My fiancé went to her bachelorettee party and she had a stripper there?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend and i engaged 1 year ago and we plan to marry January. Because i will be away for the next 2 months my friends planned to do a bachelor party earlier than usually.
I didn't wanted a bachelor party (i find them really stupid) and that why only my gf/ fiancé had one.
It was last Sunday she went there, it started in a club where they drank a lot and then went to one of their friends home to party there. There was a male stripper they paid to dance for them. I really disliked those parties.

So i didn't knew what they did at her bachelorette party till today.
A very very good female friend i know since i was very little came to me this morning and told me sth that happened at the party because she felt wrong at keeping it hidden.
She told me about the club and then about the homeparty and the stripper. She told me that my girlfriend was incredibly drunk and did lots of stupid things.

My friend filmed some moments from the party and asked me if i wanted to see them. I wanted of course, i needed to know it.
In this video i saw my girlfriend and the stripper. The stripper approached my girlfriend and started dancing around my girlfriend, he started grinding her ass and touched her breasts. Then he rubbed his dick at her back and breast and ass and then my girlfriend took his dick in her hands and stroked it for a few second till he moved to other girls who sucked him off, then the video ended.

Friend told me that she didn't filmed after this because after it there were only other girls who touched him and sucked him off.

This behaviour of my girlfriend is completly unacceptable and i will talk with her when she is home. I really dont feel like marrying such a gross human.

How would you react?
What would you do?
What should i do? Ok, i probably break up, but i still want your opinion.

Are girls really that gross and disgusting? Even at only men stripper parties there wasn't anything like this. I knew the girl in the video who sucked him off. She is 18 years old and as far as i know still a virgin.

[Anonymous]

So it wasn't exactly right of your friend to rag on your fiances Bachelorette party. It's supposed to be your last hoora with your girls before marriage, and some people like it a little crazy.
The stripper is concerning and you should definitely talk to your girlfriend if that is concerning you so much. If you accuse her of disloyalty then she will scream at you, you will fight, and your relationship may not make it. If you approach with love and express your valued importance on faithfulness she will either confess to wrong doings or sure you nothing happens. It's up to you to believe her or not.
She also sounds super young and immature, so if it doesn't work it it might be for the best

[Asker]

I dont plan on marrying her anymore. No matter what she says its over between us. My soon to be ex girlfriend allowed this to happen and now she has to take the consequences of her doing. Last hoora with you friends before marriage? Why does it make it sound like marriage is a prison? I already saw enough of her disloyality and unfaithulness. I will talk to her today when she is back only to hear her last words. I will give her the chance to explain herself. But in the end, nothing that she might say could change my mind, its over.

[Opinion Owner]

Marriage is not a prison. But it's known as your last crazy night without that attachment of a wedding band. It doesn't mean you can break your partners trust, it means it's one of the last time where you prioritize your girls over your man

[Mikeybear]

Everyone should relax here. I dance and serve at these parties, and while I don't initiate contact, I let the girls touch me and do whatever they want. It's her last hoora, so just let her see, touch, and feel him up. Personally, when you're naked in a room filled with drunk women, cheering each other on, there is added peer pressure, you know.

[CarpetDenim]

This is why I think bachelor and bachelorette parties are the absolute worst fucking things. As far as I know, this kind of thing with strippers and overt sexual behavior is common at both, and it makes no sense at all why to me. Like, is that really how you want to start your marriage off? You wanna base it on a filthy secret and destroy the sanctity of your marriage before it's even begun? So fucking stupid. If I found out my to-be-husband did anything with a stripper at his bachelor party I would cancel the wedding and leave his ass so fucking quick, and I would expect the same treatment if I ever did something like that at my bachelorette party.

[Asker]

This is excatly how i think about it. My friends wanted to have a bachelor party for me but i declined because its so stupid. Especially how guys and girls tell shit like "its your last party before being bound forever to one person so lets have a final blast and go crazy". Why do they make marriages seem like prison? Now i know that my soon to be ex is not the right woman for me, good that i found out before marrying her. Its good that i had a friend, if she hadn't told me i would have married her.

[CarpetDenim]

Yeah man, you definitely dodged a bullet. Good on you, and I wish you better luck in the future!

[facialhair27]

well-said

[Anonymous]

You “let” her go to the party? Does she need your approval for everything she does?
Why give her a chance to explain herself if you’re just going to leave her anyway? You’re such a caveman.

[Asker]

This wasn't how i meant it girl... Its easier to move on if i know how she thinks about it, and its also important to give others a chance to explain themself. Your words reek of immaturity.

[Opinion Owner]

When you learn how to spell, you can comment on my wording. Until then, you’re still a caveman. Don’t ask for advice if your mind is already made up.

[Asker]

You have problems girl.

[Opinion Owner]

Hahahahaahah I’m the one with problems? Ok little boy. Keep telling yourself that. You’re hilarious.

[Kuraj]

It's 2017, the concept of loyalty is completely lost on modern day thots.

Just today I saw a thot ridiculing and passing social judgement on a man who asked a girl to be his girlfriend.
According to her "normal people" who are not "children" "go out a couple of times, have sex and then they see where it goes".

That's 2017 for you.

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

On the one hand, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. It's just a bachelorette party. On the other hand, your sloot most likely sucked a dick that night so...

[Asker]

I really dont care if its bachelorette or not, just because it is a bachelorette doesn't mean that she could act like a gross human. No, she went home with my friend after it, beside this nothing happened

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

Yeah, I'm sure it was just the other girls who sucked the D, off camera. You're probably right.

[Asker]

I trust my friend more than anyone else. If my soon to be ex girlfriend has sucked a dick there she would have told me it.

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

Okay, so you trust your fiance enough to tell the truth about what happened... but you're going to dump her anyway? Because she touched a sex worker's dick? That seems like an over-reaction. But it's possibly for the best. If you can't handle this, you aren't going to be able to handle marriage.

[tntfa]

Hmmm... this sounds more like a porn (Dancing Bear) video than a real bachelorette party.

[Nik1hil]

You saw that porn too!.. because i saw it too,, "Letting loose at a party" besides those men are professional they don't care about the Garages they park their boner in

[Asker]

I know that it sounds like porn. If my friend just have had told me this without evidence then i wouldn't have believed her. Because of this i let her go to this bachelorette party even if i personally dislike such things because it sounds insulting and stupid for me. The last day of your freedom, the last time for fun before marriage? Why do they make it sound as if marriage is a prison?

[Nik1hil]

Hey!.. you really are very committed about all this!.. talk to her ask her and try to know her fetish, dig deep, The romance does not last longer, but hot sexy and dirty fetish have no ending

[tntfa]

Well this is strange... most girls rarely video bachelorette parties... and most are good at keeping secrets. What happens at the party stays at the party.

[Nik1hil]

Well i bet the problem was, that the girls were not in Vegas

[Asker]

My female friend know each other for too long already. She knows me better than anyone else and she knows how i think about this stuff. She knew i wouldn't like it and because of this she didn't wanted me to marry someone who isn't good enough for me. Thats what best friends do for each other.

[RobertBaratheon]

Strippers are common for that kind of thing.

It isn't like he fucked her, and she was drunk. Unless she personally brought a bargain stripper, I don't think it's worth ending things over.

[Asker]

Its worth ending it. Do you really expect me to marry such a gross woman? Everything that happened was her fault, no one forced her, so she should accept the consequences.

[RobertBaratheon]

Your choice, boss. You are on here asking for opinions, and I game mine. If you only want confirmation, you came to the wrong place.

[stang1558]

the biggest problem for you is every time she has sex with you she is going to dream about that guys huge cock and be disappointed in how yours doesn't measure up..

[Asker]

I have a 7 inch dick, not big but he was bigger than this guy. This guy was just a big pile of muscles, his dick wasn't very big, probably as big as mine.

[stang1558]

no you dont.. your fiancée just PMed me saying that you dont measure up and you are to flabby and weak. She asked if she should call it off. I told her the best thing is to sit down and talk with you and maybe you would be willing to hit the gym for her and get rid of the flab and get some muscle.. there is also strapons you could use on her to satisfy her. the bottom line is that you both need to sit and talk and figure out what will work between the both of you. Good luck hope you guys can work it out

[Asker]

Haha how funny of you. Thanks now i am at least not as pissed as i was before. Now i can break up with her with a big smile on my face.

[stang1558]

yeah she just PMed me again and said she wants a real man and said she is going out on a date with the stripper.. so looks like your out of luck anyway..

[Joseph69]

Tell your finance that you are going to become a male stripper for some extra money.

[headoncrash]

A stripper who dances and grinds against you is one thing, grinding in your lap.. ok. But when you start touching private parts that is a whole different situation. Would your fiancee or anyone's fiancee be ok with squeezing breasts or sliding your finger into a female dancer? This may be the last night to get a little crazy... bumping and grinding... ok maybe.. I would have dumped her.

[Mac2Nite]

Leave her bro, she’s no good. She has already shown you signs, don’t be a fool and act now.

[Asker]

I will leave her. I will just give her a chance to explain herself. I want to hear her last words before i leave. But dont worry, no matter what she says, i won't accept her.

[JennieF]

Stuff like this happens a lot of times.

[Anonymous]

Don't make a fuss about it. Nothing really wrong happened.

[Asker]

Hahaha, häää? Are you serious?