Why do men think sex is "FUN"?

I have had so many men refer to sex as fun, or either ask me do l have fun doing a particular sexual act. So i guess my question is for the ladies on this one. When you think of having sex, do you think of it as fun? That's the last word l would use to describe having sex. Sex to me is intimate, intense & emotional. I don't understand why men think sex for us is going to the carnival riding rides... like wth? Maybe I'm to serious about the subject or the actual act, but I see sex as more of a passionate act than fun. I'm not a damn toy, so find elsewhere to play. And the sounds that I have men making, they don't sound like their having any type of fun but more like their getting fucked good and want to get married when we're done. Not to sound arrogant but l know I'm hot and a good fuck.
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  • Lol, the last line kind of ruined it for me, but I get what you're saying. Sex is serious to you and a special, sharing moment, which it is always. However, some people do take a more casual view of sex. This is disingenuous which is what you're picking up on. You can't remove the intimacy from the act, but people will downplay it as less important by focusing on the fact that is enjoyable (ie the "harmless" term fun). Guys will talk sex one this casual level because doing so makes it less serious and less focus on the deeper feelings that arise from intimacy. The flaw here is that intimacy is always there and women are tuned into this way more for many reasons, not the least of which is the physical surrender of her body she must allow during sex makes it more intimate... as its literally inside her. Hence, broken hearts, callous men, fuckboys and the whole nine yards.
    With that said, sex should be fun in the sense you want to partake and it's something that makes you feel good. You'll know when you're with the right person because you'll be able to see this more casual fun side to sex and still trust the intimacy you feel with them during it.

    • Wow... I think l love your mind. Couldn't have described it better myself. And the last line are meant to invoke angry from the men in order to draw out truth because let's be honest. You guys are fucking liars.

    • Lmao. Look who's running the game! But yeah, guys have no problem exploiting the need for intimacy to get the panties off, but then pull the 180 after to try to keep it from getting serious. It's a character flaw, not making excuses, just is the reason. When we get into our 30s, the good ones grow past it and start running game the right way. Some never learn. Mind if I follow you?

    • I just followed you

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  • You don't think intimacy is fun? You don't think something that makes your endorphins increase is a sign that your body is having fun?

    So you use the analogy that a carnival isn't like sex. And you are right. But there are different types of "fun". A carnival is fun in that you enjoy the sense of childlike wonder and excitement with the games and rides. That is a different type of fun, that we feel when playing games or sports and such. But sex is fun in that you are being pleasured and are pleasuring someone else. Yeah it's more intimate and passionate and in a different context all together, but it is still enjoyable and exciting and thrilling and intense. So to say that you don't get fun out of it, that seem kind of illogical thinking. Why would you want to do it if you don't like to do it, or you don't have fun doing it? The opposite of fun is not having fun. So you're saying you don't have fun having sex? Fun means enjoying doing something. It isn't a negative comparison to how much intimacy or passion is involved. It's totally different descriptions, but both are positive to the issue at hand.

    • Ok, you just made me realize some things about myself that l didn't understand before by the way you explained that. Thank you

    • No worries. A lot of life has to do with your personal impressions. As well, depends on context.

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  • It’s pretty much always fun. Sometimes it’s intense and intimate and others it’s rolling around, laughing as we try new things to make each other scream. I love that we can still treat it as fun, after so much time together and I value that even the things that don’t work out so well (thank you karma sutra book) can just be laughed off instead of being awkward and weird

    • Laughing during sex... that will be a no for me.

    • Why is laugh a no

    • Why would you laugh during sex. That's just stupid to me. Go to the comedy show if you want to laugh but stay off of me.

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  • Meh, I consider sex fun. Sure, it's passionate and intense and something I've only ever done with one person and don't plan on doing with anyone else so it's definitely based on emotions for me, but it's still a lot of fun.

  • Because sex is pleasurable fun its as simple as that

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  • I've read a lot of questions on here girls and guys in the moment I seen your question I said WTF what do you mean fun it's so much better than fun I'm thinking of all these words flashing through my head just had brief moment and how much better it is than fun but then I read the rest of your message or question and you're one hundred percent right hot hotter sexy seductive passionate beautiful deep and in a way it's it's a commitment it's a job LOL do it right or don't do it at all very good question and very good answer

    • Lol... thank you

    • No I think you I love they didn't have the opposite sex feels and sees things do their eyes in their heart not everybody's the same but what is something beautiful you have to incorporate it or like to see if they see and feel things the same way I do

  • Didn't matter as long as the girl is interested, and the guy is not using her.

  • Actually, I never thought of sex as "fun" until I was well into my twenties. I remember when I was 17, and I had just taken a 15 year old girl's virginity, and I asked her what she thought of it, and she said it was "fun", and I felt a litle hurt.

    • Lmao... that's cute. I'm sure she just didn't know what to say.

    • I actually think she was more interested in obtaining whatever pleasure she could get for her vagina than she was in an emotional relationship, but now that I've been shown up sexually by a fifteen year old girl, that's okay. It's all fun!

  • It's extremely fun!! The most intense pleasure you can have (even above masturbation, it's just a different type of pleasure). Yes it's intimate and intense as well, but FUN!! I think you are taking it too seriously and/or it's maybe a little TOO intimate and intense for you? For you not to think of it as fun at all ("That's the last word I would use to describe having sex") is disturbing honestly. Most women I've been with consider it fun as well. Have you had some bad experiences? I wondering why or what is making you feel this way? Maybe you need some therapy? I do think you need to take it less seriously for sure. It is meant and supposed to be fun and pleasurable and it doesn't sound like it is at all for you?

    • I know. I realized that after a few people pointed out some very key arguments. It made me understand that its probably from past experiences I've had that make me feel this way.

  • Lmao I have some guys saying I would be good for sex.. but don't think I am hot and a good fuck

    • Your should think so honey. Know your worth.

  • True. Sex is not just fun. It more than that something like pleasuring you partner and showing intense love on your partner.

    Fun is when you do it with out love.

    • Thank you. Maybe we are more mature to understand this.

    • You welcome. It's just individuals perception on sex.

  • can be fun sometimes, and wildly dangerous sometimes...
    I guess it's fun when you're doing it with a funny person who would turn everything into a joke or a smile at least !

  • if your not having fun with sex then your not doing it right.. or your guy isn't lol

  • so are you saying sex isn´t fun? xD

  • Lol at the last part... but anyway, yeah it's fun. We don't want strings attached is why we feel that way. It can also be emotional for us, just not as much so usually. Our "sounds" are more male-sounding because we're... you know, male. "I'm not a damn toy," what does that even mean? Are you enjoying yourself while you're getting fucked or not? You're waaaay overthinking this.

  • Sex is fun.. when she is adventurous... and open to having sex.

  • You can't call your self a "good fuck" if you can't separate emotions from sex. There is a difference between fucking and making love. You just described making love.

    • Just because I feel emotion when fucking doesn't mean l always make love. I like raw primal fucking but its still emotional and intense

    • You're still not a good fuck. 😂. Fucking means no emotion. Guys have an easier time separating it. A good fuck is when you have a one nightstand and you want more. I want to have sex with somebody I love. I want to fuck "that chick over there" I dunno if I can explain it better at the moment. I've have 3 hours of sleep in the past 24

    • I've never in my life had a man that wanted to stop having sex with me or tell me how good it was and if I cut things off they tried very hard to obtain me back in there lives. So whether we were fucking or making love they wanted it.

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  • "... like their getting fucked good and want to get married when we're done.."

    So what? Countless other women fuck just as well and better. Are we really going to move in together just cuz you have a pretty face and don't mind some occasional violence in the bedroom. Please..

  • Boring

  • Sex is just nerve endings rubbing together until they become desensitized and require a break.

    Anything beyond that is just what people put into it. I wouldn't have intimate, intense and emotional sex unless it was with someone I was deeply in love with.

    All the sex I've had has been good natured but very casual. Sometimes I even get my partner to laugh and blush in embarrassment. No need to take it so seriously.

    As a matter of fact, there's not much of a need to take almost anything seriously.

  • If you are hot n a good fuck...
    I should try on you my luck...
    😏💕💕💕😂

    • Ha ha

    • 😝 faster response. Again is that my luck?

    • Depends on how you look Cowboys.

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  • If you feel submissive during sex, that's your luck. But since fun is an emotion as well, and the word "emotional" usually reminds me of girls crying during corny movies, and fun doesn't have to be toying with anyone, I don't see how guys should be wrong about their opinion.

    • Plus, my last girl had quite some fun getting licked by me.

  • Men say that because we can have sex without being "in love" and without any emotions involved. It is pure physical fun.

  • Emotion has never come into it for me. Ever

    • You're still very young. It will happen.

  • it's suppose to be fun-but contained

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