My boyfriend and I had sex without a condom for the first time and he finished inside me. What does that mean?

[Anonymous]

Okay so my boyfriend has always been really admit about using condoms. Yesterday morning however we got intimate and had sex for the first time without one and he finished inside me. It was super wonderful and incredibly intimate. But there was no conversation about it afterwards or anything; he just assured me he loved me and we had an incredibly intimate and lovely day together, he's also been more protective as well it's super cute. Should I be worried that we haven't talked about it or is this just his way of continuing to grow together?

[jpmoore89]

You should talk about it but let things flow naturally. Don't approach it as some major "we need to have that talk" type of thing. There is a fine balance in all things and this should defiantly have good balance. Too serious or emotional is as bad as not serious enough. Just be open and honest but be yourself, the girl he fell in love with. It sounds like he is in love with you too. I think its awesome that he finished inside you and that it went inside. Ejaculation inside the woman we love without protection is probably the most amazing bond we can have. I know of nothing in life more amazing because we literally give you part of our own body. Also the fact that he seems more protective of you is even more a sign that his natural and and most primal instinctual side has set in. This means he defiantly has feelings for you and has most likely fallen that much deeper. The question is what now? If you are willing to allow him to ejaculate inside you, you must also be equally as attached to him. So why not be open to marriage and both of you make that strongest commitment to each other? There is the risk of making a baby which isn't a bad thing. But hopefully your child has a mom and dad who are truly and madly in love. Things to think about.

[Asker]

How can one start a conversation like this? advice?

[jpmoore89]

Complete honesty is key. But as far as when and what type of atmosphere is totally up to how you read him at the time. I would probably just keep it simple at first. Wait until he is in a mood when he is very happy (doesn't seem stressed) and even really tender with you. Keep things more of an ice breaker at first. Maybe even make mention of how sexy and intimate when he ejaculated inside you. Make sure to keep things positive. If he starts to open up about it all, at some point you can just point blank ask, "so now that we are going this far, what are your intentions?" Make sure he knows he isn't on the spot and how much you adore him.

[mikebrett17]

I'd talk about it