What's worse than rape?

[Anonymous]

I thought that being held down for an hour by someone you trust and have them rape in every way there is to rape someone would be the worst thing in the world that could ever happen. But that was the easy part. The worse thing is when you gather the strength to tell those close to you, trying to tell them in the most delicate way so they don't hurt too from hearing you say what no love one wants to hear "He raped me". But then instead of the comfort, love & support you need. They turn and give their back, figuratively and literally. In that moment, that feeling, that pain, that betrayal and that realization that you'll have to try & cope alone. Is a pain worse than a hundred rapes. At that moment you don't think life can get much worse. But then he finds out no one really cares about what he did to you, no one has confronted him, asked him, or came to arrest him. So he knows your weak and even more vulernable than you were before. He knows you don't have the strength to tell strangers now because when you told those that were suppose to loved you, they didn't listen. So he knows you won't go to the police, get a rape kit, wrote and statement, and testify in court that he stole you body and half of your soul. They might as well have given him a "rape her again" free pass. And when you realize after the second time their may be a third or forth... you ask god why he hates you and what can you do to undo that hate. You wish their was one person who could love you enough to care what you were suffering through. Rape is a walk on the park compared to the loneliness it causes afterwards you because those closest to you don't want to deal with it. If I'd known l was fighting for the people l love, the guy l loved, the girl l thought was my best friend, instead of just my body. I think l would be fought a lot harder, even it that was impossible.

[CallMeAlice]

Dear anonymous,
I think you're strong, you've shouldered this trauma all on your own when you should have support from those who love you. Don't give up, there will be brighter days. There will be darker days. But guess what, there will be days. Days you will get the opportunity to face life, take control & say to hell with the bastard who thought he could not only steal my body but steal my mind & my spirit. Use that as a tool, remind yourself not of the lack of support you're experiencing, rather how tough you are. How you're not gonna let him or anyone else's disregard for your well being burn out your light within

[CallMeAlice]

I know this isn't something you just immediately get past, but get angry! Get furious, break something, drive out on a backroad and scream obscenities at the top of your lungs until you can't breathe. & then breathe, when you feel that air hit your lungs remind yourself you are not a rape. You are an individual with the potential to live past a horrific tragedy & rise above it. Fuck any person who turned their back on you, they can be forgiven when you heal. Until then. I'm here. & I'll listen to you talk whenever you need to. Everyone needs someone. & I don't know you from Adam, but I will be your someone. ❤️

[Asker]

You are an awesome kind person. Thank you!

[CallMeAlice]

You're welcome honey. I mean it. I had a lot to shoulder myself at one point and I could've used a someone. ❤️

[Asker]

You are very strong l can tell

[CallMeAlice]

In some aspects I believe everyone is but there are always going to be things that cause us all to be weak. & realistically you aren't going to always have someone on your side. I experienced that first hand and if I had someone to just listen and vent to, it probably would of helped me through it quicker. So yes, I'm strong but I'm also weak. You can become callused if you harbor things too long, this app is awesome for being able to channel some emotion and know there are like minded individuals out there 🙂 helps you feel less crazy! lol so I use it to help people and be helped when I need it!

[CallMeAlice]

Thank you for MHO (: hope you're doing well!!

[ShaunaM95]

I honestly don't think there's anything worse than having to go through something like that. I'm so sorry you had to experience that. I know I wouldn't be able to handle the aftermath of it all, it would just be too much.

[AthleticMom]

Death
Sorry to hear, been through that
both "date" type
+ knocked out type
but my guy gives me great sex now and I love it

[AthleticMom]

Update: I understand Those victims I know, including self often not only recover, they are VERY active in sex when finding a loving partner that cares for them, often much more active than pedestrians and much more fulfilling in the end... life is nothing if not IRONIC, eh?

[Humbledman74006]

Wow this person just poured their soul out. Their darkest moments well articulated and people make light if it. Shame... i hope you feel shame.

Young lady I feel for you and your soul, I wish for you to find happiness and for all your dreams to come true.

Your God does not hate you.

Please carry on through your life, if you need some strength, take some of mine.

Report this guy to police, family be damned.

[Asker]

Thank you so much. 😥

[worldscolide]

Good God I'm sorry you went through that. I hope you found the help you needed. No one deserves that.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Paris13]

Hmmmm... Murder. xx

[Sugartitty]

I'm so sorry ;_;

[Asker]

Thank you

[Fuselesss]

should have gone to the police. if its not too late and if u can still prove it, do it

[false]

A CHILD!

[false]

Update: so basically this is not a question, is that what you're trying to say?

[Asker]

Yes!

[Insanyx12]

The time I got raped a few years ago was like that sortatter I'm still not feeling better
I hope you heal ♥️ I'm here for you no matter what

[ram6500fighterboy]

I can think of worse things

[Anonymous]

Child abuse, slavery, concentration camps, war, bullying etc CAN be worse, not saying it is, but definitely CAN be

[Anonymous]

... is it bad that I am VERY turned on right now?

[Asker]

Turned on by what?

[Opinion Owner]

The detailed descriptions

[Asker]

But I didn't even describe the rape. You're using your imagination on this. But you are grown so whatever

[Asker]

And I'm pretty sure l know who you are. I know your girlsaskguys username

[Opinion Owner]

What is it then?

[Asker]

Chico

[Opinion Owner]

No where near

[Asker]

Sicko it should be

[Opinion Owner]

That's literally not me xD

[Asker]

If you are turned on by someone being raped multiple ways then you are sick. Period point blank

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry to hear that has happened to you. Who is this that has raped you? Why can't you go to the police?

[Asker]

I don't have the strength to go. And it was someone close to my boyfriend. Well ex-boyfriend now. 😭😭

[Opinion Owner]

Is he still raping you? The way your description sounded made it seem like he is still doing it.

[Asker]

No, after the second time l dropped out of my last college courses and left school. Ill finish later somewhere else. I couldn't handle seeing my old friends and ex everyday anyway.

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm alright, does he still contact you?

[Asker]

He sends text to my phone but I never answer him back

[Opinion Owner]

Ok, I was curious. I had an ex in a similar situation. She ended up going back to him to have sex because it made her feel in control of the situation and in her words "help her work through some of her feelings"

[Asker]

I understand that. I've read its more common that people know but no one ever admits or talks about it because they will be judged. I can understand wanting to take back control. No one wants to be a victim. I'd kill to go back to that day. And not answered the door for him. What l would give to be a happy for 1 second of 1 day again.

[Asker]

Hope your ex is ok

[Opinion Owner]

She is, I know it's not much comfort but try not to think about the what ifs. There's always a million different things that could of happened. Some better and some worse. But after some emotional healing you'll probably need to find a way to sexually take control.