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He wants wants to have sex without a condom and doesn't care that I'm not on birth control?

I moved to LA about 6 months ago and met this basketball player. My first and only friend in LA. We became friends, good friends real fast, we would just sit on his car and talk for hours. He would share things from his life with me and I'd open up about work, how hard is it being for me to be here all alone, how hard it is to make and keep true friendship and other stuff as well. He would come to my job just to check on me and I went to see him play a couple of times After a month of seeing each other daily we started having sex and it didn't even feel awkward at all. He's the second guy I have sex with so I expect it to be brutal and awkward it wasn't almost as if he have done this before for years. But close to the end of September he asked me to let him cum inside me I laughed it off because it made no sense and I never thought he was being serious. Now he keeps mentioning the no protection sex and wants sex without a condom. I said no because I don't want to get pregnant and I'm not on birth control he said "it wouldn't be a problem anyway I'd take care of both of you lol" I got mad and stopped replying to his texts for weeks, he then said sorry and that he would stop talking about it long story short recently we were making out half way into foreplay he goes down on me comes back to the top and says that we would be doing it without a condom and he would not cum "all the way inside" I said no, we had a fight and he texted me later saying he truly can't understand why am I fighting back so much if anything happens he won't ghost on me and I could easily reach out to him because he's a public figure again we had a fight. I like him a lot and I know he likes me too. Why is he acting like that almost forcing me to let him go in without protection and why is he being so careless and throwing to me face that he's "well known" as if that was the reason for me to have interest in him?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Well he either wants to have a family or he just likes having sex without a condom on, tbh my first few times I ever had sex I didn't use a condom and I came inside the girl and she wasn't on birth control but she didn't get pregnant thank God. She liked sex with me when we didn't use a condom but we knew we weren't ready to take care of kids, she was raped and got pregnant from it then she kept the baby and I was going to be the adopted dad. She got an IUD to prevent getting pregnant and I could still cum inside her without a condom. Well anyway I think this guy wants to have a family but is going about it in the wrong way. Just tell him that you aren't ready for a kid no matter who it's with and no matter how much money they have. You could also tell him that if he really wants to cum inside you without a condom then take you to get an IUD or something that prevents pregnancy for like 5 years and then he can, that's just what I think.

  • Some guys just can't understand why if you are in a monogamous relationship, why can't your girl let you come in her. It's a well known fact that guys hate condoms.
    If you don't mind me asking, what is your main problem with it? If it's STIs, have both you and him tested. If it's the baby aspect and you don't want to do birth control, there is always the option of using a diaphragm.
    But at the end of the day, you shouldn't be forced to do anything you don't feel comfortable with

    • I just don't like how he's only thinking about himself. Acting like a baby would be whatever and wouldn't change his life. Some type of arrogance saying to my face that I could easily find him if we had a child or if I was left with any other problem after having sex without a condom with him, I don't know it's hard to explain. And I know he's clean that's not my concern at all I just feel more comfortable with the idea of him wearing condoms

    • If he can't understand something that simple, he really must be a big baby. And who knows? Maybe in a few years you will be open to it. You are a strong and independent young woman who makes her own choices about her body

Most Helpful Girls

  • Red Flag sis. That sounds crazy, sis. Why in hell would he want to cum inside you knowing you will get pregnant.
    Him being a public figure has zero to do with him being a great guy and a soon to be dad.
    If I were you I'd stop talking to him. You haven't known him that long, y'all aren't engaged, or even dating really.
    He won't accept no, and 99% of all guys would never do that- unless y'all are married and trying to have a baby. Even then the man has to be 100% excited or an accidental pregnancy.

    My advice is to get on birth control asap- IF you continue to see him or stop talking to him all together. He's not the only person in town- you'll meet people and make friends.

  • He's disrespecting you to the point where you need to drop him, if he's pressuring you this much about something as petty as a kink, then he is not the one. He doesn't CARE if you get pregnant, he HASN'T considered all the shit that comes with it if you are, he just wants to feel good. Leave him, he's arrogant, selfish, and I have no doubt that he'll try not wearing a condom without your consent if you actually fuck him.

  • Sounds like you need to forget about him unfortunately, you've already made yourself clear and he's blatantly choosing to disregard your wishes. You should never had to feel uncomfortable when you're being intimate with a guy. Sorry you have to deal with this kind of behaviour and hopefully you can find someone who will respect what you want.

    • It breaks my heart to let him go. He made living in LA so easy for me, like I finally have someone who I can trust and share everything with. He's like a friend I didn't even have back in my hometown

  • Get him to get checked on std's and let him buy you a plan B.
    If you would be willing at least, if not make ot sure to him to shut up about the subject cause if he continues there won't be any sex anymore

    • Plan B is actually fucking bad for you. So either condoms or I say he should fuck off. I agree with the STD test part too.

    • True that's why it should be plan B, if everything else fails you should use it.

    • A diaphragm could be useful here as well

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  • It sounds like he's foolishly following his biological imperative to keep his genes in the pool. If you really like the guy, is there a reason you won't go on birth control?

  • Maybe he wants kids and does he have a good job if he does it don't matter

  • He's an asshole for not respecting your wishes. He's being selfish and immature if he wants to have unprotected sex without regard for the consequences. Stick by your guts. Don't compromise yourself and the future is not promised

  • Why don't you wanna use birth control?

    • It messed me up once and since I was single and not having sex for the longest I didn't bother to get back on it, it's not like I don't want to.

    • Oke see I think on one side it's good that he tells you what he wants, but then again why can't he accept a no? Like it's not him who could get pregnant and pregnancy is not a game. So I feel like it's really childish. I personally use bc, so I get why he wants it without a condom, but like I said pregnancy is not a joke. It's shitty and childish from his side. I personally would once again sit down, before sex and talk and tell him your side and if he still insist I personally would draw a line. He is not the only guy on this planet

  • Inject him with risug male contraceptive. It's easy to use no condoms require. And nk vasectomy needed. And ut can be removed and you can have pregnancy any time you want.

  • Who cares what he wants, it's what you want. If you don't mind an STD for being pregnant, go for it.

  • He is being a jackass.

  • Um tell him to fuck off, are you serious?

  • He's a selfish reckless idiot who'd just want. U to get an abortion afterwards and doesn't really care about u he just knows how to get Ur legs open I recommend closing them and running

  • 📣single mother alert 🙅

    • I won't be one.

    • you should make more friends

    • I'd love to but Los Angeles is a hard place to make friends even harder when you don't know anyone at all

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  • Sex is definitely better without condom but i wouldn't risk it as could get pregnant or even a std

  • Tell him no

  • he is eager to seed you!

  • he must want a baby bad

  • Get away from him, because if you get pregnant (and he doesn't seem to care) he will leave you alone

    • That's the thing why would he want to get me pregnant? I'm only 22 years old who just moved out and to a new country, I have nothing! What type of relationship would we have having a kid? Me living off of him? That's insane! I don't understand him

    • He would prefer not to, but he does not really care : if his girlfriend gets pregnant, he just have to change his girlfriend.

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