How to tell my boyfriend I'm pregnant?

[Anonymous]

Last month My boyfriend and I were at his best friends birthday party drinking and having a great time. I drank way too much but his best friend offered to take me upstairs to his room so I could lay down until I get better. I was laying down in his room passed and I woke up to his friend on top of me raping me without a condom telling me that I wanted it. Calling me a slut and It seemed to last forever cause I kept passing out. I felt so dirty and awful like I was a piece of trash. So now I'm pregnant but I haven't told my boyfriend yet cause I don't know how to tell him his best friend raped me. He knows something happened that night but he doesn't know exactly what. I feel if I tell him I'm pregnant he will leave me or think I cheated on him with his best friend. Advice? I dont even know what to do.

[HyunAe]

Be honest and tell him straight up what happened, In every detail you can remember!

If he loves you and trust you dearly, he would stay with you and clearly be mad and take action against his friend. If he doesn't truly love you or hasn't considered you special to him, he might believe his friend over you. But, under any circumstances, you as a woman shouldn't have to feel your trash, your not. Also under any circumstances don't let this conversation fear to keep you two together. In the end you have option's, you don't need a man, don't feel you need one... especially for this situation. My sister is in the same but totally different situation and has a baby but she's fearing and not going after her true happiness in life because she feels she needs to be a family, she needs to be with him.
There's better way nicer guys out there, if the one your seeing doesn't see you as the special person you are to him, then he never thought of you as something special and take your side. He needs to know what happened and he needs to know the details and the truth, so if he were to take things further into action with his friend he can use the words to slowly take his friend apart piece by piece and find out if he's lying to him to begin with.

[Anonymous]

Demon drink strikes again! How many times do I see this on GAG?

You got pissed. Lost all sense of reality. You got raped, or so you say. Who really knows what you did or said when drunk?

My advice? Live with it. Tell your guy. Take the consequences.

[katiesmuff]

Not very difficult decision here, just tell your boyfriend the absolute truth and if it was truly RAPE go to the police. Rapists need to be punished. Would be hard for the friend to deny as your little bundle of joy will have his DNA.

[Jmo232323]

That is horrible, there are disgusting people out there. What I want to know is where your boyfriend was during this. If I were him I'd have been there with you to make sure nothing happens to you.

Anyway definitely go to the police don't let him get away with it. If you go to the police about it I don't see any reason why your boyfriend wouldn't believe you.

[kentlevi]

Here's exactly what you do. Go to the cops and report the guy that raped you. Then everything will magically work itself out for you.

[ladynight]

One thing you should surely do is to report hus best friend to police for raping you. If you want to tell your boyfriend then first know how much he trusts you. If he trusts you, you should tell him when he is in a good mood.

[ladynight]

And tell him the truth in clear words

[-Beonkia]

Just tell him what happened leading up to you being pregnant

[Kait444]

start by reporting his friend to the police for rape

[Kranjec]

He didn't rape you, you were drunk and consented. Alsu just tell him.

[snowangle]

She was falling in and out of consciousness. You don't have sex with someone who's BARELY aware of what's happening, ever. What if a grown man started fondling you while you were asleep?

[Kranjec]

She blacked out and does not remmerber anything, she was still functioning and yelling fuck me, but she forgot. That is not rape.

[snowangle]

Where did you read that? That didn't happen here.

[Kranjec]

2nd sentence.

[snowangle]

HE was telling HER that she wanted it. She wasn't the one saying it.

[Kranjec]

He told her that she wanted it. She could have said it before and when she woke up asked him and he told her that. Since OP had a blur of the night you can't know what she said to him.

[snowangle]

Ta daaa - rape culture. This is why girls don't report more often.

[Kranjec]

Haha you getting that drunk is your own fault and since you are intoxicated that man could be ruined for life due to you falsely accusing him. Love how more and more such false rape cases are getring thrown out of court and the female getting charged.

[snowangle]

People who get drunk deserve a hangover, nothing more. They don't deserve for some monster to do whatever they please with their bodies while they're barely conscious.

[Kranjec]

Sure get drunk via beer or wine and you get a hangover. If you get drunk via refined spirit drinks, then you risk a blackout also if you drink like an idiot you deserve this, plain and simple. She got what she wished for, a blackout with drunk company and maybe her yelling for him to do the deed.

[Nik1hil]

his friend needs to get arrested

[fredrick27]

Just want to say what ever you decide to do, be strong, don't let guilty consumes you, it will just bring negativity to your life

[Raj1809]

What's ur age, have abortion or take pills asap

[katiesmuff]

If she knows she is pregnant it is way too late for the pills.

[Raj1809]

Have abortion den , n tell me about ur boyfriend character what he likes dislikes u lost virginity that day or not big questions tell me in private

[masterkamasutra]

he fucked you bare and you didn't used any protection afterward? so strange, you must want to get pregnant.

[Dantheman101]

IT should be police your talking to

[Anonymous]

The good news is that the statue of limitations is still in effect, so you could still report it, however, you may not be able to prove it was rape. I would still call it in though. You WERE RAPED

[Anonymous]

Report it to the police and tell your boyfriend, it could be in your best interests to arrange an appointment at the abortion clinic too.