Why is that could stem from well... Every-fucking-where.

    However. Being daddy, now that's different. Exerting dominance, especially in bed and of this scale can be quite hard for some people, as you've experienced.

    So what do you need to actually do it? Well, for a start, suppressed bitterness. Something fucked up or has been fucking up for a very long time. So why does it show up during intercourse (mentally damaged people would actually exhibit it outside of sex too). Well, think about what sex is. It is, in its essence extreme vulnerability, you're naked, you're open, you trust the person who you are with. Intimacy is vulnerability. So this makes the psychic filters that one would usually have-drop.

    Hence yes, there is solid correlation between what this guy has experienced and what he's exhibiting right now. I don't know shit about his mental stability, but if you feel that he's allowing himself too much freedom, just tell him that things are over after you're done. That is also because "daddy issues" SOMETIMES make for exorbitantly dominant partners.

    • Oh and I'm gonna derail a bit. But it's not only father-son issues that can cause this. Any sort of early childhood too mid/late-teen oppression can be the reason for such behaviour. But you get it, if one is/has been oppressed in any sense for a prolonged amount of time, there is the possibility that they will want to exert dominance in any intimate interaction.

    • And for you, the absence of a male parent or a substitute of one could just as well be the reason for your desires. Basically it's the vice versa situation of what I described, just change the genders.

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  • I honestly can't relate at all to the whole daddy kink thing. And I have a very healthy, loving relationship with my dad. But I don't know if there is any relationship between the two.

  • To me that's gross bc no one wants to think about their parents "creating" them while doing it.

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  • Depends on if you are doing it as a daddy-incest thing, which is weird.
    Or a daddy take care of little ol' me thing.

    Sort of like how a mother will take about her husband to her kids as 'daddy' will do this and that.
    It's being the caretaker and protector of the family.
    It's basically a dominant-submissive thing at that point, with daddy being what you call him instead of master or something.

    Which isn't an incest thing, and thus not really a father-issues thing.

  • I had a ex that was 8 years younger than me and always played the stupid innocent girl role. It used to gross me out and made it not feel special just like she was a complete and utter slut and I'd just get done as quickly as possible lol

  • I think it can be. Though I personally don't mind it and never had family issues (well once I got adopted). I think part of it can be that, where you are looking for a male to take on that role of father, not in a child like way but as protector/provider who is dominant but loving at the same time. So I think that it could be apart of it but I don't think its necessarily a bad thing, its just what it is.

  • date older guys. They will have far less issues with that fantasy.

  • What you just explained is the Electra complex in a nutshell

  • Those that either lack a father figure, or had a spiteful/bad father with sour memories (including the bratty "princess" that got spoiled). Look for a father or daddy, to fill the hole left in them; the easiest way was to fill the hole and seem normal is through the boyfriend/husband.

  • Never had issues with my dad. However, dd/lg roleplay is love, dd/lg is life. Maybe people with father's issues tend to like this kind of roleplay the most, but I'm just here to prove that it's not always the case.

  • Been there done it I just take it in stride, and don't let the fedish faz me.

  • It seems more common than the reality would be. Can be fun as fantasy role play if both are open to it.

  • Some guys may not be ready for that role. I like it. I like to be in control. I feel like its empowering.

  • I'd never request she call me that, but when I'm pounding that pussy, I don't hear what she's calling me.

  • My ex was into DDLG stuff. Didn't mind it. She didn't have daddy issues, she's just inherently a sub.

  • My wife and I do it and she doesn't have daddy issues at all. She only does it in the bed.

  • I had 2 gfs with the daddy kink and it was always cool
    I don't know if it roots in family history things or not but if u like it find some one else that likes it and tadaaa u just made the best relationship u ever could!
    Just do what u wanna do who cares what's behind ur pleasures just have fun with it

  • Daddy kink doesn't bother me

  • Its not weird... and no it dont suggest daddy daughter its more

    controller controlled and id rather have a girl talk than say nothing at all

    As you develope sexually you notice sex is really all Mental as in like 80 percent mental and only 20 percent physical

  • Thats the assumption I've always gone off. It is fucking weird

  • it's role play?

  • These are hidden feelings which comes out in the form of fantasies
    Some people accept it some not
    Choose right person to air out your hidden feelings

  • It's just fantasies. Don't let it die. But not everyone will be up for it. So be careful when you present it in front of him. Why not give him hints to know whether he likes such stuff beforehand. It gets really enjoyable if you get the right partner. I wouldn't categorize you or him as incest lovers just because you like those roleplays. Perfectly alright in my opinion.

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