Strange. Because in my experience, in Western Culture, for as long as I've been alive, it's always been the exact opposite. It's perfectly acceptable and actively encouraged for girls to sleep around, be as promiscuous as possible and be 'proud sluts'. These girls are more sought after, more highly valued sexually and more idealized as a result of this promiscuity- nothing epitomizes this more than the idolization of female porn stars.
Whereas guys who sleep around are almost universally condemned, reviled and despised, denounced as inhuman beasts, monsters and wild animals, and if those men are famous and/or wealthy, invariably accused of rape by every woman under the sun, conspiring to defame and bankrupt any men who sleep around for the heinous crime of getting to have sex when they want with whoever they want with little trouble.
If Harvey Weinstein were a woman, do you think that her exploits would have garnered this kind of shock, horror, outrage and hatred? Of course not- she'd have been being CONGRATULATED for it, being touted as a feminist icon and universally acclaimed for empowering women through managing to assert total sexual dominance over so many of the world's hottest and sexiest men.
If it's supposedly okay for men to sleep around but not men, why is it that men are still decried as 'players' and 'fuckboys' in spite of only having an average of 5 sexual partners in their lifetimes, whereas women are depicted as 'innocent' and 'oversexualized' when they now have an average of 7 or more sexual partners in their lifetimes? Women are now far more prolific than men- even by their own admissions, which, if anything, most likely overestimates male promiscuity and understates female promiscuity. And it's never been more acceptable for a woman to 'slut it up', nor less acceptable for a man to 'sow his wild oats'. Yet you still cling to that eternal victim and inferiority complex which defines feminism, claiming to be judged and persecuted for your sexual profligacy?
Actually most women are not okay with men sleeping around, and no woman high-fives a guy who does, it's usually other men who do. And most women are not okay with other women sleeping around either, but want it to be okay when she individually is ready to do it or wants to brag about her "experience" with men.
Yeah. I guess you're right. So it all started with guys bragging to their friends that he bang 'this' chick last night and their friends applauded like some kind of victory.
sounds about right.
I second this!
Double standards. Men are ”supposed to” spread their seed or some other random bullshit while women are supposed to magically stay virgins until they die.
All I’m wondering is how men expect to be able to sleep around if there are no women to sleep around with? Supposedly because women are expected to keep their legs together. 1 + 1 = -4, maybe men should just start having sex with each other if women are supposed to be pure and godly or whatever other bullshit they expect of their ”wifey”.
Lol @ men claiming to be for equality yet are so hellbent on trying to uphold these slut vs stud standards. It’s funny how so many claim to hate feminism because feminists apparently only want to keep all the things that benefit them. Yet they’re so quick to defend standards like this, and with the help of some bullshit ”master key/shitty lock” analogy.
Here’s another analogy for you: a pencil sharpener that can sharpen many different pens is a good sharpener. But the more a pencil is sharpened, the less useful it becomes.
Pencil will not exist. It will die eventually
@Lika_sal97 exactly. So comparing humans to objects is pointless. You could make up any analogy that could fit your agenda, but it doesn’t make it true or even applicable. It’s nothing but a way to propagate a pointless mindset.
True I hate double standards
As people have been saying, men and women are not the same. But they're pretty goddamn similar. You know where most of the differences come from? 'Society' saying that this is what a woman needs to do to be accepted, and here's what a man has to do to be accepted. Replace every sentence or opinion on gender issues with 'people' or 'they' instead of 'woman' or 'he'.
Why is it ok for people to sleep around but not people?
People are just judgmental idiots who need a scapegoat to insult and degrade so their actions seem better.
You see if a key opens many licks it's a MASTER KEY
But if a lock is opened by many keys then it's a SHITTY LOCK
Seriously I think men are congratulated for sleeping with a lot of women because it's not easy to do, you have to be at least moderately attractive and charismatic to get a lot of women but if you're a woman you go to a club, spread your legs and some random guy will fuck you anyways...
It's easy to sleep with a lot of men as a woman but it's hard if you're a man.
That's at least what I think^^
*locks in the first line...
Wow I like you example. It changed my thinking hahaha
You're welcome I guess xD
You hear that if.. Women sleep around she's a slut.
if Men sleep around he's a stud.
Its literally just double standards.
Its just what we get told is right and wrong and people have picked up on it and formed opinions from it.. because people claim men have higher sex drives and find it harder to resist temptation so its just "him being a man" but with women its a totally different story apparently lol.
i've never slept around and never want to but that doesn't mean i judge those who do.
Men and women aren't the same that why.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Different men will no doubt have different views on the subject, but it would be hard to imagine a better example of how gender is not a social construct. More than a half-century of feminist indoctrination has resulted in women believing that honesty is the best policy, but it hasn’t changed men’s instinctive reactions much.
When surveys ask people the number of sexual partners they have had over the course of their lifetime, men tend to put that number at about two to four times the number that women do. Of course, it’s possible that many men are simply sleeping with the same few women. But it’s more likely that men think it reflects well on them that they’ve had more partners — and women don’t.
It's not ok it's all about the bragging on who had how many! That's nothing to be proud of in my opinion it just makes you look easy weather male or female! Best thing to brag to your mates about is how long you can hold a relationship for now that's something to brag about and feel proud. Less is more because it's means more and shows you can respect yourself and the opposite sex!
I don't think it's more or less okay for one sex or the other to do so. That being said, a response a comedian has said to that has always kept me thinking
A guy has to work at it. A guy has to ask you out, give you a reason to like him, give you a reason to come over and make you comfortable to have sex with him. He has to be good looking enough for you to want to have sex with him. If a woman wants to have sex, the first guy she finds will probably say yes. You don't need to have a career, you don't need to have a certain income, you don't even really need to look all that great in his eyes. You just need to be there. If a girl went around a city and asked 1000 men to have sex with her, I bet you anything at least half say yes, and 3 quarters of the ones who say 'no' at least contemplate it before saying 'no'. If a guy went around a city and asked 1000 women to have sex with him, half of them slap him and say no, another quarter call the police, and another quarter beat the shit out of him, and a negligible percentage say yes, and no one contemplates it. So it's because for a man it's work to get sex just once, but for a woman it's as simple as "yes" or "no".
Well I'm not that kind of girl.
I'm sure millions of girls aren't those types of girls. But the idea is that you have the option to do that if you so choose. But you're much smarter. And again, that's not my view. It was a view I found interesting. If that's not how you wanna live your life, then good on you.
I don't see how it's ok for men to sleep around in the first place. Just because almost every man does it doesn't mean it's ok, and same applies for women
I hope you realize that this one man on here who you are engaging with is not a actual real life then he does not speak for us he speaks for the lowlife losers from Third World nations who know nothing of our culture and social practices
These are the men who treat you like you are animals or the lowest form of life that’s what they are used to because they’re living in caves and they are as barbaric as can be you are wasting your energy trying to convince him of of anything logical.
Um. I think it's to do with motives. Guys just want sex. They're still ASSHOLES for cheating, anyone that does has no idea about loving anyone. Apart from themselves. But it's primarily about wanting to cum. The common belief is maybe a blowjob or two more during the week would drain him out and leave him unwilling/unable to cheat. If I was a girl, I really would see it as something I had control of. Like the pressure gauge in a power plant. Release some... ahem... steam. Lol. And everything goes back to normal
Now... women. Bit different. Women cheat... for a myriad of different reasons. Revenge is particularly cold, probably the main reason people hate on female cheaters, it's a cold and dark reason, especially if it's for something minor like he said or did the wrong thing. Some women cheat just because they can, purely for a power trip. Go figure, with guys it's predictable. With girls, far less so. People like to understand something, they relate more to something understandable.
But really cheaters male or female are assholes, they make a choice that sucks. Choose to be faithful for yourself, not for anyone else. Love matters, faithful behaviour matters, if you want to experience life and love in the best way, protect it and make sure it doesn't get trod upon. It's always a choice
Who says is not ok for girls to sleep around? Of course it is! Men and women can do what they want, only difference is women care what people thinks, most men don't.
Guys with little dicks are concerned about whether the last guy's dick was bigger (it inevitably was). They also worry if their two pump chump performance will suffer in comparison (it will). Also, they think of the vagina as being some kind of plastic bag that retains sperm indefinitely and they don't want to be putting their penis in another guy's sperm in case they are deemed gay. Basically, these guys have brains on a par with their doodles, very very small.
Just because people are hypocritical assholes pretty much. I say if you have certain expectations for you're partner you need to be able to live up to them as well.
Men and women aren't the same that why.
Men are seen as the stronger race here... unfortunately. So, if a guy sleeps around, it is seen as powerful and mighty for getting with multiple women.
You realize being a man doesn't make you a different race right
Omg since were men a race 😂 dead
I meant gender, my bad. 👆
I call a hoe a hoe whether guy or girl. I just hope more people are safe a responsible.
I think equalityhas caught up with us now. Actually, men these days get MORE hated than women. Women are, at least in the eyes of many women these days, exempt from any criticism in the name of women's solidarity. Not only in regard to sleeping around, but in regard to lying, bakcstablling, and other conduct for which men would not be excused regardless of the situation.
Of course, I'm talking about the US here.. I know the situaion is unique here!
Hypocrisy and sexism from men and women
You and your ifentity politics... everyone is a victim... everyone identifies with their own tiny little group tribalism... liberalism gone stark raving mad...
@jimmijo1954 go away
@gypsy_x I like you.
No issue here. You want to sleep around, knock yourself out. It's your life and no one else's
Women need to stand their ground against the ridiculous double standards. There's really no excuse for it. I've heard ti all and I stand firm in believing that there should be no more rules for women that don't apply to men.
Why do u think this rule doesn't apply to men? Men who sleep around r called fuckboys or players, and they aren't quite respected in any healthy society...
Umm it's not ok. With me anyway. I have no problem telling a guy he's a whore.
Cause it’s just how society has trained us.
Its not, most women don't want a guy with a high partner count. However its slightly more tolerated but that's entirely women's fault. Women don't want a virgin guy this pressures men into trying to get "experience", men on the other hand do not want a woman who has slept around because well one its horribly bad because the more partners you have had the more likely you are to cheat, divorce, be unhappy in long term relationships etc etc etc. It also increases the odds of a man raising a child that is not his (highly resource intensive and takes away resources and time from his own offspring). So the only reason why its a "double standards"(its not really a double standard) is because women demand a man with experience. You want their to not be a double standard stop accepting men who have slept around and stop shaming men for being virgins, problem solved.(not you specifically I am speaking of women in general).
Its the same reason why their is a double standard that men have to be successful and women don't. We don't hear women complaining about that though do we? I mean why does that standard exist why is that "fair"? Because men allow it, they are happy to just get a girlfriend/wife so they don't care about success but women do (child birth is resource intensive and child rearing even more so so biologically it makes sense). If men held women to the same standard that women hold men that double standard would also be gone, but they don't.
I know exactly what you are saying but good luck with any women on here understanding what you said... I would even say it one of them actually does comprehend what you said you would have a keeper and I would hang onto her... 😂
@jimmijo1954 Yeah, I'm use to it though.
1. People generally justify and excuse their own behavior. If a girl is a slut, she thinks it's okay. Same for a guy. Other girls tend to be more judgmental towards girl sluts than they are towards guy sluts.
2. Many guys do not think it is okay to be a man slut.
3. Equality means that people are afforded equivalent opportunities for education, employment, and government benefits. It does not mean that people are not allowed to have opinions about the behavior of others.
4. Do you think we should let girl sluts off the hook, also, or should we hate on male sluts?
To answer your question let them off the hook. If that's what they want to do
I don't condone promiscuity but I have never made it my purpose to express that opinion to anyone. I simply avoid dating women who think sex is a recreational activity instead of an expression of love and affection.
I think its more of an individual thing if you find it acceptable it or not... I wouldn't want a promiscuous guy as a partner either, but mostly because I'm not into casual myself.
In my opinion it would be wrong for a promiscuous guy to expect his girlfriend to be virgin but besides of that it really just depends on the individual.
Outside of the potential-partner-thing I do not care about the sexlifes of others, it just doesn't affect me.
I don't care either. But it's like guys are butt hurt when they realize that their girl has had sex 2-3 times before they
Not guys, only idiots. there's a difference :)
Very true
Ok, so, let me drop some knowledge on you right quick. If you have a key that opens every lock, it’s a master key. If you have a lock that opens for any key, it’s a broken lock. You not only sound like a broken lock, but I bet your dad has something to do with it too.
WHOA WHOA WHOA!!! I'm not a broken lock I don't sleep around. And I haven't talked to my dad in two years because he's in prison. But man do you fucking know how to be an asshole
So I was half right
No... you weren't right at all
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