My boyfriend says he wants to wait till marriage but he also initiates it?

[Anonymous]

We are virgins, and is our first relationship. And before we though we wanted to wait till marriage for sex. Turns out, that I want to lose my virginity with him. I love him, I have a lot of fun when I'm with him, he took my first kiss, he is my first boyfriend and he is the only guy I truly liked. So I don't see what's wrong of wanting to have him be my first sexual experienxe

But. He says he wants to wait till marriage. We haven't done anything. Just oral but he initiates it, then he talks about it a lot. And just by kissing I can tell he gets hard, every time. So I don't understand why he wants to wait... One time we were going to do it in his room but we were unsure if someone will come to his dorm. Yet he seem so into it so i don't understand him.

I wouldn't want to be in the heat of the moment, wanting him and he pleasuring me only to stop. I respect he wants to wait till marriage, he pleases me in other ways too. But at the same time, I really want him. But I won't do anything to push him. I wouldn't want us to have sex and then he telling me that we shouldn't do it again.

[Blueye556]

He could be thinking that sex is just too far. Maybe it seems a little too intimate to him, maybe he grew up being taught that you should only have sex after marriage. I think it's good that you aren't pushing him, you're respecting his wishes, and when you both do that it leads to a good relationship

[Blueye556]

Adding on because of the update. Maybe the best thing to do is just ask him. Likensot him down and and say "hey this might seem like a weird question but---" If you guys s are honest and tell each other things it will be better. Trust me I've Been doing this with my girlfriend and we have yet to have an argument since we've started dating

[Blueye556]

*like sit him down

[Blueye556]

HIs hormones could be all over the place too., in the moment maybe he would, but when he stops and thinks about it, he would want to wait.

[Asker]

Yea and thats what I'm afraid of. That in the heat of the moment we do it. And then he says to not do it again.

[Blueye556]

And you guys probably don’t wanna do something either of you would regret. I don't know i just think the only way to be sure and get a definitive answer would be just to ask him. But at the same time if you think that would like put strain on the relationship or freak him out for some reason... I guess if you ask him just make sure you word things in like a loving and caring way, lol

[Daniel_Lucea]

Is good to be abstinent but hey, what happens if you marry and then have sex and after some time you don't like each other? I would say it must be done before, it can change your behaviour or thinking.

[Blueye556]

I disagree with this, if you both are virgins then it's going to be great. You haven't nothing to compare it to

[Christopherthrob]

Your boyfriend is gay no question about it

[Christopherthrob]

Th hats what hoes do players just love them hoes

[theinferiorninja]

If he wants to wait until marriage, you wait until marriage. It's that cut and dry.

[edrolnosam]

I wanted to wait too with my girl but it just happened in the heat of the moment.

[Shubham_3323]

abe... enjoy kro

[sairagava]

Yeah then wait until marriage...

[ibipai]

He is a virgin. Ofcorse he gets hard from kissing. And if he wants to wait till maridge but you do oral there are two possibilities one he is afraid of getting you pregnant and two he doesn't know what to do with you

[shriadi]

Tell him you want sex... Then he say no then he is guy