Would You Leave Your Man If The Sex Wasn't Good?

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Would You Leave Your Man If The Sex Wasn't Good?

I've been seeing this girl for nearly 10 months now, and our relationship has been great. We decided to wait to have sex until we got further along in our relationship, which was tough for both of us, but made us closer. We started having sex last month, after 9 months of dating. I only see her 2 times a week (due to work), but we usually spend all day together when we are together. So far, we have only had sex 4 times.

I'm 26, lost my virginity 2 years ago, and only had a handful of one night stands from Tinder. She's 22, and she has had boyfriends and one night stands, so she is sexually experienced and know what she wants/what she likes.

-When we first had sex with her, I lasted 25 minutes.

-When I had sex with her the 2 other times, it was after work, I was really tired and wasn't really to into it, so I lasted 2-3 minutes.

-When we tried to have sex tonight, we had a lot of foreplay (for about 20 minutes) and she began grinding her vagina against my penis for about 5 minutes and then I came. I tried to finish her off by giving her head/rubbing her clit, but she said she wants me to get her off through vaginal sex. So, I told her to give me some time so I can recharge. We then tried having sex again and I couldn't get it up this time. After we stopped trying, she was super quiet and when I asked her what was wrong, she told me that she was disappointed that the sex hasn't been all that. She said that I haven't lasted that long that last few times and she really wanted to get off through vaginal sex. She told me she loved me and would never leave me over sex, but we need to work on it.

If I'm tired or if I have a lot on my mind during sex or if I feel pressured... I am not going to last long. I feel like women put a lot of pressure on men to be extremely good at sex and women need a lot to get off.

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Also... it's not that I'm "bad". We do a lot of foreplay before sex (touching, sucking, eating out, fingering, kissing all over, etc). It's easy for me to make her cum through foreplay, but she also wants sex after foreplay. If she makes me cum during foreplay, then I'm typically good for the rest of the time and it makes it difficult for me to get "up" again for sex, which is what happened tonight.
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I also remember a time, when I was with 2 different hookups (before I met the girl I am dating)... they got mad at me for lasting 5 minutes. So, I purchased a penis numbing duration spray and was able to last 30-40 minutes. Of course, I wasn't able to feel any of the sex, but the women got off.
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