It's not so much the quantity versus the distribution. They could have slept with 6 people, but if those 6 were all within long-term (2+ year) relationships, that's fine. They could've slept with 3 people, but if those 3 were all careless hook-ups that happened within a 1-2 month period, that's not so fine.
10.5... the 0.5 is for a midget. :/
Have you had your 0.5?
No, she's not interested. lolnicholiovich.files.wordpress.com/.../...ripper.jpg
🙈that feels so wrong
Don't know; haven't gone to that extreme. Maybe I'll put it in my bucket list someday but that's decades away.If I change my mind, my sis has a booster seat she can lend me.
😂 you’re a pig xo
If i take her out to eat, it's 1/2 off for the kids meal. haha
Why not just feed her off your plate #cheapromance
She's not my pet you know. duh lolBuying her drinks will be cheaper and buying her a kids ticket to the movies will save me some dough.When I go camping, I can just stick her in my backpack and be off. :/
If it walks like a pet and quacks like a pet... 😐
You don't swap spit with a pet.
You know we’re going to hell right?
I was already at the DMV last week. I won't have to go back and renew my drivers license till next year.
Thanks for MHO! Hard to believe 1-3 is the limit for some. :-o
I know right? Maybe people who prefer virginity have chosen that though
Have an opinion?
past is past
I don't judge any potential woman I am with by how many people she has or hasn't slept with.It's part of her life experiences, she's welcome to tell me or not.However, I think it's childish to say someone wouldn't meet my "standards" over her past. Clearly I would already be interested so why change it on that?
For some it literally changes in an instant knowing a number
I know, I just don't agree that it should have any bearing on anything.
If a guy can give you an exact number, I have to wonder how pathetic it is for anyone to feel the need to keep count. If his heart is in the right place and you two are good for each other. What difference does it make?
I guess everyone has different values and deal breakers... even the poll is fairly spread over a range of what people find acceptable (though near impossible to marry it up to the age of the voter) so for some it just *does* make a difference 🤷🏻♀️
I have never wondered enough to ask. The past shapes a person, but does not force them to stay the same. If she is true to me now, that is all that matters.
I don’t care how many people my partner has slept with as long as they’re std free but I guess I’d be abit put off if they regularly liked having causal sex with no commitment because they wouldn’t be my type of person I doubt, as I’m not like that.. so I don’t tend to get along with people like that. But I mean Like id say 20 people is where I’d start thinking they’re probably promiscuous if they’re only in there 20s.
I know some people who would happily take anything anyone throws at them but have slept with barely anyone so sometimes how many people someone has slept with doesn’t really mean as much as you’d think.. if someone has been in lots of relationships and slept with them all meaning 10+ but then someone has never had a relationship but had sex like with 5 people with no strings attached I’d think of the person who has relationships more suitable to what I’m looking for even though they’ve slept with more people but it’s just what I think lol.
It's not so much than quantity, but the quality, really.If she's only slep with five people, but they were all drunken bar hookups; that's going to be a problem for me, because it sounds like she doesn't place much value on sex. I'd also worry that she couldn't control herself, if she went to the bar/club.Consequently, if she's been with ten guys, but they were all during commited relationships, then that wouldn't be a problem. People can enter into a relationship, and value commitment, but just get unlucky in love.
I love this response. That's pretty much what I was gonna say.
I agree as well, it depends what the number entails at the end of the day and not just whether or not it’s a high or low number.
I don't think most people care about the "number" as much as they care about the nature of the sex."Number" is just a go-to statement, since most people who aren't promiscuous/don't engage in casual sex won't have very high number in the first place.Although, too high of a number (5~10 depending on their age) does start to sound a bit like a pattern, and I personally wouldn't be able to prevent myself from doubting the sincerity of the person's presumed romantic commitments.
Maybe like 20+ is too much? I have nothing against people who hook up with lots of different people, but for a relationship I'd personally prefer for someone to be on around the same level as me. Though I could see myself making an exception if the guy is pretty perfect for me.
1 partner for every 3 years as an adult. So, 1 partner at ages 18 to 20, 2 partners at 21 to 23, etc. Up to a max of 5. If it is more, then they must keep making bad decisions. But if any were hook ups/ONS then I don't want them.
That’s a good point, I agree.
Even just one or two hook ups at a young age? What if they hooked up a couple times between 20-24 and realized they didn't like it at all? I understand why it's unattractive but I can understand doing it once or twice just to see if it's worth it.
Just to clarify sorry, you’d prefer 3 failed relationships a year from 18 to 35 (so 51 people) over someone who engaged in a few ONS as a potential partner?
@Wonderer89 My interpretation of what he said is one relationship for every 3 years (not 3 in 1 year) and with a maximum of 5 so nowhere near 51. And with all of those being relationships and no hookups/ONS. I'm in general agreement with that, though I acknowledge that people make mistakes and learn from them so I could overlook a couple hookups/ONS if it seemed that she was no longer interested in that. I'd also allow for a few more relationships when she was younger and less as she got older. I can imagine relationships failing fairly often at 18-21 but If she was still going through guys at a rate of 1 per 3 years by age 35 or 40, I'd have to wonder whether she's learning anything from the failed relationships and/or has no interest in long-term commitment.
@CallMeDave good catch 😊 definitely read wrong there thanks
The number doesn't matter as long as she's committed to me and she's got no STDs. If anyone retorts saying such a woman has no respect for herself, please take your old-fashioned gender roles and your insecurities you project on to others, lube them up and stick the sun don't shine.
What I've always found interesting is that we analyze every aspect of a person's past when figuring out if they would make an ideal partner. However when it comes to a persons sexual history some folks think it shouldn't matter. I disagree. Your sexual history can say a lot about an individual. If a girl (or guy but I'll use girl bc that's who I date) goes out gets drunk and hook up with random guys. I'm not going to date her. I think that sort of behavior/lifestyle for both men and women is totally irresponsible with the large number of stds being transmitted. Also, I would see her as less committed or stable for a long-term relationship. With the high divorce rates , you have to be more critical of one's character when choosing a partner because just saying "the past is the past" isn't cutting it these days. This goes for both genders.
Exactly lol. We analyze all facets of a person’s past but not their SEXUAL history? Lmao
But what’s your number? I understand analysing the behaviour - I’m talking about a specific number for your cut off
If she's around my age...3
I don't want her to have slept with more than me lol. But neither do i want someone completely inexperienced. At my age anything between 5 and 10 would be fine. When we got together at 24 she had 4 previous.
Not an jmportant metric for me, except in how a woman answers it. When a woman is ashamed or embarrassed to tell her number, whether it's high or low, is a red flag to me that they're insecure about they're sexuality and/or don't want to admit to their own sexuality. I like to see a woman that's open you discussing the number, whatever it is.
It really doesn't phase me, I know that some people go through phases and also the older they are more likely it'lll be more, so there's different factors!
I don't think there is a numerical value so much as there is a rationalization. If you've slept with 10 people but you're 50 it's not the same as if you've slept with 10 people but you're 15.
At your own age, for the age bracket you tend to date in
Let's just both pretend I never answered.
😉 sure thing
As a general rule, 10+ is a dealbreaker for me. I thought even after being with several women myself, I wouldn’t care about the whole sexual body count thing, but I still care about it when it comes to love only. If it’s a hookup, I don’t care. Someone needs to explain the biology of this to me one day, someone who actually knows biology well lol.
I don't think it has much to do with biology, probably has more to do with social conditioning, upbringing etc.
Almost everything is rooted in biology, EVERYTHING. Personality is even heritable
god you're a funny bastard mate, I love you.
Thank you Adonis, I love you too
Who the hell is sleeping with 41+ people? Who has that kind of time?
A new person every month for a couple of years? Doesn’t seem like a lot of time
True, assuming it's a new person every month. But I think sex gets better with the same person over time.
I actually wouldn't ask her something like that (nor did I even when I was young). It really doesn't matter to me.
I voted for 7-10, but that's a preference and not a hard limit. I evaluate potential partners based on what they are now, not what they were at some time in their past. High numbers concern me because of possible lack of long term commitment and possible higher cheating risk, but are not an absolute deal breaker. I once got involved with someone who didn't even know her number but thought it was probably in the mid-to-high 20s. Though I was initially uncomfortable with that, she seemed mature and I felt a connection so I didn't let the number stop me. She turned out to be a very committed partner and not the same person that ran up those numbers in the past so before long I stopped even really thinking much about the number.
I've only been with my ex husband and I'm 28... Lol and I'm proud xD
Don't really care so long as they at least clear this criteria. They are STD free, I'm still clean and I very much like to keep it that way.
Depends on her look and personality. If she's a really outgoing girl then 4, maybe 5. If she's the shy and closed girl then 3 or 4.
Honestly don't care. I dont tell my true number so why would I judge someone else for sexual experiences
It's more how easily she sleeps with guys and how easy she is than the actual number.
I don't care as long as the pussy isn't a swamp of diseases.
I don't care if a woman slept with many men as longas she's disease-free that's all matters to me.
Doesn't matter since I've slept with my fair share of women
Anything under 10 is totally understandable. 11-20 is starting to push it, like why did she need to sleep with more than 10 guys by the age of 27? If she was a great person I would consider dating her. But especially if it was closer to 20, it would make me think she can't make up her mind and just wants to fuck lots of people, and wouldn't be committed to me. Unless this behavior was something that she only did as a younger version of herself... like if she hasn't done it in 5+ years, I might be fine with that. But if some of these 20 fucks are recent, then I'm going to be way too skeptical of her intentions to be in a relationship.It's not a matter of principle or feeling jealous or anything like that. I just don't want her to get tired of me and find someone else to have sex with when I still want to be with her, but if her history is having sex with 2 people per year, then it's most likely that she will find someone new within the next year.
The older someone is the more I can understand more partners too. Like 10 by the age of 27 is reasonable (even though that's less than me). Maybe 12 by the age of 30. 10 by the age of 21 is scary.
Err, sorry I meant 10 by 27 is more than me. But yeah still not crazy
As long as she doesn't have any std's I don't care how many guys she's slept with
I don't think it matters how many people you've slept with.
It shouldn't matter. If one except you, rest of the count doesn't matter
Preferably 0. 1-3 is yes. 4 is pushing it. I may not be their first, but I want to be their last...
Depends on their age. I suppose I can accept one partner for each year of her life. To some that sounds like an awful lot, but for modern women, it's practically a nun.
Well definitely Not 41+, I Don't Want Aids Or STD's.
They aren’t synonomous
How many you been with
They aren't What
@Mattbowles None Of Yo Business Lol
Love had no limits. You are the only one with the keys to the vehicle that'll dribe you to the next location. If you feel that the trip/distance is too high or far by all means park the car. If you feel its worth the ride continue driving until you can't drive any longer. Sex is physical, where is that person mentally? Are they willing to slowdown on having so many partners? You gotta be able to sense these things before making even getting in the vehicle. I believe its called Inspection. Is it worth putting this car on the road. If not should you look else where.
Short answer: Depends on her age, but below 10 by my age.
I personally don’t ask girls for their number of partners, nor do I care to hear the details. I just figure they most likely had sex with other people before me and as long as they don’t have an STD or kids then I’m cool. What matters most is how they treat me in the present. If anything, I find it a turnoff when a girl starts sharing her sexual past with me early on, like on the first date, which has happened to me before. It just makes me think what is possessing you to tell me this. Even if a girl only had 2 partners, I still don’t care to hear about how the sex was with past partners or the guy’s size. It’s a two way street really.
41+ haha id like to meet that girl. She would be a pro.
My limit is zero.
I really don't have a set limit.
I don't care how many people she slept with.
It doesn't matter to me unless I am being loved.
None is only acceptable for me...
Have you ever threw a toothpick in a volcano?
If you've slept with 30+ women. That's a no no.
When the innie becomes an outtie.
What if the outtie becomes an innie?
Eh like more than 3.
Vote for 4-6
It doesn't bother me but I know it bothers most guys so it's important for a girl to keep low numbers as not to damage her future prospects with a quality man.
honestly i don't set a limit - so long as they are STD free and i like them. i wouldn't want to date someone who has an STD, i have done that before
I have a lot of partners but most guys don’t care. I wear protection and get tested for STIs as soon as we are done having sex
Around 10 I guess, I’m only at 6 myself
I don't care. Like seriously it's all in the past, the important thing is for them to be with me and only with me in the present.
Most men think a girl that’s been with over 10 guys is a slut.
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