Was I sexually abusive?
Here's the story:
12 years ago when I was 4 and brother was 3 he told me he found out how he could give pleasure to himself by humping on the couch. Since that day we started to experiment on each other. I would lay on my stomach, he would lay on my back and we would mutually masturbate without realizing what we did. We knew we must have hidden it from family.
When alone at home we would talk dirty and once he even performed oral sex on me but disliked and stopped in the middle.
One day our parents caught and beat us. We would still continue doing it and parents caught us again. Instead of beating they started to make us feel ashamed of our actions. It worked. We stopped for some years.
I got my first period at 10 and at that time I was so horny that couldn't control myself. Parents worked. So I approached my brother and lead on him, made him kiss the doll at first and when he guessed I was open for it, he asked me to start doing what we did. We did it everyday, felt disgusted and ashamed after mutual masturbation, but still did it. He would never wait to give me a pleasure, once he was finished he would stop. We role played all the time and all of this was my idea. I wanted him to kiss me and rub to me in the missionary position but he would only do this while laying on my back. He didn't kiss me on lips.
Finally I felt guilty and didn't do this things again. I felt so guilty that I wanted to kill myself. Our relationship could never be as innocent as it was. I loved him and he lived me but we did something that made us more distant to each other.
Now I'm 18 and he's 17 and I'm sure he often masturbates on me. I am sorry and feel extremely guilty. When we grew older he would start calling me funny names that I hated and teased me all the time. We are distant but I still think he loves me.
Was I sibling who was abusive? Will we ever be close to each other again? Does he still love me?
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