I think about having sex with my boyfriend 24/7?

[Anonymous]

We have a great sex life but I could have sex with him everyday if he wanted to. We only do it 1-2 times a week. I'm wondering if its an age thing? He's nearly 30 and I'm 21. I feel like I fantasize about him constantly. We've been together a year and when we first started dating he was a more into it then he is now. (Like he wanted to fuck 4 times a week and would go down on me and stuff but now he doesnt) But it hasn't changed for me, I'm still the same. Do men think about having sex with their partners all the time too, is he just too shy or lazy to do anything about it? or do they get bored of the same person? I've been trying to change things up a bit lately, trying new things, etc.. If I tried to have sex with him more, would be think it's too much? Maybe we have different sex drives?

[Anonymous]

First of all, good for you! That is hot and I could not possibly see your drive as a bad thing at all and would appreciate that and desire that greatly! Im the male version of you and I'm 40, married 20 years and have the sex drive still of a 20'yr old? We're a few times a week too, but I want at least 1-2 times a day! It's reallynhard to say what changes? We have a child, that might be it? Sometimes it's boredom I think like you said? Mostly for us I think it's stress and our daily work lives. We are so beat and hard to Sync up in the eve. Weekends are the best time, but it's not enough for me. I've at least talked about it and it seems def related to work and stress. So I have been trying new things like you too and it seems to work a little better. I've got her some nice new vibes and toys, nice lubes and massage oils and I try to pay more attention to her to destress her. If I get the engine reving then it's good to go. Sometimes I have to really work for it before. But she's been loving the toys a lot. I recently got bed restraints and even a really nice attractive soft sex pillow and she loves it! She likes the tie down and suspense while I'm going to tease her with oral and toys and with the pillow under her waist or tummy, penetration is so much more deeper and better angles for doggy and missionary.

But we're older and have had a lot of life changes and age changes. It's not good if you're already saying that in your relation. You just have to talk to him and really be open and explain your needs. Tell him things were different before and it was one of the things that drew you in to him and younfeel likemthings have been lacking... If you really love him and he loves you and still won't change, you might have to please yourself more often to fix your fix. Or leave if it's early in the relationship? I could tell you I certainly wouldn't let a girl like you go with that drive! I can only imagine the fun!

[Anonymous]

This is going to sound bad. Most men are sexually excited in the beginning of a relationship because it's new ehem excuse my language "pussy". Us men are visual and even if we have the hottest girlfriend it starts getting boring even if she's a queen in the sack. We like what's new, we may love you but physically men are more excited by who they're sleeping with rather than what she's doing. Hence cheating happens even if he loves you. My ex was stunning and had a body like a goddess and sometimes she'd get upset with me for starring at less attractive girls. But like I stated before, I got used to her and her body. Now that I don't have her, I want her but I know that if I have her again. And we date again, I'll get bored again. Hope this helps. This isn't the case with all men but yeahh.

[Asker]

After reading that I feel hopeless.. lol

[Anon-ymous1]

Well said.

[kaylaS91]

I used to be like that when I first got with my boyfriend almost four years ago and while it may have changed a bit since then due to both of us becoming far busier with school/work related things, it's still as strong as ever during holidays and such.

I obviously can't answer your questions from a guy's perspective but, based on my experience with similar circumstances..
No, my boyfriend didn't get bored with me at all. We've tried new positions/locations and all but, there's only so much you can change. His favourite go-to position has been doggy for the majority of our time together. He's never thought how much sex I wanted or we had (5-6x/week) was ever too much. I think only maybe once did he tell me it was a bit overkill when we had sex 4x within a few hours and his dick got a bit too much friction or whatever but aside from that, he's always been game for more sex when I was.

Different sex drives? That's something only you could figure out by just letting him know that you'd like to have sex more often, and letting him explain why he can or can't appease that request. To see if maybe he would be totally down to hook up more but was simply holding back for some external reason, or if he is fully satisfied with that amount each week.

[Anonymous]

I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 21 and we've been together for over 2 years. The more I have sex with him the more I want it.
We have sex , every time I go over to his house which is maybe 4-5 times a week. And 1-2 times a day. He's always the one to initiate it , because I'm too shy to. But it may either be age , or bored? But only you can say?

[Blonde401]

He's 30 and you're 21. Obviously that factors in. People want/need less sex as they get older (not that they stop wanting it but they stop wanting to go at it like rabbits all the time). It's also probably the honey moon period is over and he's not feeling the same buzz as before.

[Cmasterson]

Im not sure, not necessarily an age thing my boyfriend is 12 years older than me, and I think our sex drive is equal. Maybe he has changed, and has gotten comfortable tell him that you want to experience new things with him.

[Justacatlady]

I would definitely say its different drives. I know mine is nowhere like it was when I was in my twenties. I could go like a rabbit then. Now I am happy with 1-3 times a week.

[Anon-ymous1]

Well that's scary for the future.

[Justacatlady]

@Anon-ymous1 talk to old people. Not everyone loses their drive. So you may not but for most, hormone levels drop and the desire lessens

[Anon-ymous1]

I guess I'll just instead try to never get "old."

[Justacatlady]

@Anon-ymous1 lol good luck!

[Logorithim]

I do think about having sex constantly (and I'm 45), but don't think that just because you're having sex 1-2 times a week that there's something wrong, e. g., does he work a physical job? If you want sex more often, I would advise you not to complain, but rather to take the initative and seduce him.

[Malaya]

Good luck for that one 😀

[Kait444]

have you talked to him about it?

[Asker]

No but I want to. I'm not sure how to go about it or what I should say.

[Kait444]

just be honest and open and explain how you feel

[Asker]

Okay thank you!

[Kait444]

just be straight with him ☺

[Dude55]

Think of sex as Chips, for a while you can have them for your tea every night but after a while they get pretty boring.

[Svennedude2]

There's so many factors in your life we don't know about. There's his age of course, but does he work a lot? Stress lowers sex drive by a lot.

[Asker]

No, he's not working right now and he's not stressed out. He could be bored in general though, outside of the bedroom. I know I kinda feel bored with our day to day lives. We never go on dates or do anything special together. He doesn't even shower very much anymore lol. Maybe he's just too comfortable? Bored?

[Asker]

I try to eat properly and work out. I take good care of myself. I still wanna look nice for him. I keep the house clean and I try to do nice things for him. Our relationship is good. He's a good guy and he loves me a lot. We are both Into rough sex. But maybe it's just boring, the same old thing all the time. I think I'm going to try to get him to tie me up next time lol. Maybe that will help?

[Svennedude2]

That's strange. Usually men and women have a high libido when they have a lot of time on their hands. Is he depressed? Because it sounds like he isn't taking care of himself and he has a lack of lust for life in general. At least that's what I'm getting from what I'm reading. Depression is a serious libido killer as well. If that's not the case, ever thought of spicing things up? Maybe talk about your partner about his and your fantasies. You might be surprised to find some common ground that might bring your sex life back to life.

[Asker]

He actually has never suffered from depression, because I do and he can't relate. That's just how he is, I guess. A little while ago though, I left for a week to stay at my sister's and when he came to get me a week later, he was nervous and excited to be around me again, you could tell he trimmed his beard and put effort into how he looked, he was extra lovey towards me. And he really wanted to have sex. But time has passed again and it's back to how it always is. So maybe that says were spending too much time together? And yeah, I think that's what I'm going to do. :)

[Svennedude2]

Yeah, you have to be careful that it doesn't become a chore after a while lol. Also, you might want to think about this, but do you feel like you overpower him a bit in that aspect? Do you think you come over intimidating? Do you put high expectations on the sex, like both of you having to finish? Those things can put performance anxiety on the guy, where he feels like he is no longer enjoying the sex, but instead doing work. Just a random thought!

[Svennedude2]

Could very well be! I don't know what you guys interactions are in real life. Are you constantly stepping on each other's toes and stuff. I can only guess! There's so many things that could lower sex drive. But from what you just said, it's very likely that you're spending too much time together. Maybe try to find a hobby like a yoga class or something?

[Asker]

I'm actually the opposite haha. But thanks for your help!

[Asker]

We hardly ever fight or anything. We get along really good.

[Svennedude2]

Hey, glad to help! I was just guessing around a bit, you know. I don't know you, I don't know him lol. I hope you can keep the fire alive. Keep me posted if you feel like. Bye!

[Asker]

Will do :)

[Svennedude2]

:) 👍

[Greysbritney]

Nah, you may get fed up

[momo770]

I just think you have a higher sex drive than he does, talk about it. If nothing changes then you need to decide whether you want to put up with it or leave. Take care

[ks38449]

I think about sex a lot but I'm quite young, it could be that he's got used to it a way to get around this is by changing it up and trying new things. E. g being tied up, spanked, hair pulling, hair pulling, whips and anything else you wanna try, just remember the safe word

[Otter92]

Well it can be more than 1-2 times a week, but a guys penis can't be pumped nonstop

[Asker]

Good to know haha

[winterfox10]

It's partially an age thing, but mostly that the novelty of having sex with you has worn off. That doesn't mean he doesn't enjoy you, it's just that he's been there and done that. That is one of the down sides of being with an older man... he has had more women.

[watercolor_lions]

I agree.

[Asker]

What should I do to change that then?

[winterfox10]

Well THAT my fair maiden, depends on how bold you are in bed, and whether or not he would want to get a little freaky. I am just gonna be blunt here tell you that sex in a relationship either works or it doesn't... incompatible libidos are a hurdle that you are going to have to clear, one way or another.

[Asker]

I'm willing to try just about anything with him.

[winterfox10]

Then break out the cuffs, whips, and toys.

[Asker]

Alright, thanks!

[winterfox10]

Have fun!

[worldscolide]

It sounds like he might be getting bored with it honestly. I'd try spicing things up. Also, is it him that always initiates? If so, you should try to initiate.

[Anon-ymous1]

Wow! I'm surprised that this is a girl saying this, instead of the guy. Rare. And I don't know... you have to definitely ask him about it, this isn't exactly normal. If you were hot, I'd want to fuck you every day if you were mine. Sometimes it's a definite issue of needing to "recharge" so to speak, and maybe that's it. And do you every try to initiate sex or just leave it to him?

[vjedi]

First of all your man is Very lucky to have a girl that wants to have sex with him so much.

I would consider myself lucky if any woman would even give me a thought.

To answer your questions, yes it is possible he is bored and yes you're doing the right thing changing it up, but you need to do more than change up the sex. You need to break the routine, get out with him and do something new together. This might help reignite that spark in him.
And yes it is very possible you have different sex drives.

[TriTree]

You sound like a great girl to have. You're showing interest and what S/O doesn't want that... unless they aren't the same or their drive isn't the same.. age maybe...

[Blkpantherman]

Give him head and when he gets hard cowboy him

[Humbledman74006]

His husband started asking questions about that tangy taste. He had to slow his roll

[DAikman]

Anytime you want it you can just blow him a little to get him hard and then ride it till you're finished. He doesn't have to be in the mood.

[Zitooo]

Try to do something else in your life , i thinks your partner has other works and life responsibility. You also you should have to broke the boredom..