Do I give my boyfriend another chance?

[babykyyyy]

so before i get get started, just know i have given him MULTIPLE chances. for various reasons. he’s told me that before he met me he was a complete “man hoe” those are his words. the first time i got very mad and hurt by him was when he blew me off to hang out with his ex girlfriends sister, then when i found out, i got no explanation and he blocked me on everything. another time was when i found out he was watching porn behind my back. i know porn is a very controversial topic in a relationship but i have my beliefs and you guys have yours. so i don’t want any of the answers to be “he’s a guy he can watch porn it’s fine” i do not believe in the usage of porn at all and most definitely not in a relationship. and it makes me EXTREMELY uncomfortable and self conscious about it. porn gives men a very unrealistic view of what sex is like. am i not good enough? i told him i understood he gets horny when i’m not with him but he doesn’t need to fulfill every sexual urge. so he knows my views about porn, and we’ve gotten into arguments about it. a few weeks ago i found other girls nudes on his phone, like in his camera roll. he told me he would never do anything to lose me again, because i almost broke up with him, and i told him that. so i gave him another chance, anyways, yesterday i saw his internet history was nothing but porn. a lot of you will think this is no big deal. but to me it’s a huge deal. i hate him watching it, and he knows that, but he still does it. i’ve given him chance after chance, even though in some situations i definitely should have ended it. it’s hard to trust that he won’t do it again. he’s now crying and BEGGING for 1 last chance? should i give it to him, or tell him he’s blown all his chances and end things? what would you guys do in my situation?

[PrincessBunBuns]

The fact that you have to ask if you should give him a chance -- I'd say no.

Personally, I think guys should be able to watch porn whenever even if in a relationship because he still loves you, it's just a method to get off (me and my boyfriend watched porn, doesn't really matter).

BUT here's the thing, he already made it very clear he's not trustworthy by hanging out with her, and having someone else's nudes. There's a BIG difference between nudes and porn, because nudes are from IRL people who can do stuff with him, and porn is just a fantasy.

Stop giving this bitch chances. I'm sorry but you shouldn't have to put up with him, you sound more mature than he is.

[Wonderer89]

End it. The ex girlfriends sister aside (and this could actually be nothing, depending on their friendship but I get that you’re young and can’t see passed that) you have completely different values. You can’t force him to live by yours, and despite him trying to and saying that he will it’s realistically too difficult.
It’s just wasting time on an issue that is never negotiable, both of you should find more compatible people

[LucieI]

I disagree with your opinion on the porn matter, but I understand it, if y'all had previously talked that out and come to an agreement, he should have stuck by it. Disregarding that, he shouldn't have ditched you, blocked you on anything (let alone everything), or had someone else's nudes, etc. You should end it, don't get back with him.

[Anpu23]

Okay, three options
1 let him go. This is honestly your best option, you are too controlling for him (no judgment just a fact)
2 forgive him, and get hurt again
3 buy him a cock cage and make it part of the conditions to stay with you. (It's a sexual toy that locks the penis so that it can't get hard, he can't play with himself, and you keep the key so that you can use it when you want) and if you are really into the control thing you could add on a remote "correction" device.

Either way, good luck to.

[AndyOh]

Personally, I don't think he will be able to keep to his word. If he has blown it so many times, he will blow it again. Porn can be an addiction to many men; and being easy and free to get does not help.
As for you, I would suggest finding a guy who either absolutely abhors porn or is so religious that porn is part of the no-go territory.
I think anyone who is blocked by their SO needs to block the blocker!
Good luck.

[CanadianNinja]

No, don't give him another chance, you should have given him any chances after he ditched you to "hangout" with his ex's sister. The dudes an idiot and an asshole

[Crazyb33]

he's never going to stop before u know it you've given him to many chances

[Longlegs1979]

He cheating on you dump him kick him to the curb cause he keep doing this to you cause your letting him doing it to you.

[Kranjec]

No..

[bungeerugged]

If you gave that person multiple chances no but if it's over porn talk it out because it seems easier plus if you love him and her don't love you leave

[Walrus_au]

If you have had that discussion with him and reached an agreement, then don't expect him to change.

[RumEro]

if you don't wanna argue all the time end it , i don't think he treat you right

[chase12986]

You dont want others opinions if they differ from yours ( watching porn issue). So why even ask the question?

[babykyyyy]

i said i didn’t want opinions if they’re going to try to argue for him and saying porn is ok. for some people porn is more than ok, but for me it’s not. i have my beliefs and i find porn to be absolutely disgusting and unacceptable in a RELATIONSHIP. if you are single, then i’m not judging, but definitely not while dating me. i don’t think there’s anything wrong with being uncomfortable with my boyfriend watching porn behind my back.

[VoidReaper]

Get rid of him. You obviously can't trust him and that's one of the most integral parts of a relationship, without it the whole thing is just a joke, might as well just be fuck buddies

[Anonymous]

Honestly two strikes and you’re out. Depending how major they are, sometimes only one. If you keep giving him chances and keep taking him back, he will keep up the treatment because he knows he can. You deserve better, don’t settle.