All I can say is thank god I've never had a girlfriend who thinks like this.My mind is my own. If I want to look at and fantasize about other women in my own head, that's none of her business. What's her business in this regard stops at how I treat her in my relationship, and how I act around other women.I'd certainly never try to thought-police anyone I ever gave a shit about, that's for damn sure.
We'll in this particular case he propositioned a friend of his while slightly drunk.. So I'm wondering if fantasising about his female friends consciously and perhaps regularly is exacerbating that urge?
Nah. I've always fantasized about having sex with friends of girlfriends, and I've never hit on one ever, no matter how drunk I was, because I didn't want to actually fuck them in reality. But if your boyfriend is actually hitting on other girls, it's because he wants to actually fuck them. Huge difference between fantasy and desire.
Thank - that's the clarification I needed - not nice to hear it but it's not like I can talk to anyone I know about this. Cheers
And I'm honestly the same - I'll fantasize about it but would never do anything about it..
Yes. Porn is a tool like an erotic story or a vibrator. Don't be afraid of porn. Use porn to enhance his and your sex life. It is especially good as foreplay for getting into the mood for instance. :)
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If a man doesn't watch porn... he is strange. Lol. I get it... some men don't watch porn for religious reasons and that's fine. I am in a relationship now and I watch porn. My girlfriend watches porn as well. We sometimes watch porn together and it also gives us ideas to try out.
Porn ok maybe to get new ideas in the bedroom. but saving pictures of other female friends no
Yeah I honestly don't have a problem with porn - I watch a big myself.. It's the female friends that I tugs at my thoughts.
Now the female friends pictures that should have gone when y'all started talking or at least when y'all started dating
He was friends with this particular female friend before he met me - and told me that he honestly found her extremely attractive.. I ask if he wouldn't mind removing her from his social media (he hadn't spoken to her in 2 years so they weren't really friends anymore).. He removed her from fb but not snapchat or instagram.. Then I saw (honestly by accident and he knew I was looking at photos on his phone for pictures of our dog) pictures he'd saved of her basically half naked.. Is that him being decietful because he doesn't want to remove her from his "porn" stash? Why can't he just used porn sites?
To be honest tell him to try porn300. com it's a good porn site I use it it's better than pictures
He watches a reasonable amount of porn - I'm just hopeful that he isn't interesting in this girl for reasons other than he looks.
Yes and no. I believe a guy can get all that satisfaction from his partner, but some guys need diversity in their minds, to mix things up a little. Plus what about when he needs to get down but you are unavailable to the task for whatever reason? Then he at least has something (Although porn should've sufficed, but I've always found the real self pictures more arousing)
Question: Are you getting all the sexual pleasure you need? If not yes if you are no. If you are the type of woman who thinks of sex as a chore he knows no matter how you act in bed. If he's asking you if you're faking orgasms you are. If you're jealous of his sex drive because yours isn't the same its because your not cumming. Tighten that pussy up do some exercises.
Porn yes.. you should share interests or try to watch with him. You could learn a lot of fun and insightful techniques, as far as pics of other girls goes I assume they are of past or personal significance which is not cool. You should put your foot down on that one.
Agreed - I actually enjoy watching porn. But do have a problem with the female friends..
Viewing porn is visual masturbation, whether or not there is physical play and is harmless unless his tastes are "dark". Saving pictures of female friends for "private viewing" is problematic.
Guys aöways watch porn. Not because they miss something. If you are in a great relationship, you still watch romantic movies. That doesn't mean you want the guys in that movies
Yes, he may do. Chances are you won't always be providing all the satisfaction he needs. I realise it's a female thing to believe otherwise though.
A little porn might be ok as long as it's not affecting his performance but private photos of female friends should be a definite no-no.
Performance no, regularity perhaps. I just don't know how to broach this subject - again - worn-out reinventing the wheel.
Have you discussed this with him many times in the past? If so try shrieking hysterically at him at your loudest volume. Perhaps that will register with positive effect:) Best take this with a grain of salt though. The idea that I'm offering online relationship advice to 26yo girls is pretty hilarious. I wish you luck!
Yes, it's normal. Guys are visual creatures. We love looking at women. It's not meant as disrespect to you.
What does it matter where he gets his appetite as long as he eats at home?
I guess it's the worry that it might turn into something else. Especially when it's a friend and not just a porn sight. I think my situation is also coloured by the fact that he tried to get with a female friend of his a couple of months back.. I'm worried looking at sexual pictures of his female friends is likely to exacerbate that "urge"... But I guess if he cheats, he cheats and then at least I know where I stand. Just confusing when he's all "I love you, etc etc "
He has full nudes of female friends?
Half nudes.. So I'm even more worried because it's less "sex" and more "suggestive"... Implying he likes her more than just porn fodder? Eh so confusing.
What is half nude? Topless?
Like undies on.. Tops on.. mirror selfie type shots. Sexy but not nude
If a guy is completely happy with his Chevy or Ford family car, would he still look a Porsches, Lamborghinis, muscle cars or Hummers?
OK I get the car reference and don't have a problem with him watching porn - totally get it. What about saving pictures of his female friends?
I too have a 50 yr old BW photo of me and my crush, at 16. That doesn't mean I'd want her now.
He never dated this girl.. But he knew her.. It just seems different to me from porn.. Or does it make no difference? How do you know if there are "feelings" there or if it's just "porn". And if he lied about having the photos.. Is that because he's afraid of my reaction? I'm actually pretty chilled.. Just nervous
You know your boyfriend better than I do. Talk about it, WITHOUT jealousy or anger.
I've spoken to him twice before and I'm generally pretty calm about it - I want to know where he's coming from... I just think he doesn't know/can't express it.
Yes, he should be getting all of that from you. Not other girls.
I think yes it is normal as men like to see any beautiful body whether in real life or porn.
It's Not the Same. Sometimes a man needs some time for His own.
Nope I don’t care what any other guy says.
Why do people order fries with their burger?
Even when you’re getting every need fulfilled you still like to look at different things, even just for comparison knowing you have it good, porn is just fantasy so guys will occasionally look at that even when they have someone but it doesn’t mean anything
Guys will always watch porn regardless of a relationship. You think just because he is dating you, he isn't sexually attracted to other girls? We aren't demisexual like women.
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