Guys do all the work during sex?

[Inthebook]

My boyfriend and I had sex one time and after I asked him if he was sweating too and his remarks was "well I was doing all the work" naturally I got annoyed and although it is true I said "well how else does sex supposed to work the guys are the ones doing the fucking anyway" in bed I'm not a starfish I suck him off A LOT during sex even after he finishes and he cums from it majority of the time. I do get on top but for an odd reason because of our hip proportions it doesn't work all the well when I'm bouncing on top. But when I'm on bottom I really can't do much but I try to thrust back. I really just wanted to share that bc it's not like girls don't do anything during sex, yeah guys do mostly all the work but sucking dick ain't all that easy especially when the guy is trying to shove it down your throat 🙄 ANYWAY lol this is a legit question tho, what else would you guys expect or want us girls to do during sex rather than being on top, blowjobs, handjobs, etc to make you feel you're not "doing all the work" ?

[MrOracle]

Look, the fact is that guys do MOST of the work in MOST cases - but it's also true that we're PERFECTLY FINE doing it. It's not something most of us would ever complain about unless YOU (the girl) makes some issue about it - which, if you remember, YOU DID! LOL.

It sounds like you are participating plenty, and I'm sure he has absolutely no complaints about you, so that's not the thing. He was simply answering your question about why he was so sweaty (which should have been obvious!). Don't read too much into it or get so damn offended by everything. If you can't handle an answer, don't ask the question!

[Dural]

I don't know how it works because I'm a guy, but I've been with some girls that just have a certain way they move their hips, their rhythm matches mine, and it feels absolutely fantastic. Other girls just can't make it happen. Try doggie style and make sure you're rocking back when he thrusts forward. If you do it right he'll definitely appreciate it.

[ninetynine]

I agree with the posters that say he was likely just stating it as a fact, and not criticizing you!

Ask him what his favorite positions are. There may be some that are more comfortable and less tiring for him. The spooning position where you lay on your side allows both of you to put in work.

When you're on bottom, here are some things you can do:
- Trace your fingers down his back.
- Grab his lower back or butt area.
- Wrap your legs around him.
- Tell him how much you like what he's doing / don't be shy to make sounds.

[tinyclit]

It's okay. He enjoys doing all that work. I like the fact that my husband does all the hard work and that I have it easy. I have no problem with that. And neither does he. We're both getting the pleasure we need. :)

[Anonymous]

I sweat like crazy in sex. I love the mingle of body fluids.

I dunno. Maybe move your body more with him. Wrap your thighs around him. Pull yourself up to him when he's above you. Thrust yourself at him.

[TheCunningLinguist]

I don't believe it was a complaint But a statement of the facts as he saw them. Only a lazy and selfish lover would be bothered by the work. For some men that's the only work ethic they have.

[maladeeh]

My boyfriend doesn't complain if he does all the work. In fact, he prefers it. 😂

[backdoorman]

Yes, men do most or all the work. It's not a bad thing though... that's just the nature of sex. Nothing to feel bad about.

[noesbueno]

Um, by your description, you're putting in just as much work as he is, lol

[Anonymous]

Nah, I do all the work with my boyfriend, I'm the dominant and he is submissive.