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So many mental changes after giving my first blow job, narural?

Hey everyone I gave my first blowjob a few days ago and after being really nervous before I did it and thinking it turned out really well for both of us. Since I've had a fair bit of reflection time and I've actually become quite obsessed by giving the blow job but about his Penis being in my mouth. When I look at myself I think "I've had a dick in there" and also I always had myself down as a pretty dominant girl however now this has made me feel strangely submissive and I really like it! So I guess what I'm wondering is it normal to have these thoughts? Especially thinking of a dick being in my mouth? Any other girls had similar thoughts after?
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  • It is normal. And it is an old mindset breaking down.

    You thought you were dominant and now realise that you aren't - like most other girls out there. So you have a bit of a discrepancy between who you thought you are and who you realised you actually are.

    This causes confusion, excitement and overcompensating. Like you realised you want something that you thought you didn't and are kinda overcompensating for it now with overbearing desire. It will normalise with time - without losing it's appeal. It's just especially exciting, beacuse it's something new.

    At the same time - as I said - it is a realisation about yourself that is completely opposite to what you thought you were. So that might leave you on a tad bit of shaky footing at first - though you seem smart enough to take your time to reflect.

    All that's left is to embrace it. Oral is a great act of giving your partner pleasure. It's not always submissive, but often. Receiving pleasure from giving pleasure is a great and desirable attribute. Just don't let that turn you into a pushover.

    • Wow thank you for an amazing answer!

    • You are welcome. Too bad many girls find their genuine nature way too late. All I can recommend you for the time being is a) learn what exactly about giving oral appeals to you (the act of pleasing, the submissive part, the scent/taste, etcetc) and b) figure out if there are other aspects of your SELF that might not be what you thought it were. Sexuality and sexual needs do not happen in a vacuum nor are a separate entity, but rather an extension of the self.

    • I think I'm doing all that now but still trying to find answers... I am freaked out by obsession a guy has been in my mouth more than anything. ..

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  • As a guy that has given a lot of blowjobs, I can say that I felt a little strange at first. I would think of it when eating, etc. I would sometimes lick my lips and think of it, which actually lead me to craving it more and more. Those thoughts become more natural the more blowjobs you give.

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  • its normal to think that in start. i also felt the same thing when i gave blowjob first couple of times. how can i take that thing in my mouth n even let him finish in my mouth n why i want to do it again. i think the thought of taking it in mouth is really kinky n thrilling after you did it first time n you liked n enjoyed that feeling. eventually this though will subside and you will learn to enjoy that feeling.
    and i too feel submissive when i give blowjob. actually it turns me on more. and if you liked what you did n the submissiveness about it then nothing wrong in being obsessed about it.

    • Thank you! Exactly the same thoughts I'm having! I thought I was going a bit mad to keep thinking about it. I guess after a while you don't keep thinking you have had it in your mouth ect?

    • yeah just try to think about it in a good n sexy way. you will take it naturally soon

    • Yeah I'm not thinking negative about it I actually enjoy the though (weirdly I know) it's just weird I can't get it out of my head

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  • Oh i had the exact same thought process going.

    Like holy hell I've had a cock in there! And pretty much how i couldnt wait to do it again. Guy i tried it with my first time was really good with instruction, hed give quick tips and would show with his hand what he liked best and id emulate that, and i very much enjoyed both having that control over him, while at the same time doing it for HIS pleasure and not mine.

    • Thank you for sharing your experiences! It's the exact same thought process I'm going through. Thank you!

  • Yeah, totally normal. You're having good fun. Gorgeous hard cocks are designed to be fun to play with. You're going to want do it more and more. Cum is made to be swallowed, savored and enjoyed. It's addictive and satisfying. Oral sex in general is wonderful. :)

    • Thank you! Its more mental for me at the minute I keep thinking about it being in my mouth? I know it sounds weird but I can't understand why I keep thinking about it being in there?

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  • I can relate, I love doing the same and feeling submissive about it. My boyfriend really enjoys it haha

  • Yes it is very normal its just up to you to decide whether or not you're going to continue doing or if you are gonna allow yourself to get trapped in your head about it

  • GIRL listen. I didn't give my first BJ until 20 (when I was ready of course) and it was a good time. I definitely felt weirdly powerful when I first did it. And after the 3rd time, I was unstoppable. I can relate to the obsession part, bc I LOVE giving BJs! Maybe not every day, but I could give one a week for the rest of my life and be perfectly happy. I just enjoy the act and pleasing a lover. Relatable af... don't get how some women don't like it. It's arousing and very powerful feeling

  • If u dont like it dont do it. If u haven't had any problem with it it’s normal to have blow job in sex. U are not the only one. Focus on how you are confortable. With or without it

    • I'm comfortable but I can't seem to get it out my head (no pun intended) about such a thing being in my mouth I find it strange

    • It’s ok. Dont overthink about it. You just wash your mouth after it. There is nothing wrong w you girl 💛

    • I know I just feel weird lol thinking about it all the time

  • I know how it is. After I gave my first blowjob I felt like that too. It was very nice knowing that I had a penis inside my mouth. Totally normal. Totally normal.

    • Hey that's exactly it! I'm 18 too haha. That's exactly what I'm think but I'm like in disbelief it was in there too

    • Yeah but I gave my first blowjob a very long time ago.

    • Oh haha well I'm glad Imy not the only one thinks like that

  • Not a chick but from the first vagina i ate i felt that way... The thought of a woman grabbing my hair or beard and forcing me down there or sitting and grinding on my face nearly makes me blow a loud from the thought

  • Yes. My main thought the first time I have my guy one. And now I'm obsessed with blowing him

  • Your boyfriend and future husband will love your obsession.

  • Its very natural and beautiful

  • I think a lot of girls have this happen after they have first had a man in their mouth , its empowering for them to know they can give so much pleasure to a man , its the same for a man , I mean to me there's nothing more pleasurable than giving a woman so much pleasure by going down on her and giving her lots of orgasms ,
    As for you wanting to be more submissive , I think that's something you will find more and more of a turn on.

  • Yes you are getting used to it

  • I think it's normal. But I don't think giving oral is submissive for a girl I mean you have teeth...

  • I love giving my boyfriend blow jobs. It makes me feel good to know I can make him feel good.

  • Where are more girls like you?

  • Its so normal. Because you found out how good it can feel so you will crave it more. It happened to me the first time I had sex. I became very obsessed with thinking about men all day long😅 dicks are amazing

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