I can't take it anymore, should I just fuck him?

[Anonymous]

Girls, Guys have any of you been through something like this?

There is unbearable sexual tension and chemistry between myself and a colleague at work. He's making moves on me like pulling me close to him, touching my thigh, and last week he massaged my neck over my clothes ofc and it took everything I had to not turn around and kiss him. However there is a bigggggg problem, he's engaged. And I told him I don't want to be a home wrecker and he said she doesn't have to know. I sound like a right slut but believe me I have morals and self-control, but he just sets every nerve in my body on fire and he feels it too he even said to me that this tension between us is driving him crazy and he asked me on Friday that if I just let him kiss me once and if I don't like it he will never touch me again and I haven't said no yet. But I know if I let him kiss me we're not going to stop.

DISCLAIMER: I'm also a bloody virgin (he knows this btw).

I know self-control more than most, I've been in a 3 year relationship and managed to keep in control and remain a virgin. But I can't do it anymore with him. There are no feelings involved. I don't feel anything but sexual attraction towards him and I feel like I really need to get him out of my system or I will lose it... I feel like I need to fuck him - I've never felt so sexually frustrated or attracted to someone specifically like this before.

Should I just do it?

[hellionthesagereborn]

Yeah that's his goal, keep you in a heightened state offer the kiss knowing you will give him everything. Why would you even consider it? One, he is engaged which of course makes him a piece of shit human being for doing this, two he is using you this is a game for him and when you give it to him that is the reward for winning. So he is a piece of shit again. When you see him again, think of his fiancé, thank about how much she thinks he loves her, how she is so completely trusting and this man is intentionally using that trust to try and get sex from other women, namely you. Then tell him that you want him to back off because he is engaged and you have a sense of morality. Then stay away from him. Otherwise it will end exactly as you think it will end and then you will feel like shit (as you should) and he will go back home to his fiancé like nothing happened while you carry the burden of knowing you destroyed that woman because eventually he will slip up and she will find out and her life will be destroyed and you will have helped that happen. Do the right thing and tell him to go away, use anger if you have to but make sure he gets the hint and you get to remain a person of character.

[Asker]

I want to do the right thing, I wouldn’t be able to bear anyone saying or chatting shit about me. For now I’m going to keep my distance

[hellionthesagereborn]

You can't avoid him, he will try to initiate again and again. You have to reject him outright and firmly. Make him know their is no chance in hell that he will get you, then and only then will he back off.

[wolverine101]

The guy will cheat on his fiancé so he’s just a fuckboy. If that’s the kind of guy you want to give your virginity to then go for it. He’ll be gone soon. In the future you’ll meet someone that you feel the same passion for but also develop deep emotional connection with of the same intensity and you’ll be trying to explain why you had sex with a guy you weren’t in a relationship with. Not all guys are that understanding.

[Asker]

If a guy can’t accept that I’m not a virgin then he’s not right for me. But what I do fear is being a referred or thought of as a dirty woman for choosing to be the other woman, that’s something I’m not prepared for and I know I’d feel so much self disgust if I did that.

[Deydey12345]

Yes, I have been in that situation.. With my dentist.. Never met a man that turned me on like him in 23 years of life.. Even when I was madly in love with my ex I wasn't EVEN that much sexualy attracted to him, somehow.. But it's not just sex, I feel a deep connection with him.. And I'm a broken person that build a big strong wall by the way me n the world but yet he made that wall melt like butter on a pan the second I met him..
Back to the sexual part; I am sexually attracted to him like no other, just as you describe. I have no freaking self control with him and I too was a person with morals and control before lmao.. And I was not in love with him yet or anything! Since we didn't spend enough time together, else I know damn well that I would fall in love with him in a blink!

Now I don't know if he's just a fuck boy or if he like me and my dentist have an emotional connection with you but from what you're telling me I would say do it.. Personally I know that my dentist is the right one, even if it's just for sex..
Don't miss it if it's actually that

[Nerdking]

wth HE'S CHEATING ON HIS FIANCEE Does that not fall under the category of fuckboi?

[Deydey12345]

@Nerdking not necessarily.. Maybe she doesn't treat him right or he's just emotionally and sexually unsatisfied and wants to leave her for the other.. Lots of attached guys are "just friends" with some girl.. Next thing you know he left his girlfriend to be with her.. But if he just fucks her and yet stays with his fiancé yeah he's a fuck boy.. That's why I said "I don't know if there's a connection involved "

[HitGirl_4680]

You think your the only chick he’s fucking around with behind his soon to be wife’s back like this? Think again!

This guys a fucking prick, a creep, he’s w can you even be remotely turned on by a disgusting fucker like this.

Imagine you were her, this was your soon to be husband? Do you actually condone this shit!

This is heartbreaking from both of you.

You want to lose your virginity to someone like this? Rather than a guy who loves and cares about you?

You will ABSOLUTELY regret it1 million percent. He will fuck you with no love no care and it will likely be shit. He will walk out the door I spooning no cuddling and walk the fuck away from you like your just his whore!

Wake up girl, wake the fuck up! Please. You are going to get so hurt and your knowingly killing the heart of another girl with your current behaviour.

[archiz]

Lucky... I wish so felt that strongly about someone
Anw lemme put things into perspective to you:
It might not be as enjoyable for you since it is your first time
You most probably gonna feel awful afterwards and it s gonna stick with you for some time
Especially since he WORKS with you...
You might gain unnecessary drama
You're gonna feel cheap after it

Bottom line just keep it as a fantasy and pour your frustration elsewhere (masturbate, exercise, go clubbing)
Also I am surprised on how you denied your boyfriend sex for 3 years but you are willing to loose it for a jerk who won't give a damn about you when he s done with you. Be careful if he is gonna spread humors about you too in the work setting.

[TheMoroccangirl]

Lol I experienced this too except he had a girlfriend instead and we didn't communicate nor touch. It was love at the first sight and the tension was extremely strong. We purposely didn't stand near each other, because feelings would take over and certainly mess up. Trust me it will go away with the time as long as you keep believing it will and that it's not worth it to wreck a relationship.
I got over my feelings. The poor guy still didn't but I believe he eventually will.

Tell that guy that he should stay loyal to his woman. Imagine if it was your guy doing that to another girl, you would get mad.

[TheMoroccangirl]

Oh yeah that tension lasted nearly a year.

[lovelyone23]

I mean you can have great self control but there's a such thing as a slutty virgin.. just saying 🙌🏽 lol just don't be a slutty virgin with him 😬 trust me your lusting after him now, but sex for the first time is no where near as enjoyable as it'll be the 3rd or 4th. It's painful af and not what I expected. Although the guy I was with was fucking amazing in every other way. The penetration is the WORST part. You'll probably find it to be a waste of time

[litost]

Its his relationship not yours so your attraction is not wrong and you're not the one thats committed themselves to an engagement. BUT do not bring that shit to your work place because if she does find out she could ruin your career and reputation. Not worth it find a guy who wants you beyond a being an extra curricular activity and won't fuck up your reputation in the process
Also saving you the danger of getting your ass beat

[BubblePop11]

if you fuck him once you would do it again, but he's putting himself in trouble you're not the ine whos engaged so its nit yourproblem... as horribleas that sounds lol

[rozequarts]

Dont do it unless he's single/breaks up with her.

[neurolove]

Would you want a guy to do this to you if you were engaged to him? You're letting a guy who's taken to get that close to you sexually and probably emotionally too.. You have major issues. Something from your past I suspect.

[pepwave21]

This is complicated. If you just knew the guy I would say go for it if you really are feeling it. However, you work with him so no. Never mix sexual stuff at work and especially with engaged guy. It will all end up bad. Sounds like he is also getting close to boundary of harassment so if you say no and then he should leave you alone.

[slatyb]

Don't do it if you value your job or your self-esteem. The sad truth is that these work affairs tend to have negative consequences for the woman. Also this is the sort of affair that most people later regret.

[GingerGuy]

Engaged... end of it. This massaging etc you should have never let happen. He's a player/cheater (at least one in the making) and has NO respect for the woman he's engaged to. He has no self control obviously, so you say you do, so USE IT!! Stop all physical contact!! And if need be, all contact all together. He's not available and you WILL be that other woman.

[Asker]

I know and it’s terrible that I don’t care being a fuckbuddy butttt the ONLY thing that bothers me is the effect this would have on his fiancé, I’ve been cheated on funnily enough and it destroyed me so I can’t imagine what this would do to her, and I guess that’s why I have to stop this. I don’t care about being called names but what I do care about is hurting someone, I don’t have a bad heart and if I do this it makes me heartless and a home wrecker.

[GingerGuy]

Yes exactly. That's exactly why it's end of story when I hear they are with someone. So I don't even entertain the possibility of anything with that person.

[20yearsolder]

He's going to cheat on his fiancee whether it's with you or someone else. You are willing to lose your virginity for this experience. I say go for it.

[Nerdking]

Bruh this is wrong

[chadi3269]

Karma is a bitch
U do that and break his fiance's heart and ur future husband might do the same thing.
If u dont accept it on urself then dont accept it on others

[Dog19]

People love cheating, being abusive, and cruel to others but they hate it when it happens to them or someone they care about.

[chadi3269]

True... thats why i treat others the way i like to be treated

[este1864]

You know damn well how disgusting it would be to fuck him while he's engaged. If you can keep control then do so now or ask him to leave his SO instead. Don't do it otherwise. You know it's wrong.

[hibyehibye]

You should put your story on episode, its really interesting.

[Asker]

I don’t know if it’s sarcasm but I actually read episode stories lol

[hibyehibye]

Its not sarcasm, im actually serious! I write stories of my own, but I don't share it with anyone but close friends.

[Asker]

I actually write on there too lol but I can’t say who I am

[hibyehibye]

Just switch the names, no one would notice and they'd just think its a story and u don't have to say its urs

[Hungry_Shark]

Don't do it,
Don't lose your virginity like that, obviously the guy has no morals, don't fall for his trap.
Move on and just tell him you're not interested,
Hooking up with committed people is a disaster waiting to happen,
Let him go and find a good man for yourself.
I feel sad for his fiancee, she's got a great catch by the way

[BobbyC65]

Report him for sexual harassment.

[Dog19]

Would it turn you on if you touched his penis, then he moaned and said ah, not to hard please?

[Asker]

You’re just weird mate

[Dog19]

All my life I've been told that's the number 1 reason I have no friends

[Asker]

Well to me you was weird for saying that as your opinion but that doesn’t say anything about you as a person and it shouldn’t be the reason why you don’t have friends. So I’m sorry if I offended you in anyway by saying that. We all have quirks and I can be weird as fuck but like I said it’s not a reason for people not to befriend me - it’s sad that people think that way.

[Nerdking]

Dont do it please, and im not just saying this bc my ex did the same thing but please show some restraint and avoid guys like this, its waaaaaaaaay to much drama that could derail your peice if mind. Bc im sure YOU wouldn't want your boyfriend to do this to you right?

[Decentguy]

That guy is a fucking asshole, if he's engaged and still doing things like that with you. Instead, tell her fiance this, so she can find a better person, and not get hurt like this. i feel so bad for her fiance, I hope she finds this about him soon and leave his stupid ass

[master1669]

Don't fuck him these kind of people are very good at getting under ur skin and emotions and trust me u don't want to be a bunny boiler

[CT_CD]

Don't do it! You're getting yourself into a lot of trouble.

[Anonymous]

Just fuck him Like to hear about it when you do