Why do some girls make boyfriends wait for sex, but don't make non boyfriends wait?

[CT_CD]

What is the logic in waiting for months to have sex with a guy you deem boyfriend material, but giving it up early for the guys you deem non-boyfriend material? If the guy is some douche which is why you deem him not boyfriend material, why give it up on the first night to him? No wonder so many guys act like douchebag fuckboys. That's how to get laid. Then women wonder "Where are all the good guys. There's nothing but fuckboys"


"It's like having two kids. One's a piece of shit and you give him a nice car right away and the other one you're like "oh you're a good kid you have to work for it"

[Anonymous]

When they meet a guy they find irresistible, they can't wait. If they feel luke warm about the guy, they need him to warm them up with dates and grovelling.

In other words, if you're Chad, you won't have to wait, but if your a nice, predictable, average looking guy, you are more likely to be waiting. It also depends on what stage of life they are in.

If they are looking to settle down and had their fun already, they may be less enthusiastic about sex (from having so much of it).

Put it this way. One girl might say this ''so when are you taking me to that restaurant?'', but to the guy she finds irresistible, no restaurant is involved.

As for that comment from the blue comparing one night stands to a boyfriend, I see where he's coming from but that's not always the case. More likely it's an ongoing friends with benefits compared to a boyfriend...

I knew a guy that was taking a girl out, looking after her children, trying to impress her, waiting until she was ready to be intimate, and helping her with home improvement...

Then I knew this other guy that was invited to her place for sex. She collected him, fed him, and then they were intimate...

[PoliceLivesMatter]

I also know several women like this. They're disgusting sluts 100%. It's like, once you discover that a woman has or does do this, why would you ever put effort into her? It's either she makes everyone wait, or no one at all. If I'm with a woman and I'm paying and going through heaps of effort for her, only to find out she gave it up 2-3 weeks, months sooner for a rando ONS as compared to me, then I'm fucking out. Seriously. That's just odd and the thinking is backwards honestly. I wouldn't mind equal treatment, but making me wait when you fucked a dude after 30 mins of talking to him at a bar? Fuck

[TheUglyMonk]

She "made me wait" for 6 months just to realize I wasn't open to having sex with her all along.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

Sure UglyBuddhist

[bente2]

Uhm, duh? Because the “boyfriend material” as you referred it to, is someone we want to get to know first, someone we want to actually have a well working relationship with. Getting in bed with then straight away shows that’s what you’re interested in. The sex. Waiting shows you’re actually interested in the person rather than just their body.

[tzdc21]

You know what that tells a lot of guys too? It tells us that you're not into us. ESPECIALLY if you've given it out to other guys way sooner than us, oh hell no! They're going to be thinking, "this girl gave it free to other guys in a millisecond or sooner, and she's making ME jump through hoops when I wanna take her seriously? Uh, nope "

[tired_girl_]

Because they actually like that guy, so they care if he'll think she's easy or something like that. The non boyfriend doesn't mean anything so she might as well just sleep with him since that's all she wants.

[Like-Me]

So the non boyfriend get's to fuck that pussy as well and even earlier than the boyfriend? Don't tell me that all women have this whorish retarded mentality shoved inside their minds.

[tired_girl_]

How do you expect me to answer for all women.. you asked why and I gave you a reason, might be right or wrong. People do all kinds of stupid shit regardless of gender, chill out

[tired_girl_]

You didn't ask the question but you get the point

[PoliceLivesMatter]

I agree with Chris Brown, how can someone you barely know have access to being very intimate with you and someone who actually has a deeper affinity towards is made to wait? That's seriously a whorish mentally to the max, it's disgusting too.

[bekkesmash]

Yeah I would be pissed if my girlfriend had sex much earlier with other guys.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

The main thing is, I wouldn't mind waiting if she also made the other guys wait.

[tired_girl_]

I do too, I'm simply giving one possible explanation guys.

[Bandit74]

@PoliceLivesMatter I agree 100% I would wait 6 months even if I knew she made all the otjer guys wait that long, but if I knew a girl had had fuckbuddies and one night stands but was expecting me to wait weeks /months and pay for dates I would dump her ass

[PoliceLivesMatter]

Yeah 😅

[Turtleluv]

1 night stands are about getting laid. Having a boyfriend is about having a boyfriend. Very different things.

[bekkesmash]

Most meb would be really pissed if you made him wait longer than other guys.

[bekkesmash]

*men

[Turtleluv]

@bekkesmash then he kind find another girl to date. If your needs aren't being met move on.

[bekkesmash]

Most guys will do that. I am just telling you, it could cost you a relationship.

[Turtleluv]

@bekkesmash that's her choice. If her needs, i. e. not having sex, aren't being met she can move on too. You are seriously over complicating something that isn't complicated. Relationships don't require sex it's a personal choice. My relationship is just fine but thanks for the concern.

[bekkesmash]

Relationships don't require sex? Are you asexual? Any guy who isn't asexual will dump you for that.

[bekkesmash]

You saying she will dump him, well he would want that if she wasn't having sex with him.

[Turtleluv]

@bekkesmash no relationships do not require sex. Relationships require people who want the same things and are happy. Who said I was asexual? If a guy dumps me then his needs weren't being met. I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who isn't happy. I'm not concerned about getting dumped by my fiance that I just bought a house with. We are both very happy with our relationship. Again thanks for your concern though. If a guy would be happy he got dumped by a girl then it sound like a win win. Why are you over complicating something that isn't complicated? If people aren't happy move on. End of story.

[bekkesmash]

Yeah and you have sex with him though.

[Turtleluv]

I never said I didn't have sex with him? Seriously you need to calm down and stay on topic. If you aren't getting laid I'm understanding why. Relax.

[Taratara12]

No fucking clue

[truthbeknown]

Hard to rationalize the thought process of a woman! For some, it is a phase thing. They can be like guys in the way they aren't looking for a relationship and just want casual sex. So they go through the fuckboy phase and just enjoy loose relationships and plentiful sex. Then they hit that point where they want to settle down and get serious and find "Mr Right" and so the waiting game begins.

[JadeLM20]

Maybe they wait with their boyfriend because it means something for them, it goes deeper than alone pleasure. With a non-boyfriend sex is just for having pleasure and nothing more I think.

[summiter]

Is the wait worth it?

[pepwave21]

One word: Liquor :)

[jacquesvol]

Indeed. SOME girls forget the word 'No' when they're wasted. And good friends don't make them drink.

[slatyb]

Not my experience. After three dates women were inviting me to bed. I was older, but I assume that's it about the same for anyone over 21.

[CubsterShura]

I believe that in relationships they want their boyfriends to chase them more so they keep them waiting a bit. In other cases, they aren't looking for someone to chase them, so yeah.

[Pomegranate139]

My bad I picked the wrong poll option. I meant it doesn't make sense.

[Streak]

You legit sound like a "nice guy"

[Bandit74]

They felt a greater sexual chemistry with the non-boyfriends.

[omgjassy]

Same reason guys have

[jacquesvol]

Sex might make for a deeper bond and the ONS will be gone next day, the boyfriend might stay, even if the girl hasn't yet made her mind up about him.

[noesbueno]

As a man, I would feel really insulted if a woman did that a lot and then treated me differently like that. It's pretty much if someone cares about you, why make you go through hoops and everything for something that you gave away so freely to someone you didn't give a shit about.

[CT_CD]

I agree

[Like-Me]

Good Fucking Question.

[CT_CD]

Thank you

[smølf]

It make sense, but it is unsympathetic nonetheless.

[Darkdragon79]

I love see women finally unlock this mystery.

[DiegoO]

Is none sense.

[GENERICname1]

I think it's because if she makes u wait then she might want more if she just has sex with u it's probably just list.

[BleepRawrsaurus_Rex]

I don't know...

[disgustingweebtrash]

Makes sense

[Nahid1234]

Haha.