Help with blowjobs? Advice? How do I fix me?

[Anonymous]

Hi. My boyfriend and I have engaged in oral behavior for 3 years. I got pregnant (not from oral obviously but this question involves oral that’s why I gave a premise for how long we’ve been doing oral.), 2 years ago. Sometime between getting pregnant and about 3 months after my child was born something changed. He used to tell me I gave the best bjs ever. Now I can give him a good one once every 6-7 months. But the reason why is everytime I get in a good rythmn he tells me I’m scraping. Now once in awhile I do feel my teeth accidentally hit him but I can feel that and very quickly learned how to fix that from happening a long time ago. It’s not that, I can’t feel my teeth against him if it ever does happen and my lips are usually over my teeth. So it’s not my teeth. I don’t think. I’ve been trying for over a year to fix this. Scraping problem as he calls it. But I’m at a loss. I’m getting discouraged. He doesn’t like handjobs as much. He says they aren’t as loving or personal. I literally have gotten so discouraged I literally cry after every attempt because after a year I just can’t get it right. I’ve tried millions of angles, I’ve tried lips tight, lips loose. But nothing seems to work.

I think... I could be wrong.. but I think it’s got something to do with the saliva. Before I got pregnant I never had any problems but after I got pregnant now I have issues with dry mouth daily. I feel like I’m thirsting to death no matter how much I drink. My boyfriend doesn’t think that is what is causing it and refuses to try lube he says too much wet is bad. But I am thinking that it’s not wet enough. My mouth feels dried out after I try giving him a bj, and if I go straight from mouth to hand he doesn’t feel wet just damp. When before I got pregnant my hand would be coated in salvia.

I know this sounds stupid. I just don’t know what to do. I need some suggestions. I don’t know what to do anymore.

[mjz00]

hi, only my opinion here of course but i think he is a git and his complaining is upsetting you and that is not ok... also you are sensing what could be the issue and trying to fix it and he is stating no, no lubrication, well personally, f.. k that, if it suited me to try and he wanted oral he should be accepting to try hunny,, coconut oil is a really good natural lube available from health food stores, completely edible of course... taste good and not too strong flavour... melts on body contact... could try a little at a time... he shouldn't be reducing you to tears over this issue it sounds incredibly selfish and you appear to be trying so hard to please him so stand your ground if you want to continue trying with him... xx

[Asker]

I’m going to try coconut oil tonight. Thank you for the suggestions.

[That1ShyGirl]

He's either lying to avoid a bj for some reason or stupid. If your mouth is that dry, then lube isn't gonna make it "too wet" , ffs. Seriously, he's either stupid as or that's the lamest excuse ever.
Also, YOU'RE the one who putting a dirty dick in your mouth just for him. If you need some lube, he should be getting her you some damn lube! he's acting like its such a huge inconvenience for him, when its just a little lube! If he's so unwilling to even TRY to fix it, then he must not want bjs that bad, and you should just stop doing them at all. If he complains, just tell him he made his choice! He should accept the consequences like an adult 🤗😋

[lele98]

I recommend adding a bit of strawberry jelly or whatever you prefer on your lips. Suppose you apply it just like lipstick. So, when you start giving head it'll make it more pleasing for both of you and just have fun with it! Don't think to much of it. Hope it helps.

[theonetrueblitz]

Scraping? Haven't heard that one. I literally have no idea what the problem could be. My guess would be the wetness. Use the lube anyway and see if he feels a difference. He says too much wet is bad, but you've never done it with lube, I suggest at least trying it.

[Asker]

Thanks I’m going to give that a try.

[aapunpred]

Ok... Try this cause it just happened to me... Drink a few different fluids and see which on makes you salivate. Sweet tea did it for me... Then of course drink before you do him.

[Asker]

I’ll try this. Ginger ale makes me salivate a lot maybe that’ll help.

[Asker]

That did it! I sipped on ginger ale off and on all day and drank a few oz right before bed. That did it 😍😍😍😍😍😍

[aapunpred]

You're welcome

[AustinMan]

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a7404-blow-jobs-tips-from-a-deep-throat-queen

[SpurtLover]

Personally, I think you sound like a great wife! I'm not sure what your husbands problem is but to me he sounds like he is very ungrateful. When a woman like you, who loves to give blowjobs and swallow my warm sperm, I would love you forever. A little bit of teeth feels good (I mean my dick is in your mouth so of course there is going to be a little bit of teeth contact) so even if I felt your teeth I am still going to let you keep sucking until I feed you my cum.

[Asker]

Thanks. I just don’t want to hurt him. I love him 😤 I just can’t fix this. I don’t know how.

[Intraluminal]

Are your eyes sore and dry as well?

[Asker]

Sometimes yes, why?

[Intraluminal]

there's an autoimmune condition called Sjogren's Syndrome that causes dry mouth, dry eyes, tiredness, etc. Unlikely, but possible.

www.mayoclinic.org/.../dxc-20345868

[Asker]

I have issues with dry skin and stuffy nose too all the time. I’m going to ask my doctor about it. I had no idea there was any sort of thing that might cause it. I thought being pregnant had changed my chemistry makeup and caused it.

[Intraluminal]

It's just a possibility. You're young, so that makes it less likely.

[Asker]

It’s worth asking about at my next appt though. I’m also too young for shingles and get them at least every 6 months even with the vaccine for no reason the drs can find.

[Intraluminal]

I hope I'm wrong because there's no real cure or good treatments. bon the other hand if you do have it, you're better off knowing you have it. Could you let me know what the doctor says? It'd be nice to know if all my hours studying syndromes paid off 😁

[Intraluminal]

Excuse me for asking, but are you black?

[Asker]

I’ll let you know if it is. No, I’m not. Why? Is it more prevelant in people of color? I’m White and Native American.

[Intraluminal]

Actually I was then thinking of Lupus (SLE). SLE can look like many different autoimmune diseases like arthritis, Sjogren's, rheumatism, etc. its more common in black women.

[Intraluminal]

Sorry, I was on my phone, and too many thoughts were going through my mind. Is it this, is it that?

The real point here is that you definitely have some form of immune dysfunction. You are also NOT being appropriately treated if you have recurrent shingles and all they're doing is giving you vaccine.

If you have recurrent shingles you should probably be on one of these medications. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/9675639
and since to you might have an autoimmune disease, you should be worked up by an immunologist both to determine why you have recurrent bouts of shingles, and to investigate whether you have an autoimmune disease, and if so what it is and how to treat it.

[Asker]

I went to the dr this morning. My shingles are back is why, but I mentioned to her about the dryness. She set me up an appt at an immunologist (sorry not sure spelling) she said she’s not sure how to help me at this point because it’s something in my immune system reacting badly. I’ll let you know what they say. On the bright side I got my bjs fixed thanks to help on here 😂😂😂

[Intraluminal]

Thank you for keeping me updated. Please DAM me after you see the immunologist, and I'm happy to hear you have your BJs back! 😁

[noraaenots]

I'd say you're correct. Dryness could cause a scraping sensation. Fuck it. If he's not enjoying it, that's his problem. Stop altogether. Don't complain about your throat no longer getting bruised 😂 if he complains about you not going down, tell him it's his problem for complaining about your efforts

[Asker]

Lol. I appreciate that but nah I’d be punishing myself then huh

[noraaenots]

I didn't say no sex 😉

[Asker]

Lol welllll it kinda would be no sex. I love bjs more than any other form of sex.

[Mjstang]

Tough

[That1ShyGirl]

I hope this isn't sarcasm

[Mjstang]

No no not at all I feel for you I just don't know what to do to offer help

[Asker]

Thanks. It is super frustrating.

[angeluhhmarie]

Add some fun to the bedroom! Watch the grapefruit, honey, and whip cream blow job video! I'm telling you he will never want a normal blow job again. Food makes you salivate which is good!

[jason222]

@angeluhhmarie what is that? link?