Why do some men love to cross their legs like women?

Question

I have a friend who I have been friends with for a while and he crosses his legs like a woman. He says he likes to do it this way more as it looks better. I told him that it makes him look gay and that it will make him unattractive to women and he got defensive. He told me that president obama did that and says he thinks that is ok. He does other things that makes me think he is gay too as he is obsessed with female fashion. He is a liberal and supports gay rights too. Why do some men like to cross their legs like this? Doesn't it make them look gay? Why does he think it is ok to do that if president obama did it? I am a conservative woman and this just looks weird.

Why do some men love to cross their legs like women?

kilowatt04 · Accepted Answer

I can't physically do it very well. I suppose people are built differently, and it is comfortable and comes naturally for most women, and only a few men, due to bone structure and musculature.

It likely has anything to do with being gay, but maybe some gay guys wish they could sit that way naturally. Who knows. Also know that there is a difference between being effeminate and being gay. Just because a guy wishes to look girly does not mean they want to have sex with other guys. I know because I like looking girly, but I also am attracted only to women, enjoy doing many "manly" things, and believe many things that would be considered either on the conservative or liberal side of politics. Politics or supporting gay rights doesn't make one gay either.

I hope you are not meaning to bash your "friend" as much as being curious about the leg crossing. You seem to be looking particularly for signs that he is gay, and I hope this is harmless curiosity. If your politics or other beliefs would change your mind about him and hurt your friendship if he was gay, then you should be wary of calling anyone friend, because you never know. You cannot just tell by looking for stereotypical signs. And remember that whether he is gay, straight, or just wants to be feminine, finding this out does not change anything about how he is and always has been to you as a person. It would simply be new information you did not know before.

DeviousSiddy · Accepted Answer

I do it too sometimes. It depends on the pants I am wearing usually. Something that is constricting, I will cross female style.
But also I never liked exposing too much of my crotch. No real reason. just dont like it.

Then again I usually just cross at my ankles... Most comfortable to me.

wallflowerchika · Accepted Answer

It has nothing to do with being gay.
As far as down-there-size, I have dated guys who are well endowed and "manly". They do it once in a while when in a awkward or difficult conversation.
It's a defense mechanism that they are closing up to feel in control.
I remember a few years back, at all ball park, had to get my seat and this guy was opening his leg wider when he could have just closed it to the side, told him loudly to get up like a grown man because I was not going to deal with that. He got up right away.
So it's not if one crosses their legs that makes them "unmanly", it's their actions.

Pink1996 · Accepted Answer

Its not gay its just a way of sitting. My dad sits like that sometimes so do some of my guy friends and some times even my brothers. No need to attatch sexuality to a way someone sits. People are allowed to sit in anyway that is comfortable to them. Dont assume someones sexuality based on the way they sit, its not nice.

PreMalone · Accepted Answer

I used to think it was okay, and I was crushing on a guy for a while until I saw him sitting like that and tucking his curtains behind his ear that I realised how effeminate the action was and bit by bit I sort of got put off by it.

Wonderer89 · Answer

How judgmental and petty. It’s comfortable for some, for you to think it has anything to do with sexuality is ridiculous and even if it did it’s simply none of your business.

robske · Answer

i sit like that sometimes XD i'm prety certain i'm not gay :P  sometimes it just sits comfortable :)

RuthAnn1781 · Answer

I don't think it looks bad, it does look nicer, less... exposing. But I don't really care how a guy sits, as long as everyone has enough room to sit and be comfortable then it's all good

SarahsSummer · Answer

I didn’t know guys could sit like that doesn’t their Dick get in the way, or smushed? As for your stance on it, You’ve got issues girl.

1hellothere1 · Answer

Usually I imagine (i don't do this) it's to either a have extra room for people or b just some find it comfortable. I don't do either of these as I find it sticks my Jimmy to my leg, or it just squishes it entirely.

CrazyAwesome · Answer

I don't know why does it bother you? You have your opinion and he has his

TheCunningLinguist · Answer

I never understood that myself, the first time I ever noticed that I thought didn't that hurt!

MyAtlantis · Answer

There is nothing weird about it. Check out the etiquette...

booshlinux · Answer

Who cares let the dude sit however he wants to sit. I personally think it's feminine. But he ain't bothering you man so leave it alone.

notallthere98 · Answer

Because it's comfy

Slam_10 · Answer

He may have a slight problem of twitching or its his style. Men do sit like this but not like the person in the picture. They sit like this but leg is parallel to other. Who knowd he could be gay.

Dude55 · Answer

There's nothing wrong with it and I didn't know it was confined to females only. It's comfortable and to do it the "man" way hurts your knees and ankles.