I feel like my boyfriend isn't satisfied with me sexually. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend have a good sex life except for the fact that I feel like he's not fully communicating with me about what he wants in bed. This issue has been around for a while now. It's gotten to the point where I don't want to be intimate with him anymore because I feel everything I do is not good enough for him and I'm starting to feel like crap and very insecure when we do it. I've never had this issue before with anyone else he is very hard to please. I give him a lot of foreplay, we role play, I play fighted with him one time during intimacy and I give him blow jobs sometimes with ice cream or popsicle. I really don't know what I could be doing wrong. It seems like he's unsatisfied with EVERYTHING I do. There is always something I'm doing to him that he wants me to change or do within my approach of making love to him. He constantly critiques me and criticizes me when I am pleasing him sexually. I always listen to his suggestions but he just totally puts me down in the process. When I'm on top riding him he is constantly tries to take control. He always tells me he wants to spice things up more and try something new I feel like we've done everything. When I ride him he does not ever lay down and relax he constantly moves and rolls his hips around. He doesn't ejaculate most of the time when we do it. He only ejaculates when I give him handjobs for almost half an hour. When we first started dating he had a habit of getting himself off and watching porn during and after we had sex and he stopped but all the issues are still there. I don't know what else to do I feel like I've tried everything to please him I don't know what the issue really is and it hurts because I love him very much and want to work this issue out together but I don't know if we ever will. This is really starting to have a bad effect on me and I think it's affecting me more. I'm starting to have doubts. What if he's not sexually compatible with me.

[Bait3r]

For a lot of guys the porn can hurt a sex drive only because it's easier to please yourself than let others do it when you aren't communicating better. But I think this issue stems from not communicating. Look up constructive ways to communicate more than JUST sex. Start with stopping everything, including being on your phone and talk to him about your day and listen to his. The more comfortable he becomes the easier it will be to find what is really making such a rift between you in the boudoir. Communication is hard to overcome when it doesn't come naturally. Also, as a guy, just realize he might not have that high of a sex drive. I personally hit a time in my life where I wasn't even interested in having sex. That lasted about a year and my drive went back to normal. Hope I was helpful.

[ITKing]

How can y'all have a good sex life with all of the stuff you just mentioned?

You riding him and being in control isn't something he likes. To solve that problem just STOP riding.

Some people are impossible to please bc they will find fault with everything.

I think you should avoid sex with him for awhile and figure out if you really wanna deal with that forever.

It's odd for a man not to cum during sex... he probably isn't into you, bisexual on the DL etc...

What type of porn does he watch?

Your man seems to be the problem, not you.

Tell him you wanna try something new... like him not watching porn for a month.

Criticize his ass so he can see how you feel.

[candi_2000]

Hav you let him take control? Be totally submissive to him? Let him get rough with you, tie you up etc?

[truthbeknown]

You sound fine to me, he's the one with the problem.

[reptocarl]

Shame on you for keeping him thinking it’ll change

[Bombidil]

Sounds like the issue is with him not you based on what you have described. Really it sounds like it's time to have a serious conversation about the future of the relationship regarding intimacy. Maybe the heavy use of porn has altered his response.

[packers1055]

Um I don't know I would say try to find out what he likes not by asking but some other way. Maybe there's something you don't know.

[LastNightmare]

did you bite his cock head ever?

[masterkamasutra]

time to quit and move on.

[pitoresco]

To a very start, have a seriously conversation with him.

[Damien345]

Porn is his problem trust me if he will quit it it will lead to better orgasms and his is trying to spice it up because he sees it in porn. And trust me I m no religious person I have nothing against porn but it makes you less resposive to real beauty of sex

[parttime]

Will you marry me? Lol just kidding. Sounds like you're doing it right so I'd ask him why he's not satisfied!!

[Anonymous]

"He only ejaculates when I give him handjobs for almost half an hour. When we first started dating he had a habit of getting himself off and watching porn during and after we had sex and he stopped but all the issues are still there."
Your boyfriend is addicted to porn and because of the amount of porn he watches, he has actually trained himself to only ejaculate from masturbation ( ie handjobs, only getting of to porn) subconsciously.